My mother is a smoker?

Question

So she smokes and I am really afraid for her :( wat should I do?She smokes like 60 ciggarets a day.I am fraid that she might get cancer....

Answer 1

Nothing you can do.

When and only when she decides to quit. She will.
Until then just keep her in your prayers.

Answer 2

Dear mareka;
There is not much You can do in behalf of Your mum, if she does not seriously want to cu down or giving up on tobacco altogether.
Talking with her about the risks of enphysema, coronary infarct, accelerated hardening of the arteries, premature wrinkles ( besides holes in the clothing and often in the matress) sometimes has the effecto of irritating or annoying a person especially those over 45.
Tha only thing I could advise You, is stay away from the smoke produced by your mums cigarretes, in order to avoid being a "second or involuntary smoker", and keep children away from the smoke.
At best You could convince her, to smoke iin a separate area of the house, whils she takes nicotine patches or inhlares (puffers) to reduce nicotine craving.( however, motivation is the best of success factors, because nicotine patches or chewing gum etc has a failure rate of nearly 88%)
Remember, there is no easy solution for that, promises by smokers are made one day and broken the next, bacause nicotine unfortunately, is 100 times more addictive than cocaine.
Try to understand that also, together with your own safety.
Yours sincerely

Answer 3

You are right to be afraid for her -especially at that rate of smoking. Contact the American Cancer Society and get some free materials you can share with her. Of course she knows that smoking kills - but maybe she needs a reminder and some of the latest facts. Not only is she in danger of cancer - but heart disease in women is directly related to smoking. You didn't say your age - but you could try the guilt trip method. Ask her why she doesn't want to be around to see you graduate, or to see you get married, or to play with her first grandchild? My father smoked for 40 years before quiting. Those years resulted in a quintuple heart bypass to save his life. He is now 79 but suffers from emphysema so badly that he cannot walk more than a few steps without the aid of an inhaler. He has said many times he wishes he had never started smoking or that he had stopped before it was too late. Do whatever it takes to try to get her to quit. Most importantly - DON"T START YOURSELF!

Answer 4

There are a lot of things that you cannot do for another person and unfortunately this is one of them. Just recognize that it is extremely difficult to stop smoking and that she does not smoke to make you mad or to irritate you. In the past a lot of people started smoking because it was a social thing to do and now many public places to not allow smoking and so smokers are becoming more and more isolated. The best thing you can do is to encourage her to smoke less and also to be supportive if/when she tries to quit. Many smokers have to quit multiple times before they are able to quit for good. Encourage her to keep trying to give up the habit but don't nag.

Answer 5

60 a day? That would be six packs a day! She must have a great job, because that's about $180.00 a day.

I get you drift, though. Darlin', you aren't going to be able to do anything with your mother until she wants to quit. You can keep nagging her though-----Each cig you see in her hand, say, "That's one year you won't have with me, Mom."

"That's one more year you won't have with your grandkids, Mom"

"I guess I'll go walk in the freeway about 5:00 o'clock during rush hour traffic and see if the odds are against me."

"That's one more year off my life, Mom."

You get the point. Remind her, even though you don't actually say, "Quit Smoking!" that you are concerned about her and those of you in the house who have to smell the smoke, and breathe it into your own lungs.

I don't know how old you are, but did you read the article about the boy who actually asked Social Services if he could move from his mother's house because her smoking was killing him? Actually, I believe the father petitioned the courts. ----let me see.

http://www.fact.on.ca/news/news0012/np001202.htm

Yep, there it is.
Father asks court to protect child from mother's smoke
B.C. man denies 'power trip' and says son's health is at stake
King Lee of the National Post, with files from The Times Colonist

Answer 6

Your Mom is a big girl now and knows what smoking will do to her. Let her know how you feel and, this is the hard part, DON"T NAG! Ask her to quit for all the good reasons and leave her be. If she decides to give it up, good for her, but remember that nicotine is harder than herion to quit She has serious jones for the rest of her life, whether she smokes or not, you never lose the desire. Good Luck!

Answer 7

She is certainly a good candidate for cancer. See if there are any smoking cessation workshops in your areas, this of course assumes she wants to quit. Most people don't - or need to get to that place where they can admit that they are ready. It is hard to stop an addiction so she will need support. Let her know why you want her to stop - focusing on what she means to you. Hopefully she will start to get the idea.

Answer 8

if she is smoking 60 a day I would deffinately take her to a specialist. If she has been smoking since she was younger she might already have a disease. I reccomend she have a chest x-ray ask for a copy and take it home place it in plain view that way when she smokes she can look at how messed up her lungs are. and the damage she is doing to herself and not to mention to you too. good luck

Answer 9

yes, it's true you can get cancer w/ out ever smoking, but isn't your Mom afraid of getting emphysema & then
having a hard time breathing ? ! I heard of a new lazer
treatment that you can have done to your mouth & it
makes you never want to smoke again. Three people
that my Mom knows did it & it worked for them. I'm sorry
I don't have the info. about it, but perhaps your Mom could look into having that done. Good Luck

Answer 10

She probably will. There isn't much you can do except ask her to quit. Do it nicely, and do it often. Express to here that you are afraid of losing her. Unfortunately, if she has been smoking all her life, she may not be able to undo the damage. If she has been smoking around you like that, then you are at risk too.

Answer 11

It's hard to do anything. My mother also is a life long smoker and I haven't been able to convince her to quit. She even had a close friend die of lung cancer and it didn't change her mind.

Your best options are to leave hints around. Leave her pamplets or business cards for people to call for help in quitting. Also, tell her you want her to be around for the long run to see her grandchildern etc.

Good luck