I'm 21 years old and I have been on this dating site for about almost two months now. I just discovered today that my exboyfriend viewed my profile. Overall I feel very uncomfortable that he is on the same dating site as me.My ex and I cannot communicate anymore because our families forbid it. His mother and father do not like me and my mother does not like him.
So, we cannot communicate anymore for that reason and also he he is afraid of my mother. However, I feel very uncomfortable that he just viewed my profile and that I saw his picture. It has been almost two years since we broke up and it has been difficult on me. It was a hard break up especially since he broke up with me via email.I know I do not have many options in this situation but, is there anything I can do? Please help!
Thank you
2006-07-28 04:55:42 · 25 answers · asked by brooke992002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"My ex and I cannot communicate anymore because our families forbid it." What in the world is that? What century are we in? Unless you 2 are related I don't see any reason why your families should intervene in the matter. I understand if you broke up for a million other reasons relating to you, or him, or both of you. But letting your families tell you who you can or can't communicate with is plain insane. I know it sounds mean, but you really need to Grow up! You are a woman not a 13 year old. You need to take responsibility for your own life from now on. "Mommy this and Mommy that" doesn't cut it anymore. And since you are a grown up individual now, you need a grown up man by your side. So take that into consideration before dating another momma's boy. And also, it is the world wide web, everyone is on it. It shouldn't bug that he's there and saw your pic. He's probably just curious. If he does get in touch with you I hope he grew up also and stopped being a wuss... breaking up with you via email? using your mother and his parents as an excuse? Give me a break.... I might be mean but it's the truth. That's the way life goes. And unless you want to end up in a therapist chair talking about how your mother controlled your life and never let you be, I suggest suck it up and become who you want to be.
2006-07-28 05:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really isn't anything you can do except to not use that dating site. I think you should just deal with it. Maybe this connection on the site could bring you two back together. If that's something you would like. If he was looking at your profile, then maybe he still thinks about you. At 21 why are you letting your parents tell you who you can and can't see? What exactly makes you uncomfortable? Sweety, it always hurts to break up, but if two years later it still hurts maybe you & him should get together and talk about it.
Good Luck.
2006-07-28 05:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear it. Obviously he's still pining for you?
How about cruising some other dating sites to see if he's on them? If he isn't, close up your profile and 'move' to a new one.
As for families forbidding any contact between the two of you...if you're not yet the age of majority I'm going to assume you will be soon. Let him know that you think of him often (via the website) and that when that day comes that you're free to do so, you'll be in touch. Hopefully he'll respond in kind....and then it's just a matter of time.
Good luck
2006-07-28 05:00:41 · answer #3 · answered by baciandrio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have had really deep feelings for him at one point in her life and feels uncomfortable being around him now. If I were to see one of my ex's in particular right now, I have no doubt that I would probably be completely weak at the knees and more than likely pass out....doesn't mean that I love my hubby any less or would want the other man in a relationship again, I mean they did split up for a reason and she did find you and love and marry you. She could still have feelings, not to say that she would want him by any means but she could still carry some deep seated feelings and I for one would feel very uncomfortable having to deal with those feelings/memories rushing back. You should just ask her about it and be completley neutral and understanding about whatever she tells you.
2016-03-27 03:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look! He see's that you are out shopping for a new man, and this only makes him wish he was with you more. Stop worring about things you can't change. Everyones ex's from the past always cross our paths in the life ahead.
Just enjoy life, if he contacts you through the site, just block him and go on. the only thing he could do is post something bad about you on his profile and you would then report him to the owner of the site to have his profile removed for harassment reasons.
2006-07-28 05:01:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it bother you? Are you embarrased he's seen your picture and profile in a dating site? Just suck it up.
If you don't care about him anymore, it don't make a big difference.
All he's trying to do is meet people on the dating site, and so are you. Forget the past, and move on.
2006-07-28 05:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by Karmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
♥ get off of the site... I dont mean this in a mean way but what happened to people these days, what happened to just going out and meeting someone who your interested in and dating them... whats all this internet love bull crap?! I dont see why people cant go out and meet their own people to date?! I think you should go out and try to meet a guy that doesnt put a strain in the family area of your life... but honestly if you still wanna be with you ex go back to him, your 21 years old your parents dont run you anymore :D ♥
2006-07-28 05:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by ?Blonde_Queen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another way to meet someone join a club or gym etc you don`t need a dating site
2006-07-28 04:58:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do much about it so you should just forget it. Maybe he was just looking to look or wasn't sure if it was you. 21 is so young and he won't even be a thought in your mind after a while.
2006-07-28 04:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by cloudnine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for pities sake, grow up!!!
Okay so he's on the same site and has looked at your profile... Has he contacted you???
Just ignore him and stop worrying about it...
2006-07-28 05:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋