There was this guy I used to date on and off for 3 years in high school. That's the only guy i've ever really loved. I am now going through a divorce, and my mind keeps going back to my HS days. Should I try and get in contact with him?
2006-07-27 23:43:11 · 9 answers · asked by ekj6585 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why not?
2006-07-27 23:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contacting him could cause more harm than good. He may be in a secure relationship and doesn't need the complication. He could also resent it. It's perfectly natural to dwell on happier experiences in times of chaos such as a divorce. It's part of the acceptance and healing process. Things may seem bad now, but they're sure to improve. EVERY divorced couple I know all say that getting divorced was the BEST thing that ever happened to them. It just didn't SEEM like it at first. Best of luck to you.
2006-07-28 07:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Joe E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not? What could it hurt? Try your social network, or look on a site like Classmates... if he's not married, just say you happened across his email address or what have you and invite him out for coffee to catch up.
Just don't force it... if those sparks are not there when you meet again, it's probably not going to happen.
Even if that doesn't end up working out for whatever reason, and don't pin your hopes on it, know that the "first love" sort of intensity can happen again with another person -- I know from personal experience. :D
2006-07-28 06:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by smoovegeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just try to get a hold of him. No matter what happens if he's married or taken...it's nice to get in touch with a person from your past. If you can let go (or don't have) any emotional baggage that made you (or him) end the relationship in the first place. Go for it.
2006-07-28 07:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by wheremi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still having strong feels for this guy,I say go for it...WHen you talk to him,You might want to see if he is marry...If not see if he would like to go out for a cup of coffee and talk about old times...Just do your best,Thats all you can do...I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD...
Clowmy
2006-07-28 06:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, move on in life. High school is over.
2006-07-28 06:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would never be the same - just remember that time changes people... You need something fresh and new...
Leave the past behind you and not your behind in the past!!!
2006-07-28 07:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try checking around with old friends or maybe classmate.com or if your next reunion is close... && see if he is married... if he is... friends only... && don't ruin his marriage... but if not hey, go for it... maybe it was meant to be... (try checking with the reunion committee for his number and address)
2006-07-28 06:50:12 · answer #8 · answered by **LiZZeRbOO** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST FIND OUT IF HE IS UNATTACHED?
IF SO, SURELY GO AHEAD.
ALL THE BEST.
2006-07-28 06:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋