He was so sweet, thoughtful and romantic three years ago. Now I can do no right. He yells, cusses, and complains about everything. And I can't remember the last time we kissed. He said he knows he's changed and that I should just get used to it, but I can't. What is going on?
2006-07-28 05:43:53 · 12 answers · asked by evilcharm1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Option #1: Is anything in his life really stressful right now. Sometimes people who are stressed get mad about the little things for no reason. He might be taking things out on you and not even meaning to.
Option #2: He wants to break up with you but doesn't want to do it himself so he won't feel guilty so he is trying to push you away by being mean so you will dump him.
Option #3: This is who he really is. Maybe in the beginning he was trying to swoon you over and now that you are his he feels like you aren't going anywhere so he can be himself. (even if it is mean).
Try telling him how you feel and see what he says. If that doesn't really work you might want to do is play a little hard to get and seem a little unavailable. If he wants you he will try harder to win you back if he feels he is loosing you. If he doesn't..maybe he doesn't really care. Good luck girlie, I know how you feel!
2006-07-28 05:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 30⤊ 2⤋
normal reasons (in no particular order):
1. both of you evolved separately in the last 3 years - now he's a different person, as are you - and he sees nothing of value in the relationship
2. work pressures/ career problems - not related to you at all, but you're just handy to blow off steam
3. any addictions?
4. whats been your reaction to his ranting? if you've been a hellcat (not that being one is a bad thing!) often that can set off a second round of chaos
2006-07-28 12:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by justryingtouseupallthecharacters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to put up with that (especially sinse ya'll aren't married). Have more respect for yourself. He obviously doesn't want to be in the relationship anylonger and is too chicken to say so. Dump him. Life is worth more than his unwillingness to love you for who you are. God will put Mr. Right in your path when the time is right. You focus on your education and making a good life for yourself.
2006-07-28 12:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt like you anymore, trust me im a guy.
But since he's a guy he doesnt know how to say it, so he acts this way. Ask him if he wants to continue the relationship and if he is willing to change "or make an effort".
IF NOT, GET YOURSELF ANOTHER BOYFRIEND.
2006-07-28 12:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by DJ_Netmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKAY, THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION, BUT HAVE YOU CONSIDERED THE FACT THAT HE MAY BE having an affair? MAYBE THIS ISN'T THE PROBLEM, BUT IF THE CHANGE OF ATTITUDE WAS THAT SUDDEN THEN TRY TO THINK
HAVE YOU DONE SOMETHING TO ANGER HIM?
YOUR QUESTIONS MAKES ME THINK YOU HAVEN'T DONE SOMETHING TO ANGER HIM. AS FAR AS I CAN TELL YOU ARE TRYING TO PLEASE HIM, BUT HE RESPONDS IN A NEGATIVE WAY. KEEP TRYING. TRY TO ASK HIM AND TALK TO HIM. TALKING CAN LEAD TO SOLUTIONS MOST OF THE TIME. IF THAT DOESN'T WORK OUT TRY SEPARATION. LEAVE HIM, YOU DESERVE BETTER.
2006-07-28 12:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by norabb_14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is honest to admit that he is a changed man & asking you to accept him as what he is now? suggest you to seriously re-consider yr relationship,should you both have a Ãool Down Period"maybe for 3-6 months.
2006-07-28 12:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is sick of you and doesn't have the stones to break up with you. Maybe he is one of those guys who believes that, if he acts like a complete jerk, he can make you break up with him and he won't have to bear any guilt for the failure of the relationship.
2006-07-28 12:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's moved on mentally..maybe you should sit him down and talk to him tell him that if he doesnt change its over â¥
2006-07-28 12:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it obvious to you? He is bored with you and he is taking you for granted. Why should you get used to his sh*t? He is a jerk and jerks should be dumped.
2006-07-28 12:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are always like that...nice and sweet in the beginning,,,and then couple of months after,,,they'll change completely..
**sigh men!
2006-07-28 12:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by katrina_mendoza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋