SOS Please!! I don't understand what American guys thinkin / Want me to do...?

Question

Hi.First of all,sorry for my BROKEN English.I try my best to explain details, so could someone please, give me comments?

I'm Japanese, came to US about 3 years ago. As all early 20 college students do, I go out a lot with different guys.At Parties, American guys are very nice and be friends then they ask for going out.(BUT I've never had sex with them.We just go out for Dinner, Movie, Clubs or Beach..etc. I just want friends)But I found that ALL of these guys had girlfriends or wifes!!For me, that's NOT problem because I don't want these guys to be my boyfrined at all, they're just my good friends.The problem is that these guys dump their girlfriends/wifes for me and want me to have serious relationship. All girls got mad on ME.Yesterday, I got call from wife of my FRIEND and said they're divorcing because of me!?? At cafeteria, some girls angry look at me sayin B**ch!??Almost 12 couples broke up becanse of me!??I'm shy/polite NOT b**ch or attitude kind person at all!That hurts me..

I feel so bad to all of them. So my question is what can I do for these girls and guys who I hurted?? or I don't need to do/feel nothing because I did nothing wrong??

ps:I'm Not saing that 'I'm very popular' or any bitchy things.

Answer 1

well then first of all, you need to straighten yourself out, INFORM yourself who you date with, check wehter the guy is married or not, whether he has a gf or not, dont be easy with the guys or your reputation would drop to zero, you would be seen more as a w h o r e than a nice sweet polite girl. especially since your foreign, you shouldnt let yourself be taken away from guys, be difficult with them and when you know who they are, choose ONE and date ONE BY ONE not all at the same time. welcome to america, girls can be really bitchy when you steal their bf, but they have the right and it would be partly your fault to even entrigue the guy to go out with you. next time you see a guy asks you out, ask him directly, 'you have a gf?' and if he says no and hyou cant tell wether its true or not, say something like, 'you better not be wasting my time dude or im the dumping you at the end...' and then date. if the guy is truthful then all is fine.

Answer 2

well maybe even though you say you just want to be friends, these guys are taking it to mean you want more. Alot of women are uncomfortable with their boyfriends/husbands to be hanging out with other girls, especially if you are hanging out with them alot. That is not appropriate for a man with a wife or a girlfriend. I think that you need to be clear and back off of these guys. Some times what you see as harmless means alot more to another person

Answer 3

American guys only think about sex, parties and sleep that's it most of the time it's sex, you might be sending the wrong message to the guys you hang out with and they think they can get you into bed or a relationship so they break up with their girlfriends or wives to hook up with u.

answer solved have a nice day.

Answer 4

It is not OK for hot Japanese girls to be friends with men in committed relationships. Men will get the wrong idea, in fact, I don't think it is possible for a man to be just a friend with an attractive female unless he is gay... anyway, just make friends with other chicks and leave the poor unwitting men alone unless you're looking for romance.

Answer 5

My advice to you is to watch how polite you are to these men because they are obviousely taking how you are acting with them serious. Being overly friendly with american men is not good they take this as a sign that you are attracted to them and eventually will want you to sleep with them. As for the ex girlfriends and wives they have all right to be upset with you because you are giving their men indications that you want to be with them, even if you do not realize this, when you know that they have woman. So dont be so friendly because it is giong to cause you alot of stress and no friends.

Answer 6

baby girl, this ain't cool when you knowingly date people who has relationship. i know in your mind that it's okay, but the other girls don't think so. this is a no no. once a man is taken, they are off limit. even though there is nothing going on, it just ain't cool. next time, if they want to go out with you, ask. ask them do you have someone else? of course, lots of guys will lie, but at least you ask.

Answer 7

Apparently you're leading these guys on or giving them some sort of impression that you're interested.. otherwise they wouldn't pursue you.

Stop flirting with everyone's boyfriends/husbands sweetie before you get yourself into a lot of trouble.

Answer 8

they just hating on you don't worry about them but just make sure you let it be known that you don't want to get into a relationship with them. by the way do you have a pic cuz i would like to see what you look like

Answer 9

just make sure that any guy you go out with...anywhere is single
that should stop that.

dinner, movies,clubs are all considered dates

if you want to talk email me...

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Answer 10

you shouldve gotten to know the boy better before you said yes.and one more thing you have understand them they their boyfriend and their husband and its normal for them to get mad you would too. but if you want them to shut up you should say rubber glue back to u I know its babyish but its better than saying nothing.