How can I teach my children (6,4,1) to not hate?

Answer 1

Yup. The best way would be to set an example.

Love God, your wife, and your children.
Time to time say it out loud to all of them.

And then, also tell them how hating another person could lead to helath problems. Research proves it. Love everyone and you can be free.
Jesus says so. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your mind and all your strength." and "Love your neighbour as yourself". Mark 12:28-30

Answer 2

By your own actions and reactions.

That is, do not preach. Casual explanation, observation or a 'story' will not only impress them and have a more lasting impact.

For example, Take obesity.......
When your kids are around do not recoil from an obese person, do not make a negative statement.

Smile and say hello AND say something positive about them. Like: Didn't he/she have bright and sparkling eyes?.

This will teach your children to see the positives more than the negatives in others.

You also get more bang for your buck, a double whammy so to speak. Your children will be less judgmental and they will spend their adulthood talking about how fine a father you are!!!

Answer 3

First of all don't teach them to notice a difference in color. Next show them love unconditionally. Tell them everyone deserves to be loved, no matter what. People are different and that's what makes them special. We live in a very diverse world, and we must learn to get along with everyone. Different color, sexual orientation/ preference etc, what ever the case may be. It's what is in the heart, not the color of the skin or sexual preference, or someone who is a man dressing up as a woman, or vice versa, cross dressing or what ever the case maybe. I've taught my child to love all people, and she has a very open mind. Her heart is as big as the sky. My daughter treats all people the same no matter who they are or what they do. (as long as they aren't out hurting people) But I've also taught her to be cautious about people because I don't want her to get hurt. So this is something you really have to play by ear, but the thing is to accept people for who they are and keep an open mind.

Answer 4

Set an example of tolerance and open mindedness. Kids learn from what they see and here at home. My kids grew up in a very racist area and do not have a racist bone in their body. I taught them from birth people are people. I never allowed them to say or act hateful with each other or anyone else. They would get mad and argue but there was a line they didn't cross. My husband and I have always been kind to each other . They saw this growing up and they are all 3 kind adults. Parenting is a hard job but the rewards are so worth it. God Bless You and Your Family I hope I was able to help.

Answer 5

Teaching the 'Golden Rule.' Role playing helps a lot at those ages. When someone treats them mean ask them how that makes them feel, the same when someone is kind, use the characters in movies and TV show as examples, explain how you would handle certain situations and why it is important to you. Just remember they have short attention spans, keep it simple.

Answer 6

What do they hate? If it's food, than they can have a chice (healthy one), but with people, you have to explain to them that it's not a good thing to do, and of course show your own example, what's going on in the house, usually kids are very sensitive things try to keep away them from stressful situations.Spend some time together, tell them you love them.

Answer 7

My Dear,
It should start from yourself. Set a good example in helping others regardless of race and religion for all of us are the same. The feel of hunger, anger, pain, sorrow and the likes are the same to ALL. Be prepared to help others and the youngs who see will follow suit.
My mum and dad used to help others though we were poor. We barely had enough for a family of thirteen but that never stopped them to help others in need. My mum taught me how not to look down on lepers for they are our neighbours. The lepers may have ugly faces, bent arms or limbs but in them they have lovely hearts. HOW I come to know? Because I mixed with them and nothing happened to me. I didn't get the sickness.

Answer 8

by showing that your the same. My mother, and this was during the 40's and 50's when hating others and other race's was kinda acceptable... never showed or talked or acted hateful towards others. She never gave into stereotypes, like racial slurs or anything. I learned from her to accept all others till you get to know them. And that each person is an individual.

Answer 9

one of the best ways to teach children is by telling them good stories. the bed time stories make lasting impact on delicate minds.try.

Answer 10

the 6yr, has already have things he dont like-hate. which is normal.
there will always be things and people that they will hate in their lifetime.HATE IS A NORMAL EMOTION!!! JUST LEARN TO CONTROL IT. AND NOT HURT SOMETHING OR SOMEONE.
im sure you, as their parent, hate something or someone. like hating to eat certain foods, hate people that act a certain way, you hate when your children misbehave or hate they dont obey the rules.
those are things that hating is good and not harmful

im 1 out 8 kids, im in the middle, we are all grown now and have kids of our own.
MYSELF, I hate people that are rude and hate people that talk on their cell phones, and hate crying , screaming babies and kids, and hate when someone drives only 25mph, on freeway.