which is better a 14 years old having sex with her boyfriend (school mate) or get married?

Question

please, do not tell me neither!

because it's happening, there are little teenager girls who does sex with their boyfriend or school mate without their family kowledge. means those little girls do have desires.

so from a religious point of view, is it better if she has sex with her boyfriend or with her husband?

Answer 1

Has little to do with religion...has more to do with PARENTING so who cares, and at that age they're going to do what they want to do (usually without considering the consequences of their actions). Make sure she's EDUCATED on BIRTHCONTROL and STD's. She should be sure she's on the Pill and that she straps a Condom on her partner (regardless of his not wanting to use it). PEACE!

Answer 2

Yes young girls are having sex and unfortunately having babies. 200 yrs ago no one(even in America) would object to her getting married at 14. But todays time they may not be ready because society says they are not ready. And children are so spoiled now days that some are not ready even when they become adults.

In a religious point of view it is a sin on her and the boy she sleeps with. Islam encourages us to marry young, doesn't say that you have to at 14, but basically when your ready. When you can't control these urges anymore. And that is usually at a pretty young age.

But no getting married is looked down on by society yet these girls are still going to do this no matter what. So lets get them married. Boys to for that matter.

Answer 3

Neither would be my choice. Realistically, she needs to be aware of birth control and safe sex so she won't become pregnant and also be instructed about STDs. Under NO circumstances should she be married. Regardless of anyone's religious point-of-view, we ALL know 14 is much too young to take on the responsibilities of marriage and a family.

Answer 4

properly i could truthfully say neither, 14 year olds should not be having intercourse!! yet on account which you reported no longer say neither i will say that i do no longer think a 14 year previous is everywhere close to sufficiently old to be married. At 14 you're actually not mature and are not the guy you will improve as much as be, you will exchange lots. i do no longer think of a marriage commencing at 14 could have lots risk. Now I could say that in case you're 14 or everywhere close to that age and are or are questioning of changing into sexually lively you rather could communicate to your mom and dad. There are issues you would be attentive to. of path there is being pregnant, which at 14 your concepts and physique are actually not waiting for, yet there are worse issues as properly. you ought to get a type of affliction, some deadly. in case you may have intercourse please please be careful.

Answer 5

First of all, you can't take away a valid option (i.e. that neither should be happening). It's like saying "what's your mom's name, and don't tell me it's Linda!"

Second, it's only a rather modern notion that we're not ready to marry until we're 24, out of college, and have a steady job. People often got married as young as 14 not so long ago in history. There's nothing morally wrong with it necessarily as long it's not a much older man perhaps (which also happened quite often).

Answer 6

That is a really stupid question and no doubt you are a Christian who has no knowledge of the bible whatsoever.

If a teenager has sex with her boyfriend it is considered like prostitution and I think that has a death sentance as it is a major sin.
If, however, she has sex with her husband; not only is it legal, it is a form of goodness!

A 14 year old is an adult in my eyes and many others and should be treated as such. She thinks and understands.

Answer 7

She doesn't need to be having sex at all and she doesn't need to get married at 14 years old, it's hard enough for grown people to make a marriage work and a 14 year old has no clue at all how to make one work. It sounds like her parents have no control over her and they better start getting control before they have a grandchild. It may be to late as it is to get control of her. I sure hate for you. I'm not looking forward to my daughter wanting to start dating, my husband says he will be cleaning his gun when the boy comes to pick our daughter up and scare him half to death, but let him know if anything happens to our daughter he'll come looking for him! Maybe somebody should have done something like that with that girl, if she wasn't going to behave that boy still had that vision of that gun in his head.

Answer 8

this is a stupid question. I really don't think you are asking because want to know an answer for yourself. I think you want to know what we'd say to know where we stand. But since you are asking- No you should wait until Marriage to have sex (from a religious point of view and a common sense point of view)

Answer 9

14 is young to be doing either...but i have friends that had sex at the tender age of 12 so i believe, the same as what someone above me said, if she's on birth control and is educated on sex then she can do what she wants..but getting married at 14??! ridiculous.

Answer 10

Honey, you're playing with fire! You're best bet is to stop. You could end up really regretting it if you don't. And I don't know anywhere that would let you get married at 14 without parental permission. Marriage is supposed to be for life and parenthood definitely is. You ready for that?

Answer 11

This is not a religious answer ok, in my opinion es better if you continue to have sex; marriage is a huge step in life and being so young I doubt that you succeed in you marriage, but since you are sexually active please take all the precaution like birth control.

Good Luck