Would you dump her?
When I first met my current boyfriend I said I was 2 years younger than I really was because I was scared my true age woul put him off. I am 27 he is 25.
Now we are begining to get serious...
I want to tell him the truth..but I am scared he would not trust me anymore, and finish with me..
How do I come clean and maintain a relationship?
2006-07-27 23:52:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ooh... I did this too... and had to come clean.....I'm still cringing....about it...
Just tell him, he will find out anyway.... and just be honest about your reasons... if it gets serious he will find out anyway.... passports, birth certificates, mortgage applications.....
It's only 2 years difference, I'm sure he won't mind and will probably find it vaguely amusing.... get used to the old jokes and taking stick for being older though......
2006-07-27 23:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 32⤊ 3⤋
You need to get some balls & just tell him. It's no big issue, it's not as if you told him you were a girl, when the real truth is, you're a bloke, or have you?
Either way, he won't appreciate it if you wait five years down the line to tell him, then he would have every right to be pissed off.
If you really feel that guilty, then tell him, and give him a blo job twice a day for a week, he'll soon forget aboout your little white lie!!
2006-07-27 23:59:02 · answer #2 · answered by Heatseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Whats the big deal. If you are serious with him, which means that you are getting alone fine and both of you like each other, then age is not a problem. Many girls are older than their partners, and with a difference of 2 years, that is nothing.
It is best to tell him by mentioning it causually in conversation that you were at school with a friend you meet, and she looks so different. give him your real birth date in the conversation casually , and if he picks up on it, say, thoughtful like Oh ! okay, and make a joke of it , saying you were never good at maths, and laugh with him. Then say to him, well Do I look older to you now than a few minutes ago. you look great to me, and I like you as you are.......etc etc
Really it is not important enough for somebody in a serious relationship to worry about. Do not make a big issue of it, and he will not either, if done in a casual loving caring way to him
Good luck and keep smiling
2006-07-28 00:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pearse A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and tell him exactly what you've just told us. If he's a decent guy, he will understand. An age gap of 2 years doesn't make a difference. Afterall, you have got to know each other for who you are. I don't think it will matter to him and you're probably getting worked up over nothing.
At the worst he'll be a bit disappointed that you couldn't tell him sooner, but he'll get over it.
2006-07-27 23:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down with him and be honest. if you can't feel comfortable telling him your age how will you be honest with him when major things come up in your relationship. you should apologize for lying and tell him why you did it. since you will be coming clean on your own then i'm sure he will forgive you. maybe he will even trust something you say in the future. you really are not giving him much credit by not telling him, show a little respect and be adult about this
2006-07-27 23:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should of been truthful with him in the first place if you turned him on when you two first met the age probably wouldn't matter anyway be honest I'm sure every thing will be OK.
2006-07-28 00:03:15 · answer #6 · answered by maniac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I'd laugh my *** off if a chick ever told me that. Women and the age thing is just hilarious. Of course, some guys might take offense i guess. Better do it soon if it's getting serious. It's not exactly like you can hide it forever.
2006-07-27 23:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nothing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. "Honey, I want to be honest with you. I have been keeping something from you and now our relationship is becoming more intimate I want to tell you the truth. I am 27!"!
Badda boom, badda bing. If you make it sound really serious and give it big introduction he will think you are about to tell him that you have cheated on him and your age being the lie will be a relief.
2006-07-27 23:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by vixenrules80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he thinks you are 25 and you really need to tell him the truth because trust is one of the most important thing in a relationship and hey maybe he doesn't care if your 2 years older than him hey " better now than never."
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-28 00:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he dumps you for the sake of 2 years then he's not worth it. The truth is always best though...
2006-07-28 00:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by Robbie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what.... what's the problem baby...
Rule number 1 - never lie
Rule number 2 - never lie on your age
Rule number 3 - always say the truth
;-)
Apart from that I like you... even if you are soooooooooo old
2006-07-27 23:55:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋