I met this guy through a mutual friend, and we became e-mail pen pals for six monthes. He would write me long letters everyday, and I would write them back. I met him, we had an amazing meeting. He told me I was like one he's ever met before, and I felt the same. He's a very hard worker, and has been planning something with his friend that is going to make it, so he has been working hard for a long time, so part of his life is wrapped up in things that kind of came before me. On our second date he asked me what he would do if I asked him to marry me, he wanted to know how devoted I was to him. He told me he wants to make a lot of money all the women in his life. He has a tendency when he is stressed with work or something in life to shut down and not speak or communicate with anyone, so sometimes I won't hear from him for a couple of days or a week or two, but now it has been a month He told me he is going through some problems and that he needs to "figure himself out".
2006-07-28 05:38:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Right we remain " just friends" because he dosn't want to " Take things fast and mess things up with me."
2006-07-28 05:39:33 · update #1
In my experience with men, there are three things I found to be true.
1. When a man says I need time to figure things out, I need to find myself or I'm confused, believe them and leave them alone. They are not in a place emotionally or mentally to be part of a couple with you or anyone else so don't wait. Find a man that wants you here and now. Stay friends by all means, but I would cut the emotion strings and for Gods sake, don't spend time thinking about it ( we all do it) that's just torture for you.
2. If in any relationship you spend even a portion of your time wondering what he's feeling or if he wants you -- He doesn't want you the way you need to be loved and wanted and you should move on to someone else who will.
3. When a man is not pursuing you it's because he doesn't want to. He's not reliving every moment the two of you had, second guessing himself or wondering what went wrong and neither should you. Chalk it up to experience. Next time you run into this kind of guy -- RUN FOR THE HILLS!
2006-07-28 05:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by micheller0116 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is interested in you and he is just scared and insecure to explore it right now. He may need to make sure that he can hold up on his end of the bargain. He may have problems that he wants to work out so he can prepare himself to be in a relationship with you. He has not totally cut you out of the picture if he told you that you are still a friend to him. I know that you two have not talked for a month, maybe he threw himself into his work to get things worked out for himself. He has sounds like he has issues that he has to work through before he is going to be able to take things a step further with you outside of a friendship. Give him some time and see what he does. Don't give up hope yet but don't completely hold yourself out for him either. Follow your heart.
2006-07-28 12:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by busyliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a winner. Do you want to be with someone who is going to shut you out everytime things go bad.
2006-07-28 12:45:14 · answer #3 · answered by jdscorrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think not, he only wants with you for sex.
So bettery be careful.............
2006-07-28 12:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋