he tells me he never really thinks about getting married ive bought the topic up a few times
2006-07-28 05:15:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't think so hon...he has already said he never really thinks about marriage ie his indirect way of telling you that he doesn't see himself being married to you. As someone mentioned why buy the cow...........
Marriage is obviously important to you, so leave him and find a guy that sees marriage as part of his future. Don't waste your time on a guy that is leaving his options open for something better to come along. Obviously you're not "the one" for him.
2006-07-28 18:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can pop the question yourself. I had a friend whom this story reminds me of. She not only addressed the question with him, but e-mailed a pic of the ring she wanted. She is now engaged with that very ring. What I'm trying to say is. Back off a little bit, give him sometime. After about a month or two readdress the issue, like asking him where he sees the relationshihp going. If you don't get the sense that it's going anywhere break it off. But he may just be trying to catch you off guard w/ the question. Make sure when you address it, that you want to a time frame and idea because you also have dreams and wants in life. Do it gently and respectfully.
2006-07-28 16:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mae V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only one who can answer to how long you are prepared to wait.
I know nothing about your relationship or your boyfriend so it's hard to guess if he will ever propose.
I can share my personal experience though.
I was with a man for three years. We were both in our late twenties and in a pretty committed relationship. It seemed to me that marriage should be the next step after we were together for two years. But every time I brought it up he told me he wasn't ready. Finally, after we had been together for three years I decided that if he really loved me as much as I loved him, he wouldn't be afraid to marry me. In fact, I deserved to be with someone who loved me so much that he would be anxious to marry me.
Breaking up with him was hard. My heart ached and I was lonely for several more years. Then I met a man who truly did love me. When he proposed, it was because he was excited about the thought of living with me for the rest of his life. We've been married over a year now and it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
As hard as it was, breaking up with that first guy made it possible for me to meet this new guy and experience a much deeper, full-filling type of love than I ever had with the other guy.
2006-07-28 12:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tamborine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking him of you rbf bec he is going to be your husband. Try to grow up kid. Have faith in him. Try to be more serious while you are with him. Then give it a break. Do not meet him. Meantime consider your next move and plan. Then after a coupla days meet him and ask for a date or sumthin....the answer you get will be a real one, i bet. You are the best judge.Follow what your heart says and if you go to Church do not miss this Sunday, you may get a message. Good luck!
2006-07-28 12:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by easyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up to him anymore. The last thing you want is to pressure him into asking. That is something he should do on his own terms. If you haven't been dating very long give it more time. My husband and I lived together for two years before we got married.
2006-07-28 12:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by kel_kat28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously NEED to get married... And you are obsessed by the matter... Dump him and find someone who is more than happy to get married...
And don't say you can't do that cos you love him too much, cos it sounds like you are in love with the idea of marriage!!!
2006-07-28 12:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how close u's are and how long u's have been going out for . are yas close enough if u have tried bringing it up and he said his not really thinking about it well he could be keeeping as a suprise or he might not even be ready it all takes time (im only 13 and i talk like im some docter whats with that) haha
2006-07-28 12:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by chloes_loved_153 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't ask to marry you out of the blue. You'll definitely be discussing it prior to a proposal. Also, it doesn't sound like he's interested in it.
2006-07-28 12:19:05 · answer #8 · answered by lupering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then he has already answered this question for you. He doesn't plan on getting married. Ask him why he doesn't think about getting married. What are his reasons / beliefs / concerns?
2006-07-28 12:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop bringing it up or you wont have a man... If he says hes not thinking about it chances are hes not ready or he just doesnt want to marry you..
2006-07-28 12:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋