Respectful question, would the following compromise work in America?

Question

There are a couple of issues that I think Americans need to compromise on.

Gay marriage is one such issue. What if government makes gay marriage legal, and if a gay couple invites a Christian to the wedding, and they don't want to go because they are afraid it might make their children gay, they just send a blender?
If living next door to a gay couple that is married or unmarried, is there a difference on the children? Are children more likely to become gay if Adam and Steve next door become married? Is there any evidence of this happening in the 25 other countries on Earth that have gay marriage?

Evolution/Creationism - Could we compromise and agree that in public schools evolution will be taught, and in private school you can teach Genesis 1 & 2 in the science room? Is this a fair compromise?

I'm only asking cause I don't like fighting I want to compromise do you think these are good compromises?

Answer 1

I think these are excellent compromises. Everyone needs a blender.

Answer 2

I too believe that a little compromise in America would go a long way. However, I'm not sure how respectful your question really is.

Your statement that a Christian wouldn't attend a gay wedding for fear it would make the children gay is insulting!! To assume that Christians believe the marital status of the gay parents will determine the sexual orientation of their children is also insulting!!

As far as evolution/creationism, it appears the only compromise is for Christians to pay for their education because they don't believe the same way as you and others get theirs for free in the public schools.

Perhaps if you don't want to fight you should try to truly be respectful and research both sides to come up with a real compromise.

Answer 3

I am not sure gay couples are comfortable living near straight couples. Their children may become hetero. If you teach your children your values etc, that is usually how they grow up. But you make the decision, like not all children from a christian home stay christian, some go atheist. But with regards to homosexuality. It is not a choice. If your children are gay, don't you want them to be happy? Don't you want them to be able to get married? If they are gay, that is it. If they do not embrace it they will feel empty, and that is why you need the gay influence around. Children need to figure this out. Parents do not make decisions on the sexuality of the child. Many gays today are not gay. They become gay to test it out. They want to see if they are gay. With homosexuality being shunned, and hidden away the children do not have the gay influence to see if that is what they are. So to experience it, they have to go entirely gay, and many do not go back. That is why there are so many gay people today. Tell kids not to do something, they do it. True gays are gay, and to be happy, they need to find out what they are. As far as creationism goes. IT SHOULD NEVER BE TAUGHT IN SCHOOLS. It is not science, it is fairy tails. If you must teach it, then it should be as mythology, or science alternative, but calling it science confuses kids. Schools are not churches, and should not be treated as such. Why can you not teach religion in church? If it is to be taught in school, all religions must be. (for the record, I am not gay.)

Answer 4

A sanctioned gay marriage would encourage any children to become gay. There would be an undue influence on the children, and hence no free choice. I agree with a civil union only to protect property rights etc, that would result from 2 people sharing expenses. I do not think children should be involved. There is a high rate of promiscuity, divorce, child molestation, sexually transmitted disease, and mental problems which would adversely affect the child. Homosexual activists deny that they target children for seduction into the homosexual lifestyle, but the evidence is overwhelming that this is a lie. The child's emotional development would also be affected. Studies have shown the need of both a mother and a father for normal, and not stunted, emotional and social progress.

Evolution is only a theory, even though now it is accepted as fact. There is abundant evidence against it. Both evolution and creationism can be offered as electives in the public schools. Remember that parents that have their children in private schools, also have to pay taxes for what is taught in public schools. Also, many children cannot afford private schools, so both options should be available for them.

Answer 5

I don't think people would see the evolution one as fair unless creationism and all the other theories on the beginning of the universe were also taught. That wouldn't be exposing them to other views.

Your gay marriage part is obviously no compromise, but a statement that there is nothing wrong with gay marriage (I agree). There is no compromise there.

Answer 6

I don't think that your compromise is progress. I don't like it.

We should eliminate marriage as a legally binding contract, and make people who want to have such a contract do so regardless of age, sex, or even number of people. If two ladies and a 15 year old boy want to have a legal contract binding their property, taxes, credit etc... together, then they can. It doensn't mean the people are supposed to screw. People can still get married for fun, but it won't mean anything legally.

And teaching creationism in a science class should be considered inappropriate by the state institution that licenses the private schools.

Answer 7

good points.

1) if it were not for the financial strain it would put on businesses and insurance firms, then gay marriage would be approved overnight.

2) i am christian, yet i attended the "wedding" of a gay friend to his life partner back in the mid-80's. gary knew the lifestyle was an abomination to my religious beliefs, but he also knew that our friendship and my appearance there (as long as i did not have to kiss the bride) would not jeopardize my belief.

3) i do not think that you can teach only evolution in the classroom. just because it is a governent funded institution. the argument from the instructors is that without proof, religion is just a theory. but there is no true proof of evolution on the scale that darwin described. it just aint there.

i dont mind having evolution taught as a theory, but each theory has it's flaws and if G:1-2 can fill in the gaps, then let it be taught.

when a college professor rails against the teaching of religion, it is always done on the grounds of "freedom of intellectual property", but what about those who do not believe in that theory. they are subjected to harrassment and are labled as social misfits, intellectual retards and so on. (of course i have to admit that my side of the belief does the same thing at times) and it is this behavior that i cannot condone.

what gets me is that the gay and lesbian are allowed to hold meetings in public schools to "educated" our children on why 80% of them are actually gay, "they just dont realize it, yet", but if a child in that school hands out leaflets inviting their classmates to church, or they want to hold a prayer meeting after school, that we get railed against for our actions.

at some point we will find that God and evolution do not necessarily operate to berate and belittle each other. rather we will find that common ground that brings us to what we are now.

heck, i'm a christian, but as a scientist i may one day have to accept that adam IS the missing link and he was more ape (or common ancestor of) than man.

-eagle

Answer 8

Perhaps a good compromise for gay marriage would be allowing churches to discriminate in whatever way they see fit, but civil weddings being available to all.

I don't think we should ban creationism from education entirely - Schools can teach about evolution in the science curriculum and about creationism in the religious mythology curriculum. That seems entirely reasonable to me. Creationism should not be permitted in any science curriculum in any school though, public or private.

Answer 9

Regardless of what any of us believe, and whether I disagree with you or not, I must say good job with trying. It is a very good suggestion, and I think your effort into thinking up a good compromise should be applauded. However, I dont think it would work because of one reason.

Humans love to fight and argue and always think we are right and there is no room for anyone else. And for the record I went to both catholic and public school. Genesis is taught in religion class as it is. And evolution is still taught in public school. But you should really be commended for trying to come up for a peaceful solution.

I think more people should open up their minds, and if they dont agree, at least not fight or argue about it.


Good luck!

Answer 10

If by "compromise," you mean that Christians should mind their own business and quit telling consenting adults what to do in their private lives and bedrooms, then I'm all for it. And they can teach their children whatever they want to in private, Christian schools, as long as they understand that their children will have no advantage at all in getting into decent colleges or careers, because they'll be too stupid to understand basic science. "God made everything" is not science.

Answer 11

When you compromise, you undermine your deeply held conviction. Is it wise to change your beliefs because someone disagrees with you? No. The problem with this world today is there is too much compromise and not enough people who are willing to stand up for what they believe in. The wise person states his case then agrees to disagree with those who hold opposing views.