Many guys have turned out to be players. They say they love their girlfriends but weeks later they say they need a pause in their relationships and the end result is - breakups! This is experienced by many of my friends and now i have a difficulty in trusting guys. I feel like although they seemed to be honest, inside they are not! What should i do?
2006-07-28 01:04:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm guessing you're pretty young, so that's going to be a factor itself.
But to answer your question, ask yourself why your friends chose the guys they did. Shallow reasons for getting involved with someone will usually net a shallow person, and that kind of result will not be uncommon.
The more careful you are in choosing a guy, and the more experience you have in dealing with them and making determinations about people's characters... the more you think about things, the more you will be able to get with the kind of guys you'll be able to trust.
Everyone is going to make mistakes early on. You can't expect things to work out for you from square one, so be prepared for some heartbreak or frustration in any case... but think! Learn from your mistakes.
Above all, don't ever judge someone based on what group they belong to, whether that's their sex, their race, their religion, or any other group they happen to belong to. People are individuals and every guy is different. Spotting those differences is what human relationships are all about.
2006-07-28 01:14:18 · answer #1 · answered by smoovegeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys have one motive: sex. After achieving this with the girl, they lose interest and start roving around for another victim. It's ok to be leary. Trust and respect are earned, not a given to any guy. Keep your distance while getting to know someone, and let him know without a doubt that you don't "play". You will be so happy you set your standards high and sooner or later will attract the attention of the right man.
2006-07-28 01:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot judge every guy like that. If you want to have the company of a honest guy, you have to make him honest and then accompany him in your life. Guys upto 25 years many not mentally matured, their behaviour and attitude will be different, and when they shoulder responsibilities in their working place or in the real life, then they will change and lead comfortable life. But they have lot of repentence for their act in the younger age.
2006-07-28 01:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by gnphyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to trust yourself to make the right decisions. second don't make others responsible for you happiness. Realize that people are who they are it has nothing to do with you. Third accept that you are deserving of a good relationship.
2006-07-28 01:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by earthmothermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to trust yourself first......... I always give someone the benefit of the doubt until they give me a reason not too...and play it case by case not every guy is a player or a user
2006-07-28 01:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by answering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before u trust a guy know him better see where he goes and does.DONT SPY guys breakup if they cant atleast be trusted.trust yourself.ask yourself is liking him right?is he for me?
meet his friends, family, everything.sometimes breakup happen because they dont trust the girl
2006-07-28 01:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by Troy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust needs to be earned.
It takes time to prove it.
So if u meet someone.
Take your time and get other peoples
feed back, so u know if the person
is trustworthy.
2006-07-28 01:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute, you don't trust guys because of the experience of your friends.. haha, thats too funny...
2006-07-28 01:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by velvet b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there as well and lost trust in all guys.
2006-07-28 01:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lower expectations.
2006-07-28 01:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋