im a virgin, but i dont like the idea of sex, i think its dirty and filthy and of no use, just for men's satisfaction and women's disgrace. i told my steady boyfriend of 6 years tht i dont wanna have sex and he loves me alot and he said its ok, he can sacrifice anythin for me.. am i doing the right thing ?
2006-07-27 22:55:14 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why is sex dirty and filthy? Why on earth would natures way of making new life be filthy?
Women can enjoy it too...
While he says that is ok, and he probably means it with the best of intentions. Eventually this is going to but a BIG strain on your relationship.
He is a human being, with needs and desires, and if you don't want to fulfill them then fine, that is your right - just be aware that he might resort to looking elsewhere in the not too distant future.
2006-07-27 23:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by HP 5 · 32⤊ 5⤋
yes, go girl you are doing the right thing and your boyfriend is doing the right thing too. From a religious point of view, sex is a gift and a privilege to married couples and it should be done in the context of marriage. You know girl I envy you because it's a sign of true love....
Do you and your steady bf have any plans getting married?
2006-07-28 06:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jasmin B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex can enhance ur relation if done with the person u love... Dont say it filthy because it just encourage the relations of husband wife so if u r going to marry ur boy then go ahead for sex but after the marriage........
2006-07-28 06:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Pinky T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right now. Wait until you get married. Sorry you have such a bad opinion of sex. You must have some bad experiences in your past to make you think this way.
Trust me, as painful as sex is for me to have I still thoroughly enjoy it because I'm married to the man I have it with and because I truelly love him with all my heart and do it for HIS satisfaction, and this brings me satisfaction, fulfillment, love, joy and peace.
Believe me, babe, it's worth it when you are married and trully love each other.
2006-07-28 06:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't like men. How do you feel about sex with women? It's not a crime to be a lesbian. If you truely love your boyfriend you shouldn't deny him the pleasures of sex. Either share it with him or let him be with a woman who will appreciate him and give him the love and pleasure that he deserves. Good luck.
2006-07-28 06:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A virgin judging sex is like a monkey discussing nuclear physics....
"...women's disgrace...."?!
I know plenty of women who thoroughly enjoy sex, and are actively seeking it. But you have to start with a man that makes you feel good, and not feel like a rubber doll.
2006-07-28 06:03:00 · answer #6 · answered by Marianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not: you're knocking something you haven't experienced. Your bf sounds like a great guy though. If he's as patient with you in bed as he is in words, you'll probably have a great experience the first time you have sex.
Sex isn't degrading to women, it only is in XXX movies. So your image of sex is completely wrong.
But don't start having sex until you feel you're ready for it.
2006-07-28 05:58:29 · answer #7 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sex is not for men's satisfaction and women's disgrace if u think so then u r wrong...
2006-07-28 06:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Navy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking is different from other girls of your age.
You need to understand that sex is a natural feeling.
Sit back and think about why you are thinking differently??
Is that related to some unpleasant memories/incidences in past?
Is that because you have a religious/spiritual atmosphere at home?
Is that because you read it somewhere??
2006-07-28 06:11:47 · answer #9 · answered by kulkarnidg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. If you don't like sex, then don't do it! If he really loves you, then he will exept what you feel about this.
Did something ever happen to you? You see, I'm a virgin of 22, and I don't like sex! You should stick to what you feel, and don't let anybody change your mind on that! And maybe you will feel diffent about it later. Who know....
Good luck
2006-07-28 06:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r an indian n has the same prob as mine. My b.f too wants to have sex with me. but, i dont want to n he sed that's ok, bcoz he understands me,. that's ok dear, m too a virgin n dont like the dirty idea of sex. After marriage, that's another thing. after all v shud nt frget our culture. i liked u, the way u r. do mail me. babiuppi@yahoo.co.in. m waiting!!
2006-07-28 06:02:29 · answer #11 · answered by babiben 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋