Ok to give you a brief history run dow. My BF and I have lived together for 2.5 years we have been together for 3. He has a group of friends who I get along with for the most part except 2 (who are a couple) These guys talk **** about me to the other friends, they are fairly rude to me most of the time. I have never, of my knowledge, done anything to these people but be nice. I put on a smile and say hi, I have even helped them out a few times. We usually fight at the end of the evenings out with these people because I am usually really stessed by the end. He always blames it on me that I am just making to much out of nothing and over reaccting. This issue has almost broke us recently and it still might, but the problem is we have other issues and he never address' any of our problems as a couple they are always just the things that I do wrong,or says why they are my fault. I love him and want to make this work, but I am at a loss, its hard, over something so stupid, any ideas.
2006-07-28 06:04:15 · 6 answers · asked by kristig79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went through a similiar situation, where we had friends that were putting strain on our relationship. so we sat down and talked and asked ourselves what was more important, them or our relationship? This friends of yours are not even good "Friends", so why do you even need them around. IF your BF cares enough for you, he will come to an agreetment and jsut slowly start to back away from these two friends. you need to talk to ur Bf how you feel, why is he always blaming you for things. usually that's a reflection of his feeligns. i found now, that a BF I had use to do that because he no longer had strong feeligns for me and just wanted a reason to fight. if he's mature, you guys will slowly come to a solution. if this relationship is causing you too much trouble, even after you guys have tried to work it out, then maybe is time to reconsider. plus both of you have to want to improve, otherwise is just going to fall into pieces.
2006-07-28 06:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds self centered and uninterested about your feelings. Its called immaturity. Put it straight to him that you expect more understanding and thoughtfulness or things simply won't work the way they are. A boyfriend is a boyfriend. A husband is a different matter. Don't take it up a notch without being sure.......
2006-07-28 13:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are 2 that are jealous of you being with their friend, in any case, I wouldn't let them gt to me. Let them say what they will as long as you love him and he loves you. Otherwise you are really going to cause alot more stress on your relationship than you need.
Don't get mad, laugh about it, once they see it doesn't bother you anymore, they'll stop! I have a sister in law like that, and thats what I did and now she doesn't know what to say.
2006-07-28 13:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. Try sitting down (without friends) and tell him how you feel. That way you both can get a lot off of your chests.
2006-07-28 13:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with yr bf to have a calm & composed talk & be less acquianted with yr bf friends if they show no respects for you.yes,it is in fact hard on you but you should overcome with dignity & pride,go out to make new friends to refresh yrself.
2006-07-28 13:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best bet is Communication. talk to him whe you two have a night alone and try and make him see how you feel, he might understand then.
2006-07-28 13:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by someoneelse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋