I'm a sophomore in high school. And I've been talking to a senior a little and I start liking him and all of the sudden he stops talking to me and I hear he said "All the sophomores want me, I'm just gonna f*cuk with them." :( I'm so upset about this. I hate guys. And Highcshool.
2006-07-28 04:51:49 · 45 answers · asked by Michelle 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are getting attracted to the wrong guys. Try some new parameters for guys you want to go out with. Maybe you have been singling out the dashing, tall, elegant , charming but hollow and shallow individuals. Expand your horizon.
2006-07-28 05:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by TOO HOT 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are just ******* and you cannot change that. I understand you are upset and reasonably so. This clown took your affection and toyed with it like it meant nothing. I'm sorry to hear you feel so badly.
But here is a little something to cheer you up! Count your blessings you did not spend more time with this dirtball than you did! You would have found out eventually this guy is a dork, but you would have wasted a lot more time in doing so. Trust me, not all guys are like this loser. Many of the guys who tend to be a bit quieter are also NOT so hung up on themselves. Give one of them a shot. You might just find someone worth being with.
Another small thing to ponder that might make you smile. You girls have all the power in the world and don't realize it. Here is what you do....Without being a snot or hateful about it, gently tell other girls and your friends that you know how this guy treats other girls so badly. Soon it will be known, and he will be practically dateless.
2006-07-28 05:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by BlueFire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you met a jerk, and he pretended that he was a nice guy, and you responded to that. So now that you know he's a jerk, you stop liking him and move on. Don't beat yourself up. (If he was clearly a jerk and you liked him anyway, then feel free to beat yourself up.)
Don't worry so much about guys right now. Instead, focus on becoming the kind of girl would attract a quality guy. I'm not talking about pretending to be someone you're not. I'm talking about working to become honest and kind, encouraging, friendly, considerate, and so on. Any of the qualities you would like in the "perfect" guy. If you are a great person, you will meet plenty of guys in time. Some of them will be like this jerk. Sort through them and keep looking, and, eventually, you're sure to find one worth keeping.
As a side note . . . the senior was probably just showing off to his friends. He may have enjoyed talking to you, but if he did, he's not secure enough to hang out with a sophomore. He might be embarrassed about his behavior some day when he grows up, but for now, he's not worth losing any sleep over.
2006-07-28 05:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school is tough, i never had any luck with those stupid guys. I am now 25 and my brother is in high school, and now that i am a bit older, i look at him and all i see is a hormone driven idiot trying to seem as bad a ss as possible. I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time. If i may make a suggestion, it would probably be best or you to focus on building great friendships and not seek to date those dorks. In time the right and perfect guy will come into your life. He will be your best friend, your lover, shoulder to cry on and so much more. But to gain the respect of a guy like that, you must get to know who you are, enjoy being single and take the time to form the solid foundation of friendship that it takes to hold a long term relationship like that.
best of luck to you!
2006-07-28 05:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older most of this stuff will not matter. The guy is just a jerk and probably a big fish on a little pond. I would suggest you concentrate on your studies. It is probably the most important thing in high school so you can get into a good college. Trust me I graduated ten years ago and I only talk to my best friend from high school. Do not get to upset over it. You will meet a nice guy in do time. Just be patient. As we get older guys tend to mature a little bit. Just find a nice guy as oppose to the most popular. You never know the nice guy may treat you like gold. Good luck
2006-07-28 05:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by ALBPACE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little early to throw in the towel. Men are jerks. You will hopefully develop self confidence and meet many wonderful friends before the end of high school. Don't be too hard on yourself. You probably are looking for affection and finding it with the wrong type of people. Try talking to different types of people. If you are pretty then try talking to someone that isn't as attractive. If you are a band member try talking with someone who likes Math. My point is search your world for 'different' people.
Stay away from Seniors. They are hormonal. Men are pigs... sooner or later they will grow up, but right now they are searching for tail. (Think about respecting yourself before you become 'just another girl')
2006-07-28 04:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Smith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are young, and starting out in life, we gals tend to be drawn to "bad boys" because they have energy, more sex-appeal, bend the rules, and just seem to be "going somewhere". As time goes on, you will mature and begin to see what lies beneath a person's skin, and you will begin to like people for who they are in character, and not just outward appearances. Don't be so negative so soon, so young! I am hopeful that you will attend college, then join the workforce. During this time, men will be more mature, ready for relationships, and focused on where they want to go in life. They will have more respect for you as a person and their goals will turn toward settling down with a wife and kids. But all of this takes time - perhaps 10 years from now for you. Just be patient; focus on finishing school, work on college so that you can support yourself (or your family if there is illness in your mate), get your life in line, find a good Church (and maybe a nice gentleman, too!). Don't waste your time with boys; waite for them to become men, and everything will lighten up and get better!
2006-07-28 05:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes guys can be jerks like that, and to let you know, it's really hard to find "the one" in high school. I didn't say you couldn't, because I believe that I did, but it's pretty damn hard. You also have to take into consideration that most guys in high school aren't looking for a relationship, it's just that whole maturity level thing working against you. Don't think that it is your fault, because is isn't, I hope this answer helped you.
2006-07-28 04:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey listen I know your probably not going to believe me but I know how you feel.
I always end up kicking myself after a relationship for picking the 'wrong girls'. They expect you to be cool and yet ''to be yourself''. And along with that they expect you to know what they are thinking.
I like girls that you can have a conversation with and yet be pressured to make an impression. And i hate it when they expect you to know when to make the first move!
I suppose some advice would be to think deeply before approaching anyone or making drast decisions.
And REMEMBER life is not like the movies.
I hope i have been of some use.
GOOD LUCK xxx
2006-07-28 05:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by Tod P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too hungry for the relationship. Guy sees it and some of them may take advantage of it.
What is the point to go to highschool? Just to have relationship with guy? Or to educate and prepare your future? In reality, a lot of guys and girls are not mature enough to understand what relationship is when they are in highschool. If you are not one of them then you should focus in studying and you will find the right one in college or even when you start career.
2006-07-28 04:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋