I have a friend who 17 years ago she got to spend some time with her crush. She was 18 at the time. It was just 16 hours of time with him. He showed her how to shoot a bow took her to her first bar hopping frenzie. During this time she got drunk and he asked her if they could have sex. She said no. But they made out heavy and she had her first real orgasm. Now still after all these years when she has a orgasm she cant without thinking of that nite. She thinks he was a gentleman cause he asked her for sex and didnt push her into it. And this nite was special to her. I think he jus wanted one thing from her. Am i wrong? And how do you help her move on from that situation?
2006-07-28 03:51:21 · 9 answers · asked by krayzeman32 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The way that I look at it is to let her know that she was appreciated.. let her feel it was a special time.. because it was.
It was a long time ago and back then, people saw things differently. He obviously didn't push her into having sex which made her feel special. Now, thinking about it everytime she has sex... that's a little different. I'm sure it was enjoyable, exciting and something that she will never be able to let go... but it is unfair to the person she is having sex with to be thinking about that other man. It's an infatuation situation... she is still infatuated with the man who basically broke orgasm virginity..
He had fun with her.. at the time... and it's over.. I would never forget the fond memory.. and if he was just after sex.. then he would have had it with her.. so I don't think that's all he was after.. Maybe he really enjoyed her and wanted to show her a few things.. you failed to tell me how old the guy was... but he could have felt like he wanted to teach her a few things and let her loose in ways she'd never been able to do before..
If she can't get over it.. maybe counseling...
2006-07-28 04:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by breathofvitality 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh baby, it bothers you. you want her to be into you, not comparing you to some stinking memory from the PAST. And she has you all wound up...making you feel invisible - competing with a damn memory. This girl's good.
First, realize that she's playing a head game.
You have no competition.
Then, just treat her as you would any other female you've liked.
Don't 'push' her into sex. Have a fun time with her and just ask when the moment seems right (she could be throwing you a hint).
If it doesn't work, she is just not that into you.
Move on.
Memory, shmemory.
2006-07-28 11:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by lovebird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how is this your problem and why do you think there is anything to fix? She was wrong it telling you this and a little sick in the head. I think you are a little jealous of this ghost from her past. I have the feeling this girl has a lot more baggage than just this one issue (the issue is .. she felt she had to tell you, not that she still thinks about that time with him) Oh by the way .. she is lying to you if she says in 17 years she has only O'd when thinking about that day.
2006-07-28 11:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really bad you have done to her,I am sure you must have apologies her for that mistake ,if you have not done and you think still she is suffering with it you and your Friend must apologise her,and make her comfortable and get comfortable your self,other side if she was that time 16 ,now she should be 33 years,she is matcher woman and she can understand very well what happened that time,by stupid Friends,I think she should also forget it like bad dream.Any way you try your best and give your apologised with some nice flowers.Good luck.
2006-07-28 11:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by lucky s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not wrong...maybe u should go out with her and show her how she should be treated.
she could also go to a doctor for help.
help her relise that there r some guys out there that WON'T take atvantage of her!
2006-07-28 10:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by nicklebob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a problem with thinking about it? If it is a fond memory of hers let her have it and keep it. It sounds like you're jealous of him...
2006-07-28 10:58:37 · answer #6 · answered by JenniferJeanne84fromCanada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent wrong just help her stop thinkin about it i guess by gettin her to think of other things
2006-07-28 10:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be right. Just tell her it was just a one night thing and she ahould just let itgo
2006-07-28 10:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, maybe, or no
I am not sure
2006-07-28 10:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋