If u had to make a handbook for guys on how to treat a girl what r some of the things ud include?

Question

please write some stuff that most guys do that gets on ur nerves and basicly have a list of some major dos and donts (for casual and intimate relationships).

i want answers that apply to teenagers

Answer 1

IGNORE whatever everyone else is saying right now! I'm not saying you're wrong ladies, but just hear me out to understand where I'm coming from before you make the decision if I'm right or wrong.

(My advice applies to teenagers just as much as it does for old married couples by the way.)

Most women have absolutely NO idea what they want. (This is especially true of the teenagers.) If they did, they certainly don't go about it the right way when they try to explain it to others. Otherwise they'd have found "Mr. Perfect" by now instead of constantly dating around with the hopes that the next guy they get into a relationship with might be a better fit. (Makes sense if you ask me...)

This is really a question that a man needs to answer, and since there are so few of them on here, I'll do the honors. The following is a very short list of Dos and Don'ts that I would suggest using if a guy wants to actually get into and maintain a healthy relationship with YOU ladies:

1. DON'T be a "nice" guy.

When they say be "nice," they don't mean be a wuss. Most women generally grow to despise "momma's boys." This means anything from constantly complimenting her looks to telling her you love her all the time. In other words, quit being a girl. That's their job. Be a man and grow some balls for crying out loud. If you're in a relationship where the woman allows you to act like this, odds are she's using you for something, and it's probably money...not the hot sex you think you have to offer her. (Lol, I kill myself.)

2. Don't cling to her like she's the only woman in existence.

This means don't call her ten times a day wondering what she's up to. Go do something more productive with your time instead of always thinking about her like she's some kind of goddess (or even worse, thinking of her as your property). Hang out with your friends more often, because if you're the clingy sort, you most likely haven't been talking to them as much as you used to and should. Show YOURSELF that you don't NEED her to keep on living. I'm not saying to ignore her completely, but you do need to give the relationship room to breath, or you'll choke it to death.

3. Don't get jealous.

If you can't handle the fact that she has other friends that are also guys, and wants to hang out with them now and again too, or knows MORE about something than you, or even if she's physically stronger than you, you've got problems. ALL women find insecurity to be a turn off, and jealousy is just insecurity in disguise.

4. Don't try to "buy" her or "win" her over.

Pickup-lines are lame and a waste of your time. (Don't believe me? Memorize a ton of zingers or one-liners and go try them all out in one night. Hell, do it every night for the next month while you're at it. Don't forget to try it on the really drunk chicks in the bars too. Proving theories with science is a fickle process you know.) This is just as true as buying her expensive gifts to show your affection. It might not be your intention, (although it probably is,) but women see this as you trying to manipulate them into having sex with you, so knock it off. (If you're reading this and you're married, it's fine to buy something once in a great while for your partner, but I'd recommend only to buy for them if it's for a special occasion. No sense in ruining a good thing with too much repition.)

5. Don't be an ******.

You'd think that would be self-explanatory wouldn't you? Teasing someone and then being a jerk are two different things entirely. Figure it out from there guys.

6. Do be a gentlemen.

A gentlemen is not actually a "nice" guy, unlike the popular opinion would seem to suggest. If you don't know what being a gentlemen is, look it up in a dictionary. To give you an idea (for those of you who are too lazy to find the definition), just show some class now and then. A good place to start would be looking up that definition...

7. Do (try at least to) be charming.

You don't have to be James Bond to sweep a girl off her feet. Look them in the eyes (hell, gaze into them if you have the capacity for it) when you have something to say, and pay attention to the conversation. Surprise the hell out of her by having something valuable to input to what's being talked about instead of fantasizing about having sex with her. (Your chances of getting "laid" are so...so so so much higher if you can keep your mind off of it and stay focused long enough to have a decently meaningful conversation with her.) Don't give her full control of the conversation though. If she says something that reminds you about something interesting that YOU know something about, by all means, share the knowledge, show you're not just another loser who just wants to get in her pants all the time, spit it out man. Just do it before the moment passes.

8. Do make things fun (for yourself first and foremost).

It's ALWAYS better if you're relaxed and having a good time, because a woman with a good head on her shoulders will be able to pick up on that and join in the fun with you. Flirt, but don't molest. Tease them when they say something you think is funny. Just do anything except stay quiet and boring basically.

9. Do know when to quit.

This shouldn't be hard for anyone to figure out. If she's laughing, keep going, but if she's giving you the the evil stare of death, you might wanna turn it down a notch or two. If you're putting the moves on her and then suddenly she says "No," then you better hope someone like me isn't around if you continue. Odds are, it won't end well. Even if someone isn't there to give you the b!tchslap of Understanding...

10. Do know when to leave.

If she's insecure, abusive, or just an all around *****, leave. Your time is too valuable to be spending it with someone who doesn't respect you and can't get along with. However, don't confuse being a ***** with playing hard to get. Give her a dose of her own medicine if you catch one playing with your head. Lastly, don't put up with anything about her that she won't put up with about you. Leave if she makes something like this a problem.


These are all basic things that you'd think most poeple would know by now, but alas, it is not so.

Other things that I thought were a little too obvious to include in the list were cheating, physical abuse, and so on. You get the idea. If all men (and hell even a lot of women too if put in the right context) could just read and apply all these rules...

Answer 2

1-Don't brag about a past relationship cause we don't care, were not trying to fill anyones shoes.
2-Don't be controlling, nobody likes to be told what to do or how to do it especially if ur not our parent
3-Don't try to tell us what to wear and how to wear it,
4-Accept us for who we r and what we look like when u meet us, later on don't make comments about weight, hair, nails and feet because a true lady will know that these r things that she needs to keep up on her own..
5-Don't be possesive, by telling us where we can go and where we can't go, what friends we can have and can't have
6-Don't question where we r going all the time, if we want u to know we will tell u
7-Be honest and upfront about any type of relationships that u may have going when u meet us.. We like to decide if we want to be cheated on, lied to, or deceived.. Thats our decision to make..
8-If during the course of our relationship and u wanna move on or see other people, say so, we r not mind readers
9-Don't be a stalker
10-If we don't return any of ur calls we don't want to be bothered.
11-Don't make nice w/our female friends.. There our friends and u shouldn't be around them.
12-Don't volunteer all our business.. Pick 1-2 very close friends that u trust to talk to... Know what part of the business to keep private as well.
13-If ur using our bathroom, wash ur hands and keep the seat down.
14-Be helpful, not lazy, or selfish.
15-Give us the attention that we want and keep it consistent
16-Don't be rude in public when ur w/us
17-Don't give any other chick attention when ur w/us especially while we r looking
18-Don't cheat.. if ur tempted, let us know, hell maybe we'll even join u...

Here r a few, hope there helpful

Answer 3

First thing is to make sure you tell them to listen, and actually hear what the female is saying.

Never ever treat your girl like she was the last girlfriend he had that really hurt him so badly.
they are two different females.

I could go on forever but I think this a question for the younger group, the things that I have been through they will not quite get it so early into the love game....

Answer 4

well the reason why i like the guy that i like is because he is unbelievably nice to me. he always lets me in through doors first and treats me like im something superspecial. hes not afraid to choose me over his friends :D well thats the basic stuff, if u wanna go deeper then be very very sincere and sweet, and the thing about girls is that we love to talk and be listened to, so make a lot of questions and let her talk and listen to her. try that :) good luck!! :D

Answer 5

id have to put no scratching/adjusting your "stuff"! that is so gross!
no groping me UNLESS I say to.
dont look at other females.
dont cheat.
dont pick your nose and or any other body part.
dont talk about one subject constantly.
dont make fun of things women like to do just because you dont know how too.

Answer 6

*stop ogoling every girl that passes when i'm with you
*dont comment on other girls breasts/bodies to me
*dont sleep with other girls
*dont kiss other girls
*pretty much dont touch other girls if you want to get that hand back

Answer 7

when a girl doesn't look at you when she answers...there's an underlining meaning.

EXAMPLE: no nothings wrong **look in the eye and smile* all is good
...no, nothing is wrong ***no look in the eyes, high/low tonation...SOMETHING IS WRONG****

I don't do this. but all my friends do.

Answer 8

Be yourself.
Be honest.
Be faithful.
Goes both ways.

Answer 9

Don't be offended if she can do something better than you.

Answer 10

treat her with respect, and don't be an asshole ;)