Been with my man nearly 6 years and we were best mates for 2 years before that, we are great together ..... however I have always had a real phobia about marriage and didn't even want to discuss it. We've started talking about it more and more and i'm finally not scared any more. Thing is, because I spent so long putting him off, how do I get him to see that things have changed without basically proposing myself?? I know he wants to get married, I even know he has a plan how to ask me and it seems really unromantic to turn round and say "OK, you can ask me now!!
2006-07-28 00:18:15 · 23 answers · asked by v_farrow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i already know that he has planned a special way to ask me when we get round to it so I don't want to ruin that by proposing myself. He is very fond of springing surprises on me!
2006-07-28 02:20:12 · update #1
Well you've talked about marriage before anyway, so when something about a wedding comes up - whether you see a wedding car, something on TV, whatever - then just say something like "I can't believe I used to be so scared about marriage, now it seems like a lovely thing to do." He'll get the hint!
My fiancé and I had talked about marriage loads and he knew I was ready for it, but he still proposed in his own sweet time, and didn't have to worry about me saying no!
2006-07-29 08:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay heres the thing with a man theres no way to really not just come out and say it there very simple people and you can try to throw hints talk to a friend of his mention it to them or just go ahead and say something like gee it sure would be nice to start settling down and give him, a big smile and hug and walk off he will start thinking and if lucks there he will ask or just wait until he feels your ready but GOOD LUCK in what ever happens
2006-07-28 00:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it and just subtilely (whatever the word is supposed to be) mention a date??? Go like "hey baby you know we've been talking about getting married quite a lot lately..." "are you serious?'' I think it would be a good idea if we get married in spring-time...? what do you think?
See, not that bad?
2006-07-28 00:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you complicating the whole damn thing, Why do you woman insist on the settle hint crap, it does not work . If you want to married him and you know he wants the same then go ahead and ask him to married you. But of course if you don't feel that your relationship is strong enough for you to put aside your pride and ask yourself then don't complain if he does not ask you to marry him, cause that would be dumb.
2006-07-28 00:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by ybzcarlos1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't tell him ! you know he has a romantic plan .... talk with a friend or a sister on the phone a lot and pretend you have not heard him ..say things like I think I'm not afraid to take the big step ..and such things or make sure he finds out . secretly ..it is so nice to keep[ romance alive the world has not enough of it these days
2006-07-28 00:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by angelica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him... i know you said you didn't want to.... but it would be a wonderful surprise for him....
Or you could ask him if marriage still means a lot to him... and if he says yes, then say that you think it would mean a lot to you now too.... then wait for the proposal....
2006-07-28 00:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the conversation, drop things like, if/when we marry someday... If you do it often enough, he should get the idea.
You could also try asking him what his dream wedding would be and tell him then what you'd like... if he sees you've thought it through he'll know you've come round to the idea!
2006-07-28 03:58:30 · answer #7 · answered by Littlegreydevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so he needs to get married at 31?? i think of it may somewhat previous due, yet any how ask him why he experience his no longer waiting, in line with risk u can help him out with this dilema. And u r definetly good approximately no longer having to enable him circulate in with u, if u experience the will of marriage first, then dont enable him convince u to circulate against it. I say tlak to him and comprehend his component, in line with risk u provides him couple years instead of four years, and definetly tell him how u experience abt marraige:) good success
2016-11-03 04:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think six years is altogether too long to be together without a commitment. I think it may be time to move on since he hasn't proposed.
2006-07-28 03:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you are ready to take your relationship to the next level. Or just buy a wedding mag and leave it laying in the living room!
2006-07-28 01:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋