For some odd reasons, i always get attached very easily.
Right now, I am kinda with a guy who i just started out as friends, and since he's moving to another country, our original intention was to just make the best of it and really enjoy the limited time we have together.We have never been official or anything like that because he's moving in such short amount of time. but we kiss and cuddle. But after few weeks of hanging out all the time, i found myself really attached to him and i just dont want him to leave...as a matter of fact, i even wake up in the middle of the night feeling really sad..
Why is that? It seems like i get attached so easily.. and it's driving me crazy. how do i get over him?
2006-07-28 05:30:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow..thanks everyone. i didnt' expect this question to get so many responses. it's just gonna be painful. and hopefully i will be able to find out what the void in my life is... and yeah i think i really want to be loved.. thats true
2006-07-28 06:17:02 · update #1
I don't mean this in a bad way, but you get attached so easily because you seek companionship on the whole. Somebody has walked out on you are somebody has catered to you, but the bottom line is you are missing something in your life and I think by getting attached so easily you some how associate that with feeling your void. I think you need to do some soul searching, and find out where this neediness comes from, because from what I have seen in the past with friends and family no man likes a needy women to be with him all the time to a point she does not have a life because she is just waiting for his free time to spend it with him.
2006-07-28 05:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no fix for a broken heart. You took the chance even when you knew he would be leaving, which is brave! Do you know how he feels about you? He might be feeling the same way. The hard part is at this point not knowing what it really could have been. I really feel for you! But, who knows maybe it will all work out. If it's meant to be it will be.
2006-07-28 12:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do the same thing.....I say each time that I am not going to let it happen again. Well, I do every time!! It really pi33es me off too! I think I am trying to fill a void in my life. I say that I want to be single for a while and live my own life without worrying about anyone else but, every time I find someone and seem to sink my teeth in them so deep that I end up getting hurt. I have dug pretty deep and it has to be my insecurities and inability to balls up and prove to myself once and for all that I can take care of myself.
My advice to you is do it now.....balls up and stand alone. Prove to yourself that you do not need someone to be happy. If you don't you may spend the rest of your life wondering if you could have stood on your own two feet.
2006-07-28 12:40:17 · answer #3 · answered by rayne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time helps heal broken hearts and I think you are a sensitive person who needs to meet more people and hang out with more then one friend. You are like so many of us and time is the answer and try not to listen too sad mucic and videos. Some things never change and I wish you well dear!
2006-07-28 12:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that too i know what your going threw. I think we both get attached easily because of the people we're with we have a strong bond for. That or we're both lovers at first sight kind of people.
2006-07-28 12:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by sugrdady03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of my female friends seem to do this. You need to keep a little more distance from your male friends. With kissing and cuddling you are virtually dating. So there is going to be an emotion cost. It can not be avoided.
2006-07-28 12:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by paul m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you spent too much time with him. Try focus on other things, open up get to know more guys and compare with your present one. I don't know why you feel sad, if you lose nothing to him unless you have committed sexual relationship with him. If, in this case, I rest my case, no point giving advice.
2006-07-28 23:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want to be loved. Best way to get over n e one is to stay busy and hang with friends. If you work out do it religously!
2006-07-28 12:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy Lu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone...i may be a guy, but i know that feeling entirely. there really isn't a good way to get over people, but you two could still be close friends and talk online or somethin...keep him as a friend and find someone new.
2006-07-28 12:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by Billy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi fLyMeT!!!!!!
c as far as i think 1 iz attached 2 a person but when dat person leaves u n go away ,4 a few months u feel bad but u get used 2 dat daily routine n den it doesn't matter....c i would advice u 1 thing....."IF U KEEP REGRETTING ABT UR PAST,IF U KEEP WORRYING ABT UR FUTURE DEN THERE WILL B NO TIME LEFT 4 ENJOYIN UR PRESENT".....i hope u can understand de msg hidden in dis proverb....so just njoy ur ;life n just chill buddy....dis iz only life.....dis iz de way i think now its upto u....tc...bye...sweet dreamz....
*****HoPE u liKEd My anS....*****
2006-07-28 12:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by $@LLu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋