Im 14 and im a virgin, and theres this guy i have known since....(forever) i really love him and my mom really trusts and respects him and i was wondering if i should save myself for him?
2006-07-27 22:30:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in yr life u are a virgin once ,once you have let it go it will never come back to you.make sure u doing the right thing by letting go of the most precious thing in yr life.but if u feel that guy is the right one for you and u think u are ready then it okay.
2006-07-27 22:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by naghtynite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let being a virgin be used as a tool for mocking you. Its a far greater gift to give to your lifelong mate than anything the mockers would have for theirs.
At fourteen, don't fixate so much on one guy. Yes it would be great to childhood sweethearts make it last till the end but you both will experience a lot of changes in the next few years. If it happens, it will take a lot of maturity and work on both your parts.
Right now, let yourself be free to establish who you are and let him be free enough to establish who he is and then you can consider each other for life partners. I mean what if you want to be a professor of philosophy and he wants to be a painter. You wind up writing advice columns for a paper and he winds up painting houses. How will you each deal with broken dreams and how will you know enough about dreams to support each other's.
All that stuff is way too heavy for fourteen, just enjoy each other's company and go about making yourself a great person and supporting other people who want to do the same.
2006-07-28 05:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are 14, I don't even recommend you think about sex unless you are capable of handling the changes it will bring your in life... Once you have sex you are never the same...so make sure when you do consider having sex that you are truly mature and able to handle it...in addition to being over 18 years old. Furthermore, if the guy that love is you boyfriend then I recommend that you wait until he is older as well...its ok to love someone and want to save yourself for that someone but keep in mind that things may change by the time you get older and want to have sex. So be careful and be sure to thoroughly think it through before you give yourself to someone....and make sure you are both old enough to handle the changes it will bring your life/lives.
2006-07-28 05:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself. You'll be glad you did. Make a list, what are the risks what reward? I think the risks will outweigh the rewards.
If nothing else think of it this way. If you were to get pregnant or a
horrendous disease could you take care of yourself? The baby?
If the answer is no then you have no business having sex. Wait until you're equipped to handle your own responsibilities!
2006-07-28 05:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Cleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know that answer. You are 14, still have a long way to go, do not cave in to peer pressure, have common sense-(most common people don't). When the time is right, you will know it, in the time being, be patient.
2006-07-28 05:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by johndoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello dear according to your age as you said in your write-top, you are not even up to an adult so my dear keep your self untill when you married to him or to any other person becouse virginity is very important dont give it up now or even listing to any person that will tell you that becouse of love, as you try to take this advice i pray that God will help you. hava a wonderful time little girl.
2006-07-28 05:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by tina c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse as it is 14 is a tender age to loose ur virginity.
2006-07-28 05:37:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun if he loves and respects you wait, you dont have to do anything right now, I lost my virginity to a boy i knew since kindergarden till 21 we dated from 5 th grade to college we split up i'm married now i wish i would have waited take your time and make sure you want what you have there
2006-07-28 05:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by brandi_23sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will advise u to safe ur vergunity till u are old enough to have sex, atleast till u are sixteen, since u love him there is nothing bad in saving it for him all u need du is both of u shuld agree that we are going to do it when we are up to the stage.
take care girl, i like ur courage.
2006-07-28 05:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by Hazee4uall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not save yourself. You should surrender yourself for the love of your life. There are so many thieves to steal your heart.
2006-07-28 05:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋