how should i tell my friend that his gal is cheating behind his back?

Question

without hurting him too much.. he loves her deeply n trusts her completely but i saw with my own eyes his gf was kissing another guy passionately!

Answer 1

if u r a real true friend u should tell him by talking to him privately and calmly. do take notice how u say it though..u dont want him 2 think ur jealous

Answer 2

First, make sure that there is no possible motive for you to make up such a story. If there is one, than he is likely to think you are betraying him.

I wouldn't bother getting his **** gf to confess. If she wanted to she would have already. She's not going to because she has a good thing going.

If you have evidence, like a photograph, that would be best. Otherwise, you may want to approach him saying something like, "if you had a friend and you saw their gf cheating on them, would you tell them about it". He will be interested in what you're saying. He may also get a hint of where you're going with this. Then, spill the beans to him. Tell him EXACTLY what you saw, what she was wearing, where this was, what time it was...etc. The more details you give, the more likely he is to believe you. If he doubts you, ask him to confront his **** girlfriend and tell her that HE saw her in your shoes. She will almost certainly confess. If he's not convinced, have him hire a private investigator to catch her in the act, and then dump her. Alternatives to spying on her with a PI include GPS trackers. This is a pretty seedy thing to do, but then again, so it cheating. They sell them at Sharper Image and run around $500. You can track anyone's movements from your computer provided you've hidden the tracker in their car, bag, whatever. Again, this is extreme, but I've seen married couples do it.

The most important thing is for you to be supportive. Let him know that you will stand by hum as a friend no matter what he decides to do, but that you thought he would want to know. Don't bother with the gf. If she was careless enough to get caught, chances are she won't respond very well to you telling her to fess up.

Answer 3

This is a real dilemma. If he loves this girl like you say? You risk losing the friendship. On the other hand as his friend you should have his back. I think I would tell him in front of his girl . She can deny it but hopefully he will see that she's lying. Explain to him how you struggled with telling him. You love him and can't stand to sit by while he is being played for a fool. Point out that you have no motive for lying . That it hurts you also to be the one to give him this horrible news. He may be mad at you, but if you have a strong friendship he will get over it and still be your friend. If he cuts you off for doing this then he really isn't worth having for a friend. Good Luck

Answer 4

There is one of those situations that you have to handle quite carefully because comming too softly and they won't get the point and too strong and they won't belive him....

Best advice I can give you is don't worry about hurting him.. She allready hurt him, he just dosen't know it yet... If you can get physicall evidence, then get it... But my suggestion is to lay the seed of dowbt without actually spelling it out for him... and let it go for a while and keep makeing subttle hints... If a month passes and he dosen't start being suspicious (especially if she continues) then go ahead and tell him....

Telling the girlfriend might work... But then again... she might just tell him that you are trying to break the relationship up... so its a 50/50 shot...

Answer 5

Ok.....The bottom line is, have you watch pirate of the carribean lately?........if you do,recall there is a scent where the female actress kissing jack sparrow on the boat.Is that give you a clear hint wat the rock is cooking?
Make sure there is really something behind the curtain before take the next step.......1 wrong step may cause fatal to other.But if you are thinking of telling your friend then i think that you better telling him all what you see baldly....dont add in the word"i think & from my view"hoped my simple advice will spark the magic for you.

Answer 6

Sometimes things are not exactly as you see them...thats really giving her the benefit of the doubt. You could talk to him...if he deeply trusts her as you say he does, then she is making a fool out of him. Carefully talk to him...don't say too much...and be ready to listen to him....he probably already has his suspicions...Maybe if you open the subject he will tell you tht he has his suspicions...don't get involved too much...after all, if they don't break up, they could both be mad at you.

Answer 7

There is NO way to tell your friend that his girl is cheating on him and NOT hurt him. Don't beat around the bush... tell him the facts... "Sorry man but I think you should know I saw..."

Answer 8

What is the relationship between yourself and your friend ? After all, he is a male and I can tell you he loss nothing. Don't mistaken by others and also not good to be a "kay poh". Thus, mind your own business.

Answer 9

if the guy is your friend am sure his girlfriend is your friend too, try and call her or make her aware that you know all that she's been doing behind his boyfriend's back. tell her to stop or you'll tell her guy. i think with this she'll stop! you can also find out why she's doing that

Answer 10

He aint gona thank you, and more than likely your friendship may end. You are a true friend if you tell him, he does need to know and if he finds out that you knew and ddt say anything you are gona get it anyway. So you are gona get it either way.. Good luck with that...