doesn't it seem......?

Question

I don't mean to rant or anything, but doesn't it seem like relationships in general have lost a lot of their meaning? How many one-day and one-week relationships have you seen or heard about? I mean really, infatuation doesn't guarantee that there is something there for a relationship. Shouldn't you get to know someone for more than a day or two before you want to be in a close relationship? Shouldn't you look for more than just someone's looks when deciding whether or not you want to be with them? And finally, don't you want to really care about someone before you commit yourselves to them?

Answer 1

You are true my man, but think about the media in all of this. Shows like Next and blind date, celebrities who only stick together for no more than a few months, the divorce rate. All this gets fed to younger generations that most likely grow with the idea that marriage and commitment isn't sacred anymore.

Answer 2

It seems that when people jump into relationships for the wrong reasons they never seem to last long or end up ending on really bad terms. You can tell when people are serious about each other and they care for each other and whether or not they have known each other prior to becoming a couple. I don't believe that you can be in a close relationship with someone that you haven't known for less than 2 days. I think things like that come with time. I have a totally different perspective on relationships than most people and I guess that is what makes me different and not ending up in alot of relationships. I think that you should get to know someone and be able to develop a trusting bond with that person before you end up getting a relationship with someone . That way you know what you are getting yourself into. I don't believe that looks matter because everyone gets old within time and everything will either wrinkle up or sag to your knees. I don't think that you can commit yourself to someone unless you care about them. I am sure that today relationships are losing their meaning because people get involved for the wrong reasons and when they do they will not last because there is no love there to be able to conquer all .

Answer 3

All of what you said has meaning, but there must first be some type of attraction with any relationship. When looking for someone to date if you don't know them; why would you talk to them in the first place..., because you were attracted. Be it for their mind, money or looks. Then for everyone out there dating everyone has different standards and morals. This is why some people sleep with others so soon or hold out till later. Your standards just might be a little higher than the people you see or hear about.

Answer 4

I completely agree with you. It's like you have to be in a "relationship" at all times. It doesn't matter how long it lasts or even if it's meaningful. I think all of the things you've stated are why the divorce rate is so high. People say they're in love, get married, and then realize that they don't really know or love each other. I think if people really considered what it takes to love someone and be in a committed relationship, you'd see fewer short-term relationships.

Answer 5

You are ranting. You have a point, but I don't think that relationships in general have lost their meaning. People might go through one-day and one-week relationships, but this teaches them to not rush things. It teaches them that they should get to know people before they date them.

And as for looks, you first notice people with their looks. I'm pretty sure most people dont tell themselves, "I'm gonna go look for a guy with a great personality today!" Maybe if you're attracted to that person, you'll be more willing to learn about them. I'm not saying personality isn't important - it's very important - but it's not everything [just like how looks aren't everything].

Answer 6

ok, so the answer to all the qustions is yes.... Infatuation is all about sexual chemestry- that really does not mean that you would actually want to have a conversation with that person. People put too much in emphysis on the chemestry an not enough on the substance of a relationship. Why bother with someone you don't care about?

Answer 7

Good insight, but you already know the answer to the questions. Of course we should get to know someone and look beyond the exterior before falling head over heels sometimes. But if you don't do it at least once, then you don't know what youre missing. I'm not reccomending it to anyone, im just saying if you don't fall at least once, then how will we help the ones coming up behind us? Plus if never did that, then we would never appreaciate a good, long-lasting relationship.

Answer 8

I agree with you that you should get to know someone for a while before starting anything serious. And.. that looking past physical appearance is a very good idea. I am sure many people have been "burnt" by a person who they found physically attractive who turned out to be using them.

Answer 9

The nature of a relationship is defined by who each of the people are in relation to eachother. A king and a house maid will have a different relationship than a cheerleader and a football jock.

Answer 10

No mater what it shows here in answers In my personal experance the girls say No way to often. It is like they are afraid to even try a relationship because they are afraid of rejection or somthing.
I feel that you can not really know somone well enough to say that you want to be with them for the rest of your life untill you have been with them for about a year.
That way you have seen the girl without her make up and her hair done and she has seen you iat your worst as well as your best.
The marry now and devorce tommarow world that we live in today is not the one that I was brought up in.