I find my boyfriend immature, what should I do?

Question

I love my boyfriend very much, but I often find him immature.For example he is ALWAYS playing play station and watching cartoons. We have been together for 3 years and are the same age(24). Will this get better in time? I have spoken to him about it but he dosent seem to think its a problem.

I dont mind him playing video games, its just that given the chance he would play all day and night and never wash.
He watches childrens cartoons like Cbeebies, you know for the under 5's! I dont think thats normal!
I dont want to change him very much, I just think he should get a life!
Its ok for him to destress, but not to the extent where our living room is out of bounds 24 hours a day. He has actually hit me in the face in his sleep because he was having a dream about killing people from a game.

Answer 1

I am in your situation, me and my guy are both 23, hes grown up when he goes to work and does his job, gets home and hes a big kid, that includes the mess everywhere, i have a 3 year old son and hes less of a child sometime. I love him but it wears me down :(

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Answer 2

First off, the idea that a guy who plays video games and watches cartoons is immature is ridiculous! I do those things and am probably one of the most stable and interesting people you'll ever meet, not to mention very mature.
Secondly, if he's doing those things more than paying attention to you, get used to it, because that's how he chooses to deal with things, by ignoring you and putting more time into Socom online, or Tom and Jerry than dealing with reality.
If you've spoken to him and he still doesn't get the hint, its time to find a guy who's more interested in you than finding cheat codes for GTA, and trying to remember what time Futurama comes on during Adult Swim.

Answer 3

That's not being immature, thats what he does to have fun or unwind. In case you haven't noticed, half of the video games on the market are geared towards adults, as are many cartoons.

From the sound of things, the only problem is you. Sounds like you may be trying to change him. I can tell you that he is just like every other guy out there.

Answer 4

I guess he doesn't think it's a problem. The women in his life (you and his mama) have allowed him to do this for so long, he's lost interest in the outside world and is "stuck" in adolescence! Remove the play station and hide it. Remove the remote and hide it. Demand that he spend some time with you. and then find something he will take seriously. Ride bikes, or take a self-defense class. If he doesn't straighten up, find a more mature guy.

Answer 5

Girls are known to mature quicker than boys in general... Your "official" age doesn't mean that you'll be in the same place in life. What do you want out of life? And what does he want? This could probably tell a lot about your differences.

You both might be 24, but psychologically you seem to be more mature than him. He will obviously mature as well, as everyone does. But unfortunately there is no way to predict whether he will mature at the same speed as you because there are a lot of factors that make us "grow up": friends and family influence, life in general, jobs, etc, etc... The list is endless. There also might be factors that are keeping him a "boy": again, friends and family will this time be on top of the list.


Hope this helps!

Answer 6

Take him out of his "play" environment. he associates being at home with the immature things so that's why he thinks it's normal. You need to get out far more. He may stop watching cartoons by the time he's 30 but he won't give up his play station.

Answer 7

first of all STOP!

now listen

i am 21 i am an animator i play Games and watch cartoons too i need to watch this stuff not just because i like it because it enriches my life and my imagination

you said will this get better with time ? that means you think what he is doing is wrong it isnt he acuires entertainment in this way you might acuire it in an other .

The only way this is a problem if it interferes with His responsabilityies towards you and himself

if he watches cartoons and plays games ans does everything he has to [Study/work/pays the bills/ loves you takes you out ect ect ..]

then you shouldnt have a problem with it

think of it from his point of view if he were to force you to stop somthing you like doing how would you feel?

remember that if it isnt effecting his life or yours negativly then why is it a problem it shouldnt be a problem .

i intend to play games and watch cartoons forever! [not in a way that effects my responsabilities]

Answer 8

This may be not immaturity. Bcs. sometimes a person gets so bored of watching tv seriels, news etc and to change the taste he tuned to cartoon channels. As i too am very fond of cartoon channel, and I am 35 yrs. old person. I like watching the cartoon channel from the day when my daughter 3+ has started to watch. My favourite is "That's So Raven" , "Tom & Jerry" Jetix - "Power Rangers" and some more. I like to watch these. Bcs. this makes me happy and laughter for hours. And I am a working as Computer Operator in my office.

Answer 9

I dont think playing with video games is immature... He's just having fun! Yes, I dont think there's nothing wrong with him. If this bothers u a lot, maybe ask him to compromise, like watch chick flicks with him sometimes (if ur into chick flicks), or ask him to do stuff u like... He doesnt seem to have a problem with that so I dont think it should bother u. U just have different interests, that al.

Answer 10

Women mature with age men Immature I know I am one!

Answer 11

why is it a problem he plays playstation or watches cartoons? and don't say cause it is immature - that's not a reason that's an opinion. If cartoons and playstation make him happy then he will behappy with you. let the man play, if you try and make him stop he will get mad and it will be at you. why don't you try and take an interest in his hobbies - you might like them.