I have expectations as far as genetics of my kids...for one, this guy is much shorter than I'd normally date. I want my kids to be athletic, and I'm not sure about that. Also, I'm worried about genetics. Further, he has some quirks that I find annoying, but he's overall a nice, caring guy. Am I being too picky or shallow?
2006-07-28 05:18:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As far as MY genetics (people have spoken to this), I come from a very athletic family, with several people playing professional sports.
2006-07-28 05:32:13 · update #1
The short answer: yes, you are being incredibly shallow. Genetic engineering by lay-persons is a hit and miss proposition at best, and arguably shouldn't even be attempted by so-called experts. Despite your best efforts to the contrary, you could have a child with a guy matching all of your prerequisites and still have a baby born with unforeseen defects or quirks. By your own admission this guy is an overall nice, caring guy...which speaks to his character; that's about as much of a guarantee as any of us are given in life. Genetic coaxing would factor out the Stephen Hawkings, Stevie Wonders, and Helen Kellers of the world, and seriously damage the rest of humanity in the process ( as we have all benefitted immeasurably by their contributions). We don't actually know what perfect is outside of our limited capacities to grasp the concept. The design of human beings is best left to God whose eye is constantly on the bigger picture. That being said, I sincerely wish health and vitality to any off-spring you produce. My comments were by way of example only. Just make sure you're not handicapped by your own perceptions. Good luck in all your future endeavors.
2006-07-28 05:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 13⤊ 3⤋
If he is nice and caring, then I personally feel that size or shape does not matter. If he was athletic does that mean your children will be athletic? He has quirks I think we all have something that could possibly annoy our mates. Look deep inside tha person the inner person is what matters. Not the outward appearance, I know some very nice looking people who are very shallow and have very little to offer in a relationship. Remember Beautys only skin deep. And if you Love this person what else really matters????
2006-07-28 12:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by liefsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, you're being a little shallow. You can't deside what your kids will want to do regardless of what mate you pick anyway. If yoiu're worried about how they'll turn out, pick someone who is devoted to children. That's far more difficult to find than "suitable" genetics and far more benificial. Your kids will also be effected by YOUR genetics no matter what mate you pick, just go with natural attraction. It's tried and tested over a few mellenia and apears to work :P
2006-07-28 12:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by erynnsilver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuu cant control how your kids will come out. I know parents that are short and have tall kids.. you just never really know. SO dont even think about genetics, my goodness.NO matter what their size they can be athletic.
If he has one to many quirks you should over look them or move on, you cant change people. Good luck.
2006-07-28 12:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Lillian Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...yeah you are being shallow and picky. I mean you say you really care about him and yet you hate a lot of things about him. What is up with that? Even if you end up with a guy who is athletic and good looking with no weird habits, it does NOT mean that your child will be like him. come on....you've seen it before! So many kids are nothing like their parents. Good luck lady
2006-07-28 12:23:27 · answer #5 · answered by simpleplan0013 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he has certain traits you don't want in a child doesn't mean that it will be passed on from one generation to the next. If you want your child to be athletic, raise them to be active; participate in sports with them, etc. As far as height goes, that's getting to be a little picky. Children are children. A tall father doesn't necessarily mean a tall child, either.
2006-07-28 12:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by Angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want some one tall and athletic to date you should date some one with the phsical being that you like.
2006-07-28 12:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by 1sun3jaguars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both.
You are just dating, not getting married yet! Just go out and have fun.
And the more you worry about the genes thing, the more likely you are going to get something you dun like.
Mother Nature has it all planned out.
2006-07-28 12:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all comes down to if you love him. if you love him, you wont be able to break up with him for these silly reasons concerning genetics...if you are capable of breaking things off and not feeling bad or missing him...its probably best that you find someone else to date. its not fair to him
2006-07-28 12:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by sugar56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're looking that deeply into people, you'll never be satisfied. Do the male world a favor and don't date, and most importantly, don't breed.
2006-07-28 12:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Ronald H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋