She hasn't worked in the 7 1/2 months they have lived with me, and doesn't seem to be too interested in working and supporting her baby. I guess I just feel bad for my grandson, at 16 months he really can't do anything to better the situation
2006-07-27 23:45:41 · 9 answers · asked by DragonLoverTX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She shouldn't be his mother, then. If you worry for his care and health, then I suggest you talk to an authority-figure about this to see if there could possibly be any real concern.
If it's okay, then let it be and don't butt into her personal life and how she mother's her child.
She should've given the baby up for adoption of she was never married. Poor little guy to be stuck with an irresponsible mother like that.
I suggest that you do NOT offer any money or a room to her again. Giving her a ride in the car should ONLY be for doctor appointments or job interviews, otherwise tell her to ride the bus.
She needs money? Tell her to get welfare. That's what it's for and there's nothing wrong with that, especially if she's trying her hardest to provide for her son.
She should go to school, get a job and her own place. Don't feel guilty. You feel bad cuz you're mommy and you love your daughter and grandson and feel bad that things haven't worked out in the best way... that's natural, but don't let those feelings make you do things that aren't in the best interest of daughter and grandson.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 23:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 19⤊ 4⤋
It's hard because you are her mother, and also worry about your grandson too. But she is not a kid no more. She has to learn to work and take care of her own respondabilities. She can't lag around on people, thinking they are going to do this and that for her.
If she is mad at you, cause she moving out. Then let her be mad for a while. She will get over it, and finally come around again. We don't wanna grow up, and become adults like we are suppose too. But we do, and we have to learn things in life.
We have to stand on our own two feet, and make the best of what comes around.
To some people it takes the hard way of getting things done. But we all live and learn, and life will go on.
2006-07-28 01:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right in what you have done. Just make sure you and your daughter still talk so you can check to see how she is doing and her child. You cant chase them out when she may not even be able to look after her poor child and your grandson will need your help as he cant ask for it. Invite them over for dinner and stuff every now and then and offer to look after your grandson too sometimes. Just make sure your daughter and grandson are fine without you especially your grandson.
2006-07-28 00:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could still do something to support your grandson even if your daughter moves out with him. You surely love them right? So then watch over them. Give them some monetary support in the form of food or necessities. I am sure your daughter will start working. You have done the right thing, don't worry.
2006-07-27 23:50:34 · answer #4 · answered by P S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iwent thru this about 10 years ago. My daughter and her 3 kids had lived with me for almsot 3 years and I was going nuts. She worked but thought I should watch the kids even tho I had a job myself. I worried about the kids, did they eat, were they taken care of, who was watching the etc. I discovered that they were getting along just fine. They had a phone and could call anything they needed something. Check on your grandson and let him know you love him and th at you're there for him. Things have a way of working out. Good Luck
2006-07-27 23:52:26 · answer #5 · answered by msjudy58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she isn't working and doesn't seem to interested in working, maybe her attitude is Mom is always around to do it for me. Your not doing her any favors by supporting her. Make her support herself and her son.
2006-07-27 23:50:06 · answer #6 · answered by tw0cl0n3m3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her the baby can stay but she has to go unless she get a job and helps out
2006-07-27 23:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Diane26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You raised your kid now she needs to raise hers. It's ok to buy him things but only if you want to. She needs to grow up and be responsible for her son and herself. She'll take advantage of you but only if you let her.
2006-07-28 00:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you ask them?? To move out???
2006-07-27 23:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋