I have done absolutly nothing, and i am called a SL***. I have a son and they are visiting every single day making me feel uncomfortable in my own home. They bad mouth me to everyone so a lot of people have formed an opinion of me just based on the conversation they have had with them. What shoul i do?
2006-07-28 01:00:30 · 13 answers · asked by Beccy Boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move far away, if you can. Limit their visits, if you can't move far away.
Or best yet, if you can - ban them permanently from your home and communicate as little as possible or not at all.
Derogatory name calling is where the line is not only drawn, it is CUT. I do not allow ANYONE to insult me and still be in my presence!!
You and your children deserve better and will be better off without these people in your life. In fact with them in your life you're significantly lowering the chances of your children growing into adults with self-esteem and a happy outlook.
2006-07-28 01:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough problem alright. If they visit you every day, they must have some reason for that. Is it just to see your son? Or is it to see your husband? Are you feeding them? Have you tried just not being home when they usually arrive? Go to the library, the park, zoo, anything that you can take your son to and just let them find an empty house? There really isn't much you can do about what other people say about you. But, if you have strong friendships of your own, then everyone else will not matter. Maybe it would help if you joined some sort of a group to get some other people involved in your life. You could join a church if you like that sort of thing, or a club of some kind. Even something like a YWCA has lots of activities that you could go to frequently with your son to get you out of the house and away from their daily contact. Get busy, is the best idea I can think of, then there will be less time for them to find you at home, and more people in your life who know you for who you really are.
The only other thing that can help is love, after all, there would not be your husband if it were not for his parents. Love them for that, try to ignore what foolish things they are doing and stay busy with things that do not concern them. Good luck...
2006-07-28 08:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Opalita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you want to treat people. Like the way you wanna be treated back. But when it comes to , where they don't give a **** about it. Then let them know where you stand at. you don't have to open the door, to let your inlaws come in your home.
Have your hubby to talk too them. If that don't wor out, let them know they can walk out the door that they came in.
Don't let them run you into the ground. stand up and defend yourself. Your human too, same as they are. Let them know, you can run your mouth as much as they can. If you sit there and do nothing. They are going to run over you like they are doing now.
Just because they are inlaws, don't mean they can go around and bad mouth you and someone else.
2006-07-28 08:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First dont feel urself less.Ask them what wrong have u done? Talk with ur husband?All u need to do is talk with ur in-laws. Next time they do any bad mouthing ask them what is the reason for them to say this to u.If its ur mistake u can Sorry n say tht it will never happen again. Dont forget to talk with ur husband and in-laws. Talk politely with them n ask the reason.N if u havent done NEthing wrong dont worry.Prove urself n fight.Gud Luk
2006-07-28 08:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by ashlesha19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters people will gosh no mater what, what i my opinion you should is not give a sh-it able what others think because really it is how you feel that counts.
Also if they are giving you sh-it in your house then tell them not to come back, you don't need that in your life. Your home is YOUR CASTLE it is where you and you alone rule.
Just remember the saying " You can do it my way or YOU CAN DO IT MY WAY!!!!".
2006-07-28 08:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Grim_Sim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband and he should solve this problem by telling them to respect you or not come to his home. And if you're home alone, don't let them in. Tell them they upset you because of their disrespect and they are welcomed to visit when their son is at home. They can't come into you home and talk to you that way unless you allow it. Don't be a door mat!
2006-07-28 08:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually, you will have to confront them and ask them to stop this behavior and until they do refuse them entrance into your house.
But talk to them first so they understand the problem. Don't be angry when you do it. just present the issue and tell them how you feel about their behaviour. then stick to your guns.
It ain't easy. that much is for sure.
And Fairie is also correct.
2006-07-28 08:05:58 · answer #7 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start laying the law down to them if teir saying that and your not likeing it and your husband is doning sonething about and its not working take it to the pollice and have a restraining order put agains them that just might bring them back to reality
2006-07-28 08:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by mattman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stop them from coming into your house and confide in your husband!!
if required also confront them and be very clear that you dont want them coming over to your house ever,you cannot have your peace getting affected like this!!
dont be sacerd or upset,just stand for yourself and make sure no body tries to think that you are weak,comeon talk for yourself and if it does'nt work,please take proffesional help!!
good luck!!
2006-07-28 08:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting them in your house, tell your spouse to grow some balls and stand up to their parents and tell the people that listen to the idiotic in-laws to kiss your ass.
2006-07-28 08:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋