My nephew turned 3 two months ago...his parents are trying to get him potty trained so he can go to school this fall but their pediatrician is telling them not to rush it because he is not mentally prepared.
The kid screams and cries if you put him on the potty...what's going on and what do you think they should do...
tips...advice...anything?
2006-07-28 03:58:54 · 9 answers · asked by Snuz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think its bull crap that the doctor is telling them he's not mentally prepared. Whats happened is this has been made an issue, and at some point he decided it wasnt favorable for him to potty in the toilet. Either they punished him in some way for not pottying where and when he was supposed to, or he's had an accident such as falling in or the lid dropping on his little pee pee.
Of all the kids i have been envolved with during their potty training months, i have found that boys are the hardest to get trained.
I'd start from square one. Make it exciting. Go out, get him his own potty if he doesnt have one already, also, go ahead and get him one of the potty covers for the real toilet so his little toad butt doesnt fall through. Get him some speacial fun soap.
Also, for the really rough trainers i've had, (who happened to all be boys) i went out and invested in about 15 match box cars. I used them as rewards (always keep one in your purse for times out in town).
Next, tell his parents to potty with the door open, or use the toilet when he's in the tub, or something of that nature. Kids learn from watching. Its unnerving i know, but its their child, it came from their body so they can just get over it.
They dont have to announce every time theyre going into the bathroom, or call him into the room, but kids tend to follow you around anyway. Eventually he's realize you're in there, and the parent can take that opportunity to just mention in passing that big kids always go potty in the potty, only babies potty in their pants. And that some day when he's ready to be a big boy he'll go potty jsut like mommy and daddy in the big toilet too.
Tell him the same thing whenever you have to change him, DONT SCOLD HIM, just mention to him, like you would tell him about the weather. "some day, you wont want to be a baby any more, and you'll go potty in the toilet like a big boy. Its yucky to go potty in your pants, ick" and leave it like that. you're not shaming him, or yelling at him, you're explaining his options to him.
Children want to progress, they want to be big kids, especially at this age.
it takes time and patience to undo the unpleasant experiences he's associated with going potty, but it can be done. Just dont rush him.
At some point he's going to connect the fact that he's wearing diapers, and everyone else is wearing underwear. I'd leave his diapers on him a little longer than normal. Until he realizes he's stinky, or he's wet. Iam not talking hours here, just long enough for him to realize something is unpleasant.
Next, i'd start asking him right after a meal if he needs to go potty. He'll say no for the longest time, because he doesnt want to go in the toilet. Tell him you're going potty, and just wanted to make sure he didnt need to go too. After a while you can show him the cars to make more progress. Explain that these special cars are for his potty training, so he can learn that going potty like a big boy is fun. And every time he goes pee or poop in the potty he gets a car. but only when he goes potty in the potty.
It'll take time, but staying consistant, and making diaper wearing a little more unpleasant, and really expressing to him how he wants to be a big boy and that going potty in the toilet is a good thing, will help him to come around to it.
2006-07-28 04:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i kind of understand about not rushing but then again he needs to learn... Do you try to make it fun? With my 2 yr old niece she comes with us when we go to the bathroom and she sings a little song saying pee pee in the potty. We are just starting to potty train her and she runs the the potty 50 times a day and may only go once but if that's what it takes then that's what we'll do.
Don't know if this helped at all but good luck!
2006-07-28 11:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by the best 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pediatrician is right... he will go when he is ready
don't push him.. if he sees other kids his age going he might want to then too... just say big boys use the potty and leave it at that..
he will do it when he is ready
2006-07-28 11:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him a small potty. kid sized. not somethign to sit over the toilet. but i wonder........why did they wait so long? thats pretty old. my son was a year and a half when he was potty trianed. when i started anyways, he still wore diapers at night when i was 2 years old. but he didnt' last that long
2006-07-28 11:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what we did was when josh my nephew turned 2 we got a little tolet thing for kids and said if u dont use this then when you pee ur pants the big tolet will suck u down when it is flushed and he has never peed again in his pants.:) good luck
2006-07-28 11:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a son the exact same age, and he does the same thing. my older son was the same also. he will start it on his own. you cnat rush them. he is simply not ready.
2006-07-28 11:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by jackieleacollins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son was like this I will f/u for the answer too...
2006-07-28 11:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by lil_hottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop for a little while.
2006-07-28 11:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read this:
www.bbc.co.uk/parenting...
2006-07-28 11:02:06 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋