keeping a baby away from it's father?

Question

I'm 33 years old and pregnant, the babies father has told me that he does not give a toot about me or the baby because I'm currently seeking government services because I'm on bedrest and receiving short term disability from my job, and I need to put him in the system and go thru child support, he does not want to be put in the system but has not helped me financially. I do not want him to see his baby because he has told me how he feels about us; should I keep him from his baby because of his remarks?

Answer 1

Only if you really want to. Otherwise, you can live without him ever, lots of women do that nowadays :-)

Answer 2

I had been through a simular situation with my ex when I became pregnant with my twins. He didnt come around for most of the pregnancy. I too had to go on bedrest and seek disability due to a difficult pregnancy...I was in bed for over 3 months..he changed his mind about 3 weeks before the girls were born and him and his family have been wonderful to them since (they are 7 now) He wasnt a kid when I got pregnant he was 34 years old and just didnt want to become a father yet...Hopefully your babies father will come around and your child will have a daddy. Go through the court system and obtain proper custody, support, and visitation...let him decide whether or not he wants to see the child..that way when this kid is 10 and asks you why he/she never sees their father you can look them in the eye and tell them that you did everything that you could to get him to stay around.

Answer 3

He may change his mind when the baby is born if he does decide he wants to be a part of the childs life and you don't let him you could end up with problems with the child later on if they find out you stopped them seeing their Dad. If he isn't bothered after the birth it's his loss not yours or your child he's the one who'll be missing out not you. It's not easy being a single parent from day one (I was for 12 years) but at the end of the day so long as you love and provide for your child and be the best Mum you can thats all that matters. Good luck.

Answer 4

You could try but if you take him thru the system for child support which you should because it's not your money you are fighting for it's your baby's entitlement financially. (you shouldn't deny your baby this) you are going to have to allow him visitation unless you can physically n legally prove that this man is a danger to your baby. Now you could fight hard for a peaceful intermediary visitation which could be third party supervised by a non-biased, objective person who has nothing to gain except for what's in the best interest of your baby. Stay strong and remember....you must fight the good fight for the best for your baby, even if it means your having to make compromises and sacrifices for your baby, that didn't come in the baby gift instructions booklet. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I think you should continue to legally seek child support. When you legally seek child support there is usually legal visitation rights. I would follow these but take it day by day on any more than that. Best scenario would be for the baby's father to be supportive in all aspects, but you can't force this. Just make sure you are a loving, positive parent. And remember-never say negative comments to your child about the father(you were the 1 who chose him-not the child-even if it wasn't a planned pregnancy). Let your child decide for him/herself how they feel about their father. God Bless, I pray the best for you & this baby!

Answer 6

Well, first off how did you ever get pregnant with a man who treats you like this?.....if you want to keep him away then you will have to forego any child support from him and he will have to sign a termination of parental rights. Otherwise if he pays he has rights as a paret if he chooses to use them you WILL have to allow visitation, unless he is a sex offender. The only real victim is the child they never asked to be brought into this world by selfish and dysfunctional peopl as yourselves. You both need to take a good look at the mess you have BOTH caused this child......would you want to be a child of parents like you two?

Answer 7

she will be able to. i easily did not study the total placed up because i don't like capital letters. yet besides, definite she will be able to. you're a minor. regardless of the very undeniable actuality that she will be able to attempt this, she is your mom and he or she's doing it on your sake. Why no longer sit her down and function a mom-daughter communicate about the way you want your babys dad on your existence. If she loves you, she'll pay interest.

Answer 8

give him a chance. He could just be having a hard time adjusting to the thought of having a baby. Once he sees that sweet little baby and the reality sets in, he might turn out to be the best father a child could ever ask for.

Answer 9

he is the father so he needs to help support. If he is klike this don't encourage a relationship but if in the end he wants to see the baby there is not much you can do he is the father. Maybe the shock has scared him and he will come around, but make sure he pays support

Answer 10

If you know he does not care about you or the baby,why put yourself through the torture. I raised 4 children alone,don't recommend it for everyone,but I would do it again if I had to. I didn't ask him for a dime because he knew they were his children,plus he never offered. I refused to put him in the system because I don't beg anybody for anything. I just got 2 jobs. I hate it when women try to force men to pay,(I know they are their kids),but that is just the way I am.

Answer 11

I can't believe that as a husband and father, such words are so hurtful esp when u need support of love & care now. This make you see what kind of person he is. Most impt is, live better & happier. Do not add pressure to yourself. Follow your heart, be a great mum. Let fate decide.