a question for christans to answer for me.?

Question

my family stopped going to church about 2 yrs ago,cause of my husbands work . we always hate searching for a new church and trying to fit in. weve gotten so far away from god that you would have never known we were born again christians. we both work to make ends meet and so tired and dont have the energy to go out looking for a new place to go. my husband likes the traditional to southern gospel and i only like the contemperary services, so we struggle with that to ! god has been speaking to me lately. how can we get back in church where we were with our busy lives now. do you have any advice for me?

Answer 1

If church going is a priority, which is sounds like it is, you will make time for it. Pray that your husband will lead in this decision. It is important as a believer to attend church because that is where we interact as the Body of Christ.

Answer 2

You don't mention where you live and I can't say I really blame you. There are many nuts out there reading these things. Since your husband likes southern gospel, I assume he also like southern gospel music. The same radio station I listen to is also available on the internet. Go to: www.joyfm.org. They play southern gospel music 24-7. I believe there is a sermon in every song. Try tuning it in while he is around. If he hears it like in the background, it will probably inspire him and then you at least have him interested. God will start pulling on his heart-stings once again and then all you have to do is let him think that it is his idea to go to church. You can always convince someone to do something when they think that they thought of it first. Another thing you need to do is pray, pray, pray. You already know that faith as large as a mustard seed can move mountains. I can testify to that because I once was a mountain myself. My wife believed and I wasn't even interested. We have been married for 28 years now and I am a deacon in my church. Ihope that I have been some help. May God bless you all.

Answer 3

Speaking from experience, I know God has not given up on you and will welcome you back with open arms. Actually He has never left, as He lives in you. It's a matter of priorities, and when you get down to it all the other stuff is just "stuff". The Devil has us believing all sorts of lies and can be pretty convincing, but God has authority over him and you are precious to Him. So start by recognizing your need to get back with God - the Bible says if you draw close to Him, He will draw close to you. Ask for His guidance and intervention in directing you to where He would have you worship. Some churches have both traditional and contemporary services, so search around. In the truest Biblical sense, with your husband as head of your household submit to him and go to the more traditional service. God can change anyone's heart, can speak through the most unusual circumstances, and you just might like it.
When you get down to it, it's a matter of deciding God is important and being willing to give Him the time He deserves. I know, I was a single parent for many years with a demanding job (I'm a nurse) and all the responsibilities those roles entail. And once I decided I needed to give God His rightful place in my life and the hours of my days, I was amazed that I still managed to get what I need done, and what didn't get done didn't really matter in the first place. Plus I found the gift of Christian friends and blessings too numerous to count.
Hang in there - God will show you the way. Just be open, and listen, because He's talking to you :-)

Answer 4

I am sorry if this offends some, but i havent been to church for about four years. The reason is not because i dont have time or any other excuse but simply that what i believe is totally different to some people that do go to church.

Some go to church, pray and sing for the hour of the service and go home to beat their wives and children.

Church like home is where the heart is. A person can praise and pray alone there is no need to have someone tell you how to do it.

If you love the lord and keep him in your heart and show his ways and love in your actions you are a far better person and christian than most other people that do attend church


Well thats my opinion anyway

Answer 5

Simplify your life so that you have time for what is important. You would be amazed at how much you do that is needed. I suggest you sit down with your husband (and this could take several sessions) and write down your collective vision for your family. But only focus on the most important concerns. Talk about what is important about church...frankly music is a concern but not generally the most important issue. Agree to make an effort. You will likely need to stop doing some things...but that is ok. You will be much happier when most of your time is spent doing what you know is best for your family.

Answer 6

Most importantly, what has God been saying to you? If He's telling you to find a new church, then you need to do that. If He's simply telling you to find people to have fellowship with, find some fellow Christian friends and start studying weekly! I have been in and out of a few churches, and never felt fulfilled with them. My husband and I have been in the same place for a number of years, so it's not like we can move somewhere else and find a church. For the past two years, we have been holding various bible studies, prayer groups, and support groups with another married couple, very good friends of ours that were also not satisfied with the churches in our area. The 'church' is really about the gathering of people, it doesn't have to be in a building necessarily. As long as you have a solid support group in faith, you can hold meetings and studies yourselves. I have gotten so much out of my good friends in these groups in the past two years than I ever got out of going to church on Sundays. God bless, and good luck!

Answer 7

I'll pray for you to find your answer. I'll also pray that you'll get up and go to a church. It's tough finding a church that one person likes muchless two. I would compromise at first and go where your husband wants togo since you're feeling the need more then him. The message is the most important part. Get back around a community of believers. It helps keep your faith in a world that constantly attacks you for believing in Jesus. Peace & Love

Answer 8

You have taken the first step. Now take the second and begin your search. I can tell you right now that you will not find an organization that will fulfill all of your expectations. Yet, I am sure you will find in any denomination those who are the true children of God. Take your time and do not get frustrated. Look at it like a journey and enjoy the trip.

Answer 9

Forget religion.

Christ is the path of salvation.
Christ is the truth of God's Word.
Christ is the life eternal.

Joh 14:6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.

Christ is the tree of life.

Gen 3:22 And the LORD God said, Behold, the man is become as one of us, to know good and evil: and now, lest he put forth his hand, and take also of the tree of life, and eat, and live for ever:

You have a Bible don't you?

That's all you need to be in church, the body of Christ, His Word, His Spirit, His will, and His love.

Answer 10

When you say that you don't have the energy to look for a new church what are you really saying?
You have the energy for those things in your life you choose to make the energy for.
You like contemporary - your husband likes traditional, compromise there are a number of churches that have both. One week go to his service of choice the next one go to yours.
There are many churches out there that have services more than once a week to accomodate those who have to work during the Sunday services.

You work hard to make ends meet - of that I have no doubt.
The harder you work alone, the harder it is.
When you work with God your burden is not alone.

Matt 11:28-30 says
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

There are many places in the bible where it tells us we are to come together with our brothers and sisters to worship.
(I'll let you get reaquainted with your bible and look them up yourself).

Remember Mark 3:25
Jesus tells us "If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand"

Most people do not like to acknowledge that Satan and demons exist. They only like to talk about God, Jesus, and heaven.
But Satan and his demons do exist, and it sounds as if they are working very hard at your house to make sure that you don't go back to church.
"You work to hard - you need to stay home and get some rest. We don't like the same kind of service - rather that compromise let's just skip it" those are the demon of division at work.

You obviously want to get closer to God again.
You can do it.
A llittle effort goes a long way.
The ladies in my bible study and have commmented sooooo many times about how hard it was to get out the door to get there.
The phone kept ringing, the kids were not co-operating, we were tired and just didn't feel like going were the top three.
When ever it was the hardest to get there - something big was revealed that day.
The harder it is for you to get there - the more there is for you there.

Persevere!!
You can do it - I have faith in you that you can do this.

One last thing, and this has been proven to me time and time again.
When I think I don't have time to go to church - I find that I run out of time for everything else too.
When I give God one hour of my time I get so much back.
You just can't out give God.

I'll be praying for you.

Answer 11

Have you ever tried just meeting together at home, as a family? Or what about inviting friends or other family to your home for Bible study or fellowship? Perhaps friends you invite would tell you where they enjoy going, and things could slowly develop from there.

There is more than one way to skin a cat. People who say you have to be a member at a particular church, are usually just regurgitating words they hear from pastors whose priority is often "building" or "expanding" their particular church.