so me n my boyfriend have been goin out for like a year n 3 months now n we seem ta fight a lot n everytime we do we almost break up. tha thing is i kno he doesnt treat me tha best but when im losing him all i want is him back but when i get him back i start to want it to b over cuz i dont want him to hurt me ne more. wat should i do?
2006-07-27 21:49:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound like you have a very good relationship. The fact that you only want him when he is gone points towards a better mental image than he actually is.
Also you might just want him because you can't have him, and when you have him back, the chase is over and you are bored again
2006-07-27 21:53:30 · answer #1 · answered by anto687 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i faced the same situation 2 months ago. Me and my gf were arguing a lot and we hardly took the decision to break up. It hurt at the beginning but now everything is fine. He is not the only one you can love. You should open your eyes and take a look around. I am sure you will find someone who will make you happier then him(this is the same for him too) So, you are young,you r not married,then you dont have to put up with all these fights. I am not saying love and relationships should be perfect,of course there will be problems.but if the disadvantages are more then the advantages,then you should break up.This is not something bad,it will be good for both of you.
Good luck..
2006-07-28 04:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try some soul searching. Sort yourself out and try to know what you really want for yourself in life and what you truly want in a relationship.
A possiblity is that you simply want him (or the relationship) by form of habit; the usual vicious cycle of simply being in love with love (to cover up for some insecurity or shortcoming). As in most cases, we often think that other people can complete us. That is far from the truth. No person can complete you; at best, a person can only complement you or make you better. But before all that, you need (and should) make yourself whole.
A simple test for a relationship is if you do not grow as a couple or if you do not bring out the best in each other, it is time to let it go. Having said that, all relationships (be they good or bad) do not go to waste. They all serve as stepping stones to individual growth and maturity. Take heart, it is not the end of the world.
cheers and all the best.
2006-07-28 05:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is battered woman syndrome. You know where the man is beating the woman and in the end she keeps taking him back. Why women are like this I will never know.
But to the point. It already seems like you know this is not working out. The fact that you are asking just reaffirms that this is not a good relationship. So Don't try and fool yourself, you know what is right. So leave him and find someone who will treat you right. Good guys do exist.
Go find one.
2006-07-28 04:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Jon H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET THE HELL OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP! Why would you want to hurt yourself? Are you blind? He's hurting you. Your boyfriend is not a man. HE'S A COWARD! You can do way better than that, girl. You gotta realize that there are farther greater guys who know how to treat a lady right. I wish you my best, girl. Good Luck!
2006-07-28 04:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is patient, and love is not perfect, if it was perfect it would only be decption. it requires two to manage a working relationship not one do something makle it better instead of complaining complaining wont solve anything
2006-07-28 04:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Remedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...it looks like you are afraid to be alone....so be alone!
If you can be happy and all alone then future relationships have a future or are at least not out of desperation...
2006-07-28 05:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Benway 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u ripe to have boyfriend?. Love doesnt hurt.
2006-07-28 04:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by mikejolyemsegun2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over him! the moment u find someone new who makes u happy, u wldn't want him back again. make urself happy, u deserve to be.
2006-07-28 04:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by chiefbrino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does'nt show his love by now, means he does'nt love you at all. look for someone that really cares how you feel.
2006-07-28 04:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by marko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋