Im scared.. I don't know what to do..
2006-07-27 22:18:30 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE KNOWS I HAVE CANCER
2006-07-27 22:26:31 · update #1
Not selfish... I have Cancer too..
Explain your fears to this man. If you love him, and he loves you, then the time on this earth you share, is nothing but a number. We are all going to die, no one can predict the future or know exactly when. When we are born, we are ALL sentenced to die... Life is short here on earth... Enjoy it with him together.
Don't be scared. He loves YOUUUUUUUUUUU.
2006-07-27 22:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming he knows you have cancer, and he asked you to marry him - then you would only be selfish to say no, just to try to save his feelings if you should lose to the cancer.
However, keep in mind depending on your age, obesity, if you smoke, etc that you can also conquer most cancers. Odds are you will win this, and live. Either way, we all die and this may sound harsh but who wants to die alone? Let him love you for the time you BOTH have together. Whose to say he won't get killed tomorrow or 3 months from now? Would you not marry him if you knew HIS future might have some hardships?
Go for it girl, and while you are enjoying your love and your new husband, also kick the living **** out of the cancer. Show it whose boss, and take control of your life. Don't let it own you, remember it's YOUR body and YOUR soul. YOUR life. All yours baby, make the best of it and have faith in yourself, love, and a higher being watching over you.
Don't forget to include him in your thoughts, tell him your true feelings, and your fears. THAT is what a partner is about. Someone you can be totally 100% open with.
Walk with God but not till it's time beautiful. *hugs*
2006-07-28 05:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by Inked Fantasy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, if the love is mutual and he knows you have cancer, then go for it! HOW THE HELL CAN LOVE BE SELFISH?! tell me that, honestly. you love him, he loves you, and he doesn't care if you have cancer. Go for it! Honestly, you're probably more scared about the cancer than you are about marrying him. If you have advanced stage cancer, go for it, because you might be living the last happy years of your life, yanno? If you caught it early, do it anyways! more happy years! Just as long as the love is pure. good luck with everything, hon!
2006-07-28 05:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by High On Life 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not selfish. If you're ill, it doesn't mean you don't have the right to love, or to be loved.
But I would suggest you telling him about this, because a good marriage needs all cards open. One that loves you is always a great support in hard times.
Wish you all the best!
2006-07-28 05:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that your question is rehtorical, just you being curious...
But in answer to the situation, if the man is asking and he knows the facts then to say yes is "not" selfish. To have cancer does not need to be a death sentance, many beat it and whatever happens life is to be lived to the full. Go for it
2006-07-28 05:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he does not know that you have cancer, saying yes to his marriage proposal is not a selfish act.
2006-07-28 05:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not. Have you ever watched the movie A Walk To Remember. You should check it out. If he loves you too, I see no reason for you two to be together..to be married. You need to keep your head held high. Hang in there. You are not selfish simply because you cared to ask this question.
2006-07-28 05:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then marry him, and don't let anything stand between the both of you... Its not at all selfish. Let him know of your cancer and he could cope with you and help you with this problem... If you really, really loved him, nothing could ever stop the both of you from being together.
God Bless you and be with you forever...
2006-07-28 05:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Michael Hooter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not selfish at all and if u feel like u are , u could make him promise that he'll marry a woman after u .
watch A walk to remember and read the book too and u'll see that ur not selfish at all .
u have the right to love and get married and he could be ur angel to help u with ur days
good luck and i pray for u to become better ...
2006-07-29 08:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are not. as u say u got cancer u need to be around people whom u love and you no they love you too .so if he loves u no matter wht, l say get married and be happy u need it.who knows maybe u are going to beat this disease. if you have cancer it dosent mean u are dying. plz be positive.u no wht l no u can beat this disease.get married and be happy.l will pray for u l promise you l will. plz be happy.l will pray for u.
2006-07-28 06:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by holy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋