we orriginaly agreed we would meet in a town between the two homes for every other weekend and he would send 100.00 dollars every paycheck he has cancled or postponed all but five visits in the past 4 1/2 months and conntributed maybe 175.00 to assist in her needs, I keep geting threats from him that he will have his lawyer ready and then he will get his way ........ what do I do
2006-07-28 04:32:35 · 6 answers · asked by sparks+2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you have a divorce, then by all means make him stick to the divorce decree. If you do not, then get an attorney ASAP. A divorce decree is an order of the court and you are both bound to it, as well as the child support. He cannot simply not pay it, or post date checks or cancel checks, that would be contempt of court and punishable by jail time. Keep receipts, keep records, and most of all do not let him intimidate you.
2006-07-28 04:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you have this original agreement in writing but I would try and get something in writing to prove what the original agreement was...paper work is going to be your stronghold in this situation...have proof. I would remember to that he is just threatening you about the lawyer. If he in a situation that he cannot even pay you a $100.00 every pay check then he probably is afraid of getting a lawyer because they are so expensive. I would take matters into your own hands and get yourself a lawyer and take care of these matter before he gets a head start on you. Get this settled now so you don't have to waste your time with it.
2006-07-28 11:47:18 · answer #2 · answered by Chantla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...get a Lawyer. Second make sure you have reciepts for everything(if it was spent on your child by you KEEP the reciept). As long as you can PROVE that YOU can provide a Stable(financially,emotionally,physically) home and environment and have a backup plan incase of illness etc., and a support system then you should be safe from your EX takeing your child away. For safety sake, please don't be alone around this person(just you and your child) have someone with you to back you up in case your EX tries something and if you don't feel comfortable letting your child go with this person then DON'T(in the same respect if your child is uncomfortable).
2006-07-28 11:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by HistoryMom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child custody order should be in effect - for your sake as well as your child's. I would strongly recommend getting in touch with a custody attorney RIGHT away.
If he is canceling the visitations, and is not sending the required/agreed upon child support, then he has no strong footing for fighting for custody (although stranger things have happened). I sincerely doubt he even HAS a lawyer ... if he can't afford to support his own kid, how's affording the exorbitant costs of attorneys' fees??!
Be ready - that's all I can say.
2006-07-28 11:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to family court. Get a custody order and file for child support. I am sure the judge would love to know how he can afford a lawyer but has failed to consistantly contribute to the upbringing of their child.....wait are we even talking about a child here? PLease tell me its a child and not a dog you guys went half on 5 years ago.
2006-07-28 11:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by i_am_grown_too 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order to enforce any agreement it must be a court order. so get yourself a an attorney and take him to court and don't worry about what he says.
2006-07-28 11:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by bobby h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋