i have been in love & with this guy for 4 years now, we've had a lot of downs than ups, he's 9 yrs older than me but wer really connected although hes hurt me a lot i still love him. then there's this one i met when i started varsity last year,in a diffrent city. we fell in love immedietly cos with the other guy back home we were having problems. now both of them r so in love with me, the second guy treats me like a queen & even introducedme to his parents. while with the first one we have some good days and some bad & his parents dont know me. which 1 must i choose, would it be wrong to keep them both and see where both take me, just for security?
2006-07-28 05:01:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go w/ the 2nd. start a fresh clean slate, ther's too much drama with the 1st.
2006-07-28 05:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by I am your weakness! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have decide which one you want because someone is going to get hurt either way if you keep them involved with you longer then the you will hurt them worse when you chose. I would have to say that 9 yrs between two people can make a big difference sometimes. Are you sure that you are still in love with him? If he has hurt you a lot, do you see any signs that it is going to change for the better to stay with him? You have been with him for 4 yrs does he have long term plans with you? Why didn't he introduce you to his parents? This guy doesn't sound like he needs to stick around. The other one that you met at varsity seems like he might really be into you if he has already introduced you to his parents. I would try and start a new relationship with this one and let the other one go. It looks like if you stay in that 4 yr relationship longer you are going to be beating a dead horse and you will end up unhappy and not able to leave. You may have fallen out of love with him along time ago and you could just be emotionally attatched to him and used to him being there. You have to know where you have been and where you want to go, follow your heart and let it lead you to the right one. Just don't be afraid to listen and react to find the right one.
2006-07-28 05:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by busyliz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the SAME EXACT SPOT! almost anyways. the guys i like is one i have liked for a year now and likes me back nad i know it and he's really nice and he's 2 years older than me, the other i've known and liked for 7 years but i dont know if he likes me (also 2 years older) and yes we have had ups and downs big time, lol. i say go with where ur heart leads you. the queen treatment wont last forever, so see who is trully blue and will be there for u no matter what and who will care for u deep down no matter what and who will stand by you. dont fall for some guy cuz he treats u like a queen, any guy could do that, but it takes a special guy to stay no matter what. so choose the one u think u could see urself with more in the long run and stay good friends with the other just in case.....u never know what happens down ther road.
2006-07-28 05:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should dump the one you have been with for 4 years because no woman should be treated like that,you do not deserve that and after that many yrs you would think he would introduce you to his parents,If I were you I would try the one that treats me good..best of luck
2006-07-28 05:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry-free turn a coin and heads for one guy tails for the different and whilst this is I'n the air your gonna be hoping the part your thinking of to teach and in case you think of you wanna turn it lower back reason your uncertain nicely then there yea bypass there is your answer Didnt make that plenty sence yet oh nicely :P
2016-10-08 10:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say the second guy. If you still don't know the first guys parents there is a problem. He probably is not faithful..
2006-07-28 05:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second guy sounds yummy! I vote for him.
2006-07-28 05:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just choose the one that u really want to be with
2006-07-28 05:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by chaikid88@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go poly!
2006-07-28 05:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋