i have a 11 year old daughter and my boyfriend has a 6 year old son , whom does not like to eat his supper , he plays a game at the dinner table and tells us he's not hungry that he's full all the time. the 6 yr old invited my daughter into his room to play the playstation . we informed them that it was supper time so they both came out to eat, my daughter finished her supper and like always the 6 yr old proceeded with his game of not being hungry and that he was full, to tell us shortly after that he's hungry , so i told him to stay at the table till he was finished , in the meantime my daughter resumed her turn on the playstation while he sat at the table , then my boyfriend proceeded to tell me to tell her to get off the game , that she was distracting him , but in fact she couldn't be seen because she was in another room playing. so i got offensive and stated that it wasn't her fault that his son wouldn't finish eating his supper , and why should i discipline her .
2006-07-28 00:37:53 · 11 answers · asked by Vixen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to sit down with your boyfriend and tell him why you are concerned. It is important to have meal time all together but the boy doesn't seem to want to join in. The games should be left in the room at dinner. There should be certain rules about dinner time. Maybe you both could come to a comprimise about this so there is no confusion. The boy might get upset, but if you are consistant, it should pay off in the end. Good luck.
2006-07-28 00:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by cabbiegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like dad needs to take the blindfold off and deal with his son's issues. Maybe the games need to be taken away from the child until the boy realizes that a meal is more important than playtime. The dinner table is no place for games, especially at meal times. You also might want to have a really nice long talk with your boyfriend since it seems that you have assumed the role of disciplinarian, while he throws in the towel for his child. It's not going to work if there's a "good dad-bad mom" image being portrayed to the children. Good luck.
2006-07-28 07:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Susan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing.....you're being manipulated by a 6 yr old. I would trash that playstation...put it up....kids shouldn't be allowed to play stupid video games....Stimulate your childrens minds by putting them outside...ride a bike, skate, skateboard, basketball....etc...I wou ld also limit TV watching too....HAVE them READ a book of their choice!!!
Dinner time....Who's in charge here....Right at the moment the 6 yr old is. Consistantcy in dicipline is what is needed. Dinner time is just for that eating dinner. I would let this little monster go without dinner if he plays the I'm not hungry game. If he pulls this game......let him leave the table but before he does Tell him...you leave now there will be nothing to eat later. Stick to your statement. Don't let little Johnny come back in a 1/2 an hour to eat. Make him do with out. Give him a glass of water....pad lock the frig....and Be the parents!!!!!
You're being manipulated!!!!! TAKE CONTROL AND be A PARENT!!! Remember you're a parent not the childs FRIEND!!!
2006-07-28 07:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yourt boyfriend needs to stop letting his son have the run of things when it comes to eating meals. At this rate, that kid will end up telling him where to stick it if he doesn't get this under control. You were right when it came to your daughter. Your b/f has issues when it comes to his kid and he better get a grip on those issues and show his son who the boss is. I'd tell that b/f to get his own kid under control and his kid could learn a thing or 2 from my daughter.
2006-07-28 07:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not uncommon for boys to not like real food(excludes candies n Ice cream). It is the parents job to discipline them; in this case, parents need to work together to discipline the boy, and not against each other. It is understandable you were upset because your daughter did what she was asked and continue to play, however, parents need to act as adults and discipline the boy instead of head butting against each other because of children. Think talk a solution to each other with cool heads. I am sure parents are called grownups for some reason.
2006-07-28 07:47:13 · answer #5 · answered by johndoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well c'mon, you are a woman ofcourse you are right! lol.
You are right on target here. However, I would give him a time limit of when the food has to be done by........a half hour. When the timer goes off if the food is not done...no play st ation for the rest of the night. I would stand firm and wouldn 't even discuss that with my boyfriend.
However, I would discuss the fact of why your daughter should be punished and his should not......ask if he wants to treat his son differently than your daughter ..............that you consider yourself a family........everyone together not yours and mine.
2006-07-28 07:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right!!!! I am the mother of 4 the oldest being 22 and the youngest 5, and one grandbaby. just to let you know that I have a few years of experience ahead of me lol.
good luck with the kids
sounds like his son is spoiled abit huh?
2006-07-28 07:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by puffyjo2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she finished her supper, I would let her play. He would sit at the table until he ate or went to bed. I know it sounds harsh, but sometimes you have to be.
2006-07-28 08:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
six is a hard age for a kid to stay focused...with so much stuff to do today, it's a wonder our kids ever eat...try making a deal with your 6 year old...eat atleast half and you can play the game by yourself for an hour...explain to your 11 year old that you are trying something new and give her something to do for the hour he is on the game....as for your hubby, just try to explain to him what you are trying to do....good luck
2006-07-28 07:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by kissesandhugs36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right. Boyfriend is wrong. He needs to get his child under control.
2006-07-28 07:48:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋