We have been together for 3 years and are very happy together. I asked him out so surely its his turn now! How can I do this without making him suspect?
2006-07-28 02:19:26 · 20 answers · asked by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
men are awkward when it comes to marriage! i asked mine ages ago if believed or agreed wit marriage and if he wanted to marry one day. i did this all hypothetically you understand. anyway about a month after that he proposed but i thought he was joking and so ignored him.
what is another good idea is to talk to your boyf's best mate or better still his sisiter and find out his views on it before you go dropping any hints.
plan a dead romantic weekend. you know, nice hotel, meal, wine etc. talk about this weekend and how romantic it will be and how much you can't wait and tell him you love him. if nothing else it plants the seed of romance in his brain doesn't it?
let us know if any of these work! (may keep em for future reference!)
2006-07-28 02:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by alk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 possible futures for the two of you (1) backing off from the relationship, see less of each other, maybe even start seeing other people (2) keeping things just the way they are (3) moving forward with the relationship to some sort of serious commitment.
If you'd rather just continue with things the way the are than risk cooling the relationship, there is a good chance that this is exactly what will will happen. But if "going steady" is getting kind of old, you have to set a time limit (maybe one more year) on option #2 and take that chance.
2006-07-28 03:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure you can do this without being obvious. But you can have a watered down version of "the talk" with him. You know, bring up marriage and ask if he sees you guys going in that direction. Mention to him that you want to be with him forever. You could just bust out with, at a random time or a very romantic moment the fact that you would love to grow old with him and spend your life with him.
I am going to just tell you one thing based on the experience of two friends of mine - do NOT take him to look at engagement rings, wedding dresses, any of that stuff before you have a marriage talk with him!!! It tends to freak guys out. I'm not sure why but my theory is that weddings scare guys a lot more than marriage does. So if you concentrate on the marriage and hint about that, I honestly think it will be much more helpful than mentioning a wedding. Good luck!!
2006-07-28 02:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to propose. He'll do it when he's ready.
My partner and I talked about getting married and having kids one day from quite early on in our relationship, and both knew that it was going to happen at some point. But it was still quite some time until he felt ready to actually ask me - but that meant that when he did ask I knew that he was as sure about it as I was.
If you try to push him into it you'll never really be sure whether it was really what he wanted.
2006-07-28 10:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are slow to hints. Try laying out pictures of brides from magazines... or even better if you have friends that are married, talk about how beautiful their wedding was and how you can not wait to be a bride yourself. If all the hinting gets you no where you will have to be straight to the point, ask him where he sees the relationship going. Ask him what his plans for his future are. You may be surprised to find out that he already has you planned in his future, but weddings seem to be less important to men then they are to us women
2006-07-28 02:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by echofayette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to do it. If he is going to ask you to marry him he is going to do it when he is ready to do so. I would hope that after 3 years of dating that you all could communicate about anything. If so, go to dinner one night and talk about it. There is nothing wrong with you asking where the relationship is going or what he sees for you long term. Good luck!
2006-07-28 02:43:25 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start talking about kids and spending your life together forever.
One of two things could happen. This kind of talk will make him really happy and think about marriage.
or..
He will freak out and you will never see him again.
Either way, it will be a good test of your relationship and you can get on with your life.
2006-07-28 02:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by bretto24 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you don't "make" him do anything - especially if you've been together three years. I think if he doesn't start making plans for a commitment, he's probably not going to.
2006-07-28 02:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you propose to him? Be original and do what you want to do. The guy doesnt have to be the one to propose.
2006-07-28 02:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by lacia2159 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him straight out if he can see ye getting married/having kids then depending on his answer say we should have a look this weekend at engagement rings 'just so you know what kind i want'
2006-07-28 11:05:12 · answer #10 · answered by irish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋