how do i tell the one that i love that i have feelings for another person even though i love him!?

Answer 1

i think i understand a bit of what it feels...
First question (which i doubt if does have an answer in the first place?) what is love? which leads to the second question, are you really sure that what u're feelings to those guys is love?.

cuz just because, u want to be with him, does it mean that it is love? just because u cant stop thinking bout him, is it love? just because you've had sex with him, is it love?

i personally think that love is a selfish form of caring. why? because u want that someone to be yours, and yours only. right?

so my suggestion is evaluate your feelings for them. to whom do you feel the "real love". and of course the meaning of true love goes back to you.

if you're a religious person, try to adapt the concept of love based on it, and decide which one is better.

if you're not, then based it on where you want to go with your life?
do you want to be an artist? then pick the one who dont get jealous easily
if you want to be a researcher in the middle of nowhere, pick the one that can handle solitude

but of course it's just a way to help you evaluate your feelings.

if you've made up your mind, then say it. the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. if he really do love you in a good way, he'll understand eventually.

just make sure explain everything, and NO LIES.

because if you think of it. maybe you never loved him in the first place. because if you did, you'll never think off leaving him just because of another guy. good luck

Answer 2

Well lovely it depends on you as a person. It is a good thing to be honest in a relationship, but if u tell your partner that u have feelings for someone else this relationship is gona make it or break it. Make sure that u do have true feelings for this other individual and that it is not just infatuation. Weigh up the odds and if it is true then tell your partner.Be honest and straight to the point, dont go around in circles.Your choice at the end of the day! Good luck with that..............

Answer 3

this is a lil bit of a difficult situation. it's ok to have feelings for someone else, having the attractions. now it all depends on what u do about it. i think honesty is the best for all relationships but honestly your just going to make things weird between the two of u and if u hang out with this person occasionally then when u do go out you'll have problems with your love. just as long as your true to yourself and him (as in not cheating) your ok. just if u di feel your feelings getting stronger for this person you should let your love go and not string him a long with u because that's how you'll hurt him even more and there will probably be no hope for friendship.

Answer 4

i think u have a mental problem. u cant like multiple ppl to the same extent. or u are jus fooling urself that u love both these guys cos u want to have fun with both. i feel sad for ur guy

Answer 5

Gee, that's a tough one. If you have feelings for another, yet you love the person you're with, then I'd say it's a tough, tough call.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation a few years back--I think it was in 2000. She'd been with her boyfriend for about eight years, but in grad school where she was studying pharmacy, she met a guy that she rilly liked. She started seeing him casually--not rilly dates, but just as friends.

The guy told her that he liked her too. But she told him that she had a boyfriend. She even told her boyfriend about the guy--actually, it was her fiancé. He told her he would be open about it and let her see the guy, so she could decide for herself.

She felt very confused. She talked to me about it a couple of times. Finally she told the second guy that she could not date him because she wanted to be loyal to her boyfriend. He told her, "Ok, I'll be waiting on the wings." I remember that because she asked me what "on the wings" meant. (She is from Vietnam, of Chinese descent; came to the US as a refugee in 1976 or '77 [as did her fiancé--who happens to be her husband now].)

So she decided to stay with the guy she loved already, but she was very tempted to try someone new. I told her maybe she kind of had that feeling because she was about to be married, and maybe part of her wanted to know other people before settling on such a final decision as marriage.

Of course, she also admitted to me soon after she moved to a different city--through e-mail--that while we used to hang out together in our UCLA days, she also had "fantasies" about me sometimes. I still remember her e-mail: "I know it [sic] bad, because we're friends...". But that's another story. I also had very strong feelings about her, because she is a very attractive woman. We would hang out a lot...go to the gym, play racquetball, go have pho at the Vietnamese/Chinese/Thai restaurant (Noodle Planet) in Westwood. But one thing she never did was see a movie with me. She said she wouldn't want to see her boyfriend with another girl at a movie, so she felt seeing a movie with me would be too much. She was very dedicated to her boyfriend. I respect that.

Answer 6

read some articles on this site on the ways to say i love you

Answer 7

Think carefully before u risk ur relationship. Don't take things for granted. U'll pay in the end. Appreciate wat u have and thank God. There's too much ppl much worse than u. Don't ruin wat u have