i am 18 and had a miscarriage may 18 i was 5 months. i still talk to my ex. bf sometimes but makes me more bitter we were not talking when it happened and dont really talk about what happened it makes me mad and unhappy i still am in love with him. i am dating a new guy and its not helping i just realized i am dating him because he reminds me of my ex. bf. i met my ex. new gf and creepy she a lot like me even in looks but most of all in personality this bothers me. and most recently i have the yearning to get pregnant again even though i will be starting college this september worse my ex.bf and i are attending same school and have at least one class together.i look at my ultra sound pics i have and cry and i cant babysit my 8 month old baby cousin anymore cause it hurts. the more i pretend i dont hurt the more i hurt inside. i try to pretend with my ex. bf that i dont care but i do!
2006-07-28 03:25:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
went to a therapist and was advised to rite letter to my ex. bf or try telling myself? i cant seem to bring myself to do so?
2006-07-28 03:31:57 · update #1
my ex. bf was my first everything.
2006-07-28 03:35:20 · update #2
i am taking things out on my current bf
2006-07-28 03:43:19 · update #3
Honey, please see a therapist. I know the mental and physical duress a miscarriage can cause. I had one. Similar situation too. The only way to see the light at the end of the tunnel is with a professionals help :) Trust me you will feel so much better. Also no sex until you are able to work through this issue or it will scar you even worse. Good Luck and God Bless :)
2006-07-28 03:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by diannabishop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation you souldn't pretend. You are young and have room to grow. Before you jumped in a new relationship you should of resolved the first one. As of now you will walk around with resentment and anger for this new bf. If he reminds you so much of your ex he is not the one for you right now. Unless you can let the past be the past and forgive. As far as getting prgenant right now with the new bf. That shouldn't be an option. Give yourslef time to grow and mature and really be involved with your bf. And to know that if you were to have this baby he would be there 100% not be another case on the Maury show. Let it all out on the table with your ex and let him know how hurt your are and if he consouls you he is a true friend and if not give yourslef sometime to get over him and see if this new guy is the one for you since he reminds you so much of you ex.
2006-07-28 03:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. you are only 18. One of the saddest things I see is SUCH young girls getting pregnant when the future will hold so much for you. Take your miscarriage as a sign. You have MORE to look forward to. I say dump your new bf if you are only with him because he reminds you of your x. That never works well. Take some time off from men all together. Get to know yourself. Dont rush anything. You are so young. Know yourself, so that you can be happier in life. Good luck
2006-07-28 03:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you might want to talk to a counselor. It would good to talk to them and let out your feeling and your thoughts. They should be able to help you out. I do think it is important to talk to you ex. He might not be able to answer all your questions and may not want to; however, but you won't be feeling upset with yourself that you have never ask him and always wondering. If you really want a healthy relationship with your current bf or future bf you need to talk to a counselor or therapist. A miscarriage is something very hard to go through and you can't do it by yourself. Getting help from someone doesn't mean you are weak. It's important to talk to someone with knowledge and experience in that field.
2006-07-28 03:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by angela c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-08-28 16:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. If he dont care about ya'lls child then you REALLY need to move on from him. If he don't care now, then he won't later. It will be hard but you gotta move on. I advise going to a different college. Gd luck. Don't get in this situation again no matter how much your bf loves you.
2006-07-28 03:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by sky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey ur so young, this too will pass, Don't cut your life short by having a baby right now, obviously you weren't meant to have a baby right now.
Be loving to your cousin, even offer to care for him overnight sometime.
Be you right now, get your priorities in order and then work on accomplishing them.
2006-07-28 03:28:42 · answer #7 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it's not your fault things happen. Maybe, the both of you still like each other. Looks as if ya'll got someone to remind each other of what you both use to have. Talk to him and let him know how you feel.
2006-07-28 03:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need time to grieve....stop running away from your pain, when you take care of your baby cousin, I think it's a healing, therapeutic process for you and that's why you're trying to run away from your pain....it's only gonna get worse, I hope you get counseling, it will help alot....
2006-07-28 03:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Jenifer O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are way to young to have a child your life is not situated yet as to u don't have a career yet to support the child and i doubt you have a house. As for your boyfriend i bet he was your first try to get over it and focus More on your future.
2006-07-28 03:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Curtis P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋