i hate feeling this way i love him so much and i dont even think he has cheated or will but i always think the worst i guess ive always got a little jeleous of boyfriends but never like this , i know that the fact that he never gets jeleous of me has a little to do with it cause ive heard it can build relationships right?should i expect him to be jeleous once in a while or not
2006-07-27 23:41:13 · 7 answers · asked by dunseithbc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Build up your confidence and self-image. Deep down there are unresolved issues about the way you see yourself, which explain why you think your bf wants to cheat on you. Jealously is a problem, not a demonstration of affection. Take care and read some self-hep books about how to build up your confidence and be happier in your own skin.
2006-07-27 23:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he gives you no reason to think he is cheating on you then you may need to train yourself to stop accusing him of cheating. Furthermore, sometimes if you accuse someone of cheating and they haven't they get really upset and do cheat on you...and I am sure they don't want that...so the best way to deal with this is by training yourself to accept what he says about when and where he goes out to as the truth. The only way you can do this is by practice. So the next time you feel some sort of jealousy coming on, count to to 10, and then ask him where he went and what he did and then take whatever he answer is and try to tell yourself it's the truth...and even if you still feel jealous, you must tell yourself that he was honest with you and you have to accept that answer....because if you don't trust him without him giving you any reason for you to doubt him, then it can cause many cracks in the foundation of love....and the foundation of love is mostly built on trust, love, and honesty....and without those things it has a likely chance to fall apart and shatter.
Furthermore, not everyone is the jealous type...my guy is never jealous and I try to see if I can spark even a little bit of jealousy in him..but he just doesn't get jealous and so maybe since you accuse your guy of cheating a lot, he doesn't want you to feel the way he feels after you accuse him so then he tries not to feel jealous.
2006-07-27 23:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is the same way I think its closure about a pass relationship in that if they cheated on you or broke it off and you don't know why then you don't trust anyone after that and without trust that can damage a relationship. we still have a problem with that. so good luck.
2006-07-27 23:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by samshel1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST...ever heard of that? well then learn to trust....learn to listen.....if you love him then probably you dont want to loose him.....give him freedom.....test him.. dont ask too many questions act a little careless....if he doesnt start asking questions after sometime then you should seat down and talk to him in serious manner, explain him everything you feel and what you fear of...i think that is the best thing to do....
2006-07-27 23:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find if you stop that it will actually bring you more control in the realationship. And you won't have to be jealous cause he will be at your feet.
2006-07-27 23:46:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is only our own insecurities.
2006-07-27 23:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
2006-07-27 23:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋