She's throwing me a 'surprise' bridal shower type thing this saturday. My friends and I live in NY.. she's in PA and having it there. She told all my friends who are willing to take the drive and have a way to get there that they cannot give me any sort of 'dirty' gift like undergarments for the honeymoon.. or basically anything that can't be opened in a church with my family there.. which is now my bridal party.. in a church with my father and elementary aged nephews there...
The thing I'm really upset about.. I had a specific photo I was using in my invitations.. and I showed it to her and told her that. She asked to make a copy cause she really liked it so I had no problem with that. She then took it and sent it out in all of HER bridal invatations (which she sent to everyone on my side of the family).. I needed to use that picture in my invites and I just stayed up all night working on them. I don't have time to do anything else and I'm REALLY upset with her. What do i do?
2006-07-28 01:22:44 · 14 answers · asked by sputnixx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I haven't sent mine out yet... but everyone already has the picture now so it seems stupid to include it.. she's ALWAYS tried to show me up.. and she's doing it again with this. She did it on purpose.. and she still doesn't know that I know about the bridal thing. I'm really hurt that she'd try to screw me over with my wedding details.. it's really low.
2006-07-28 01:29:47 · update #1
My sister is a cold hearted b****... she actually had the bridal thing in PA and said to my fiance "it doesn't matter where I have it.. her friends don't care enough to show up anyways.." .. which is RUDE! and totally untrue.. I have friends flying in from all around the world to come to my wedding... I dunno.. I just worked on my invites by hand for 10 hours and the picture is something it needed. If I don't get the invites out today people won't get them in time. Her fiance left her 2 years ago and she's been VERY bitter and hurtful since the wedding is drawing closer..
2006-07-28 01:33:15 · update #2
Nevermind.. unless you had a sister that since you were born was throwing plastic bags into your crib to try to get your to accidently kill yourself I guess you don't get it. I just thought we were past this. The only reason it was a 'surprise' was because she wanted control since I wouldn't have my wedding at her church and told her I wouldn't have any wedding event there.
2006-07-28 01:35:53 · update #3
last detail.. before I crash for an hour or two... this isn't the sister of the maid of honor.. this is my sister who I stupidly made the maid of honor.
2006-07-28 01:37:43 · update #4
Very last comment.. by picture.. I meant a black and white photo of my fiance and I that I was going to include.. not a drawing or something. It was a formal picture of us that I had specifically for my invites.
2006-07-28 01:39:25 · update #5
At this point, I would really suggest not putting the pics into the invitations. I understand that you would be hurt. If she knew that you were planning that for your invitations I can see why you would be as upset as you are. I think that maybe talking to her if possible in a calm and patient manner about your feelings is important. I dont know if it's too late, but you could just move one of the bridesmaids to the maid of honor position. Especially if the dress is the same for everyone. It would allow her to still be in the wedding but no in the position of Maid of Honor. The only reason I say about changing it is that you will need someone who is like your best friend being there next you on the day of your wedding and the night before. You will have tons of emotions and you don't want someone who will drive you nuts.
2006-07-28 10:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mae V 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You need to stop stressing. Use the picture you made. If people recognize it as the same one your sister sent out they'll just think you two are coordinating. Don't worry if your sister told guests not to give you underwear. You have a long life in front of you, you can get all the underwear you need some other time.
It sounds to me like you're having some sister issues. You need to figure it out with her, but do it some other time, don't let it overshadow your marriage. Whatever games she is playing you should not let her get in the way. You haven't mentioned once that you're excited to get married, or in love with your fiancee, etc. Think about that. Marriage is for a lifetime, and sisters are too. You have time to work it all out.
2006-07-28 01:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Monso Orda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are they guys at the bridal shower? it should be a girl thing and most bridal showers include dirty gifts as long as they wont offend you which it seems like it shouldnt. I got dirty gifts at my wedding that i opened in front of all my guests. it wants a big deal and it should be and your friends can get you anythign they want. I suggest telling them to get you dirty gifts anyways just to piss your sister off since she doesn't care about your feelings at all. have it your way. just because she is throwing it doesnt mean you cant interfere with it. she seems to interfere with your life. that was rude of her about the picture. i would just sent it out anyways if you already have it done and ready.
2006-07-28 11:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that she is your sister, i ought to have her in the marriage as a bridesmaid. i don't have a sister yet i recognize it is the right element to do. Do you imagine she will do something loopy like no longer happen or something? I variety of doubt it yet i do not recognize her. i imagine in case you do not have her in the marriage it ought to reason better issues in the longer time period, and also you need to remorseful about it in the destiny, quite if she straightens out. sturdy success and that i wish you've an striking wedding ceremony. P.S. Is there someone who can help reign her in on the marriage day if she is going to reason a situation? I have a chum who had an aunt help and kept the placement bridesmaids in verify.
2016-11-26 20:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by minissale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how upset you are. I have a friend who became "ex-friends" with someone else because one chose the same reception place as the other for their wedding and they had a falling out of it. Needless to say, they still both don't talk. Tell her how you feel and how hard you worked on it and that you don't want your work to go to waste.
2006-07-28 01:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by TakingStock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it and find another picture you really love. It's not worth arguing or losing a friend over this. It's stressful enough getting married. She paid you a compliment by trying to be like you....so work on another pic and don't show her this time.
2006-07-28 01:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say "i really do appreciate what your doing for me and all and dont take this the wrong way ..but this is my bridal shower and i want to be part of the orginaizing situation too" .. tell her how you feel and what you want..
2006-07-28 01:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by rel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and elope. Make it a surprise so she can't top you on that one. Then come back and throw a blow out party the weekend before her wedding.
2006-07-28 01:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that this is your wedding and your day!!
not hers!! tell her b-i-t-c-h a-s-s to back off!!!
tell her everything you feel and tell her how angry you were that she used your photo. tell her to get her own life and grow up, she should want the best for you since your her sister.
if you're that angry, possibly take her off of being ur maid of honor.
a maid of honor is someone who is loyal to you and a best friend to you. not someone who sabotages your life.
good luck and congrats on your wedding.
as far as the inviations go... just send them out.. its too late not to
2006-07-28 11:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by TK #11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her thanks but no thanks. This is about you and it should
include what you want. Plus she has no right to tell your friends
what to get you. If she felt like she needed to take the initiative
then she should have asked you what you wanted. And isn't
it the maid of honor's job to organize the shower and not the
sister of the maid of honor?
2006-07-28 01:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by retrodragonfly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋