Wedding vows?

Question

I am trying to write my weding vows and I am looking for some pointers to writing them

Answer 1

Hi there,

We wrote our own vows, and used some really simple techniques to get down on paper what we really felt.

Sit yourselves down (separately) and write a list of how the other person makes you feel. It can go on as long or as short as you'd like...then compare notes!

For example, I wrote down that my husband felt like "home" to me, and he wrote down that he wanted to build a home for ourselves (figuratively, and literally), so we ended up writing the following sentences:

You are the light of my day, my evening star, my home.

and

We will build a home together,
a home of our making,
To take shelter in each other,
And weather life’s storms together.

It was important for me to express that we would be together through the good times and bad, but without the standard line that is commonly used...so instead, we worked out:

will be with you to shoulder our challenges,
to cry with you in sadness,
to laugh with you in joy,
and to be your strength when you have none.

It was also important for both of us to include the word "fidelity" in the vows, so we put:

This is my promise,
To love and be loved,
With patience, kindness, fidelity, and constancy,
Until the end of all things.

It took a while, but we came out with lovely vows. Here they are in their entirity:


I name, take you, name, to be my husband / wife.

By taking your hands now, I am showing you that you are my one love.
I will be with you to shoulder our challenges,
to cry with you in sadness,
to laugh with you in joy,
and to be your strength when you have none.

You are the light of my day, my evening star, my home.
I promise to love and care for you,
And try every day to be worthy of your love in return.

As before, and now in marriage,
I will share your laughter,
embrace your dreams as my own,
hold you in my heart when we are apart,
And to hold you in my arms when we are together.

We will build a home together,
a home of our making,
To take shelter in each other,
And weather life’s storms together.

This is my promise,
To love and be loved,
With patience, kindness, fidelity, and constancy,
Until the end of all things.

I choose you, name, to be my husband / wife.

Answer 2

Write from your heart. What things can you promise, and write those down. If you can include humor in like my husband with (i'll kill every spider for you) it can break up the stiffness that you will feel. You may even find that what you write, isn't what you will say. My husband and I wrote ours. I read word for word, whereas my husband wrote something down and basically winged it. I think its important to write down, just to have a general knowledge of where your going with the vow, but winging it can actually feel more natural and at times more from the heart. The only big suggestion I have for you is watch the length.

Answer 3

My fiance and I are doing the same thing. We have looked on the web for some examples. I suggest the two of you take a night that is quiet and look into each other's eyes and then write down the words that I imagine will flow naturally. Good luck on your vows and in your wedding.

Answer 4

What are you asking strangers for. You should be writing whats from your heart. How you feel or how you fell in love. Your getting married for crying out loud. You dont need help with vows. It seems no one in the world takes marriage properly anymore. Its like a big game. Marriage is sacred and must always be respected. Im sorry but say whats in your heart. Your bloody getting married.

Answer 5

i think of you may no longer be too shocked in case you locate extremely opposition there. no longer too many females could take excitement of their husbands prepared to do some thing romantic like re-new their vows basically so as that they could sleep with individuals. Kinda places a damper on the gesture. nevertheless, each and each to their very own! She may well be questioning the comparable ingredient yet would not be attentive to the thank you to concepts-set the subject count with you! you be attentive to your spouse extra proper than anybody so basically you may properly be the choose of that. merely pay attention that if she would not choose for the belief then you definately could have important sucking as much as do to get decrease back in her good books.

Answer 6

Don't. Nothing wrong with a little discreet editing, like leaving out the parts about "obey" and "give away", but people are there for a traditional ceremony, not to be subjected to personal expression. Save your originality for offering toasts to your new spouse's family, to your guests, and so on.

Answer 7

Keep it personal, simple, and relatively short. Use some nice, colorful language. You will be talking directly to your very-soon-to-be-spouse, so keep that in mind as well.

Begin with something like, since I met you at...
my love has grown, like a woody stemmed rosebush, it has become more beautiful and more hardy overt time, and can now weather the strongest of storms...

something like that. I just made that up right now.

Don't forget to promise your undying love...

Good luck!

Answer 8

Go from the heart my dear, list all of the things you love about your other, make a poem from their name, the online dictionary/thesaurus is a big help with this one.

Answer 9

There are web sites & books to help you with that.
Say what's in your heart.

The clergy/minister will ask you to "declare your intent" The "Do you take.......til death us do part". So don't worry if the vows aren't perfect.

Answer 10

Just write them from your heart! Listen to what it tells you and how you feel and write that.