how do you decipline your kids?

Answer 1

I think time outs would work if the parents are CONSISTANT about the whole thing. I think it's harder than spankings. Here is how my husband and I spank our children:

answer: out of pure love-
never out of anger,
never with a raised voice.
Firmly, but not to hard.
with consistancy
I spank my children for 3 things, and 3 things only:
1. Lying
2. Disobedience (I mean obeying your voice the 1st time)
3. bad attitudes

If they got these 3 down pat, they will be very well-behaved children. Very pleasant to be around. When one of these 3 things are broken, I get the paddle (wooden spoon usually), and they must touch the bed, and stand still to get their spankings. Usually about 2 or 3 firm ones. Enough to sting. Depends on the crime. I hate lying more than anything, so they might get about 7 of those for lying. Then, after the spanking session is over, I ask them why they got spanked. They must tell me why, or some kind of communiction went wrong. Then they must say they are sorry, and name the thing they got spanked for. Saying "I'm sorry" is not enough. They must say "I'm sorry for _______". Then I give them a hug, love them up, and tickle them or something to keep the communication lines open. never tell them to go to their room after you spanked because they will just think of reasons why that was so unfair, or why they were right, and you were wrong. Yes, spanking must be administered in love. Never spank for accidents, or things like they are just being kids- such as running around, or being loud or things like that (unless you tell them to stop- then that would be disobeying.) I am a mother of three, and have peaple begging me to babysit my kids because they are happy, sweet, enjoyable children. Perfect??? Haaa!!! NOPE!!! But they are enjoyable to be around for the most part. I love them, and spend time with them, read them books on free time.

Hope this helps- and a key word is CONSISTANT- don't spank them for something one day, and let them get away with it tomarrow, or this method won't work. It's not easy, but rewarding.

Answer 2

I have seen the difference between kids that get spanked and kids that don't. It's night and day.

I never yell at my son. Sometimes I want to but instead I take a deep breath and count to ten. I tried time outs which did not work. Now we do spanks. But I spank him and then tell him I love him and explain why I did it.

Now I've found all I need to do is threaten half the time and he calms down. I think spanks and calm demeanor is better than parents who yell or threaten and never follow through. Your kids have to respect you and learn their boundaries.

Answer 3

Teach them respect, love GOD, to be obedient to you, mom
and dad.

I think if you explain them the reasons why, they won't
likely understand you. They can fall asleep as you
talk to them. They are pretty young to discern or
comprehend the right way. They will go for the
easiest way which unfortunately it is not always
the best one.

GO TO THE OLD SCHOOL:
You must spank them nicely the way they realize what
they are doing is not right. Do not Hurt them, but let
them know you love them and they must amend their
ways until now they are heading to.

Teach them to love others, to obey you, their parents,
to study and give hapiness to those less does not know
it or have it.

Pray GOD for them. They will be the promise of this world
in the hard years to come for all of us.

Answer 4

I talk to them, no yelling, no spanking.
I tell them why they should do certain things, and why is not good they behave certain way.
I talk, I explain.
Sometimes I have to raise my voice after I have explained. Sometimes I have to use warnings. Always I do what I promise and what I warned if the bad behavior does not stop.
No lectures during crying moments.
A lot of kisses and hugs when they do something good without being asked.

Answer 5

I remembered that discipline means 'to teach.' I remember that hitting is counter-productive, lowers iq, teaches it's okay for loved ones to hurt you, causes resentment, and doesn't work. I rememebr that because i nursed my children and didn't leave them in substitute care, they are attached and very motivated to please. I remember that I need to explain calmly and clearly what I expect and reward them with compliments when they behave as required. I remember their stages are important for development and I respect and admire those states.

I make sure they get enough attention every day (15 minutes of every hours for kids 3 and under, and lots of time every day after that) and that i listen listen listen to them.

Give respect, get respect. It's elementary.

Answer 6

Consistency is they key to discipline. You have to do the same thing every single time, don't let them get away with something one time and then decide to punish them for it at another time. Kids want guidance and they need to have limits set for them. Stick with it no matter what form of discipline you choose.

Answer 7

I taught them to fear God at a very young age. They never want to disapoint the Big Guy! Sometimes my terrible toddler has to get his butt spanked and be sent to his room. You know what they love the most. Take it away when they act up. Once I prettended to cry when my toddler was being bad. IT WORKED! He hated to see his mama cry so bad that he cried!