i said some mean stuff about this really really sweet and undeserving guy behind his back, and i feel like crap about it, and i should, it was bitchy, but now there was a leak in the info and either the person i said it to, who said it first, has told my sister and she is pissed at me, because the sweet guy and her have a relationship, or she heard us talking. what can i do to make it all work out!!!
2006-07-28 05:40:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should apologize. Ask your sister to set up a meeting and apologize to both of them.
But be careful. There's an old saying: "An enemy's insults are often the most accurate." Why were other people saying this about the guy? Does it have a grain of truth? If it does, then this sweet guy (sweet is usually the chick word for thoughtful) is probably gonna say "Am I really like that?" He's going to consider it if others were saying it.
You MUST have an answer for that. Not a lie. If its true, you must turn the answer into something positive. If its false, you must kill the concept completely.
That will be the difficult part.
Offering yourself to all his friends for an evening long gangbang will be the easy part. (lol, just kidding). Getting your sister's "sweet guy" past the group insult will be the hard part.
He's going to wonder why they and you were saying this. Be ready.
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2006-07-28 05:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by robabard 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You already sound sincere and contrite. I guess there was a lesson learned right? First of all the person you confided in was probably the leaker and that was wrong. But don't approach this person...let it pass.
Second of all...go to this sweet guy that you said the mean things about and apologize to him. Tell him that you know he knows and tell him you feel like the most horrible person on Earth. If the girlfriend is there too - then let her hear your apology as well. Tell him there was no reason for your insanity. Ask him if he will forgive you; more than likely, he will...and give him a huge hug...one that means so much and a kiss on the cheek - he'll never forgot that.
Lastly, the lesson here is - don't talk about people unless it's nice things. I've learned that you can't trust people - not even your best friends. I also believe "what goes around comes around" - is this what you want; someone to say mean things about you?
I too have friends that talk about other people and it makes me feel unconfortable. I try and change the subject quickly because it makes people sound so negative.
Although we say what we feel from the heart, some things are better left unspoken - especially mean things. But make this apology heartfelt.
My best to you and many blessings.
2006-07-28 06:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Fess up" to the truth. Get together with your sister and her guy and apologize for being a jerk. Don't try to explain away why you said what you did. Just admit that what you did was wrong, say that you are sorry, and ask for forgiveness. Honesty and humility will take you where you need to go and be a strong reminder the next time you consider saying something stupid and unkind.
2006-07-28 05:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you never should have said mean things about people you care about, but now that you have you need to apologize and take responsibility for your actions. Tell everybody the details so there are no misunderstandings so it can not get worse than it already is.
2006-07-28 05:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by meggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy & tell him what you said. Let him know it was probably hurtful at the time, but let him know your intentions behind what you said. For the most part when we say things about someone depending on our tone and conversation piece somethings can be taken out of context and sound more hurtful than what was actually meant.
2006-07-28 05:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by mrpuffandstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humble yourself and "apologize", to your sister and to the individual involved. They both will appreciate your actions. Even if they don't, at least you will know that YOU did the right thing.
Meanwhile...watch what you say. Remember: "Life and death are in the power of the tongue". You can tear someone down with your WORDS or you can build them up. Whichever one you choose will be returned to you! That's the way life is...what goes around comes around! Walk in kindness and love, and you will have the same returned to you!
2006-07-28 05:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to apologize to the guy, tell him you didnt mean it and didnt know what you were thinking, or say you were going through a rough time and were in a weird mood...as for your sister, if you do all that, it should make her not mad as well.
2006-07-28 05:43:40 · answer #7 · answered by Billy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a cow, taking your insecuritys out on an innocent persons nasty, and i bet you only said something nasty to make your self big and to get a snide laugh with your mates, you should go apologize to him and your sister and keep your nasty comments to yourself, and as for your friend she/he aint a friend at all if he cant keep something you say " in confidence" a secret
2006-07-28 05:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize, and tell him that you may have had PMS. Explain that even though your emotions or feelings didn't make sense, and he didn't deserve it, it seems real to you. Unless this is an utter fabrication.
2006-07-28 05:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
APOLOGIZE. You have to fess up and eat some crow. It's the only decent thing to do in this situation.
2006-07-28 05:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by anthonydavidpirtle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋