2006-07-27 21:44:10 · 17 answers · asked by gagan p 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes thats ex girlfrnd. sometime back ditched me badly when i needed her like anything.now when i got engaged she came back and started the whole thing.
i loved her but no more now. want to give all my time to fiance,ex. is pushing me hard to continue.........what to do
2006-07-27 21:54:57 · update #1
agree.sometime i find myself fooling myself to fill out the empty time i have. i am really playing with myself and emotions of other people too...... but i loved her and now there is nothing like that it is faded due to that incident.
at that time she left me alone and i was strugling with my life.....
2006-07-27 22:06:05 · update #2
I had the same problem...
Got engaged to this WONDERFUL guy... He really was the best in everything I've ever had. He spoilt me and loved me unconditionally...
Then my ex came back, we started talking again and became friends (and a bit more) and I know I shouldn't have allowed him back in my life but I still had old feelings for him...
Thing is - my fiance found out about it and he couldn't deal with it - I was really having problems in my life and I got all confused about everything and anything... I even started doubting in my existence, religion and all kinds of stuff like that...
I broke up the engagement and now I'm F(&$@#ed! I love him so much and he doesn't want to know anything about me - he even decided to stay in Germany.
My advice to you would be that you should tell your ex that you DON"T have any hope of EVER getting back with her and she should just give up already - and leave you alone! You love your fiance don't you? If you can't imagine your life without her, why take the risk?
You never know what you've got untill you've lost it!
2006-07-27 23:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chellie 3 · 16⤊ 1⤋
Why does the relationship have to end? Can the issues be overcome or have they destroyed the relationship beyond repair? Is there another person in the picture? We do not have enough information here.
The bottom line is that it is never a good idea to marry anybody that you are not compatible with. You both NEED to have open, honest communication and a desire to compliment each other's lives every single day of your lives. It is a two-way street and it requires a strong commitment from both partners.
If you are not compatible then the relationship is already doomed and marriage would online complicate things and make them worse.
If you are SURE that your girlfriend is not the right person for you, you need to face her and break the news to her as gently and easy as you can. You owe her an explanation as to why things are not working and why you do not see things working out.
Accept some of the guilt and you explain the issues about her which upset and bother you. Do not make her feel that it is all her fault.
Wish her all the best and tell her that it was not your intent to hurt her - things just cannot work out.
If things can be worked out, you both owe it to each other to put in 150% effort into making things work.
If there is another woman in the picture for you, don’t expect any sympathy from the decent people who are loyal and faithful to their partners.
Good luck and the best to you both.
2006-07-28 04:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by mgctouch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what? You know the answer but you want people to second it. From what you write it appears that you have moved on after your ex ditched you. If she has come back now, it does not mean that you need to change your mind, especially because she is pressing you to! You need to tell her very catagorically that the chapter in your life with her is over and now there is someone else that you wish to spend the rest of your life with.
Hey if your wife to be is broad minded and you have established a good relationship with her, then you can tell her about it and introduce your ex to her. But you must be very careful when you do this as the matter is very delicate for her. You should communicate really well and effectively, and ofcourse truthfully in a way that she will appreciate you and develop respect towards your honesty. Be sure before you take this step as it entirely depends on your fiancee's ability to take it and her maturity to understand you. If she agrees, then both of you should face her comfortably and, together, tell your ex, that you do not need her in your lives. That way you will be able to get rid of her and also she will not black mail you at any time.
Be sure to be extremely appreciative of your future wife's courage and support and love her ever for it.
On the flip side, if you think your future wife may not be able to handle this, then just be strong and tell your ex to go climb a wall. Do not be weak. She left you when you needed her most, remember? She is capable of doing it again. and you dont want that! Good luck!
2006-07-28 06:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told her you are now engaged? If you haven't that is perhaps the way to break the news. Or send her a participation to the wedding... without the address where it will happen of course!
Introduce your ex to your fiancée... maybe she'll get the point! but make sure you explain the trick to your fiancée first.
Anyway, if you don't do it and carry on playing games, you will the one alone in the end...
2006-07-28 05:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anyone a favor. Honesty is always the best policy. Ignorance is NOT bliss. You love your fiance and you have made a commitment to her. Say goodbye to the person that left you in such a bad way. Get married. Never cheat on your spouse ever.
2006-07-28 09:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with both of them because you are sooooo confused. You are doing nobody a favor. You get your priorities straight and get that fog out of your mind and concentrate on yourself. Heal thyself first before you can commit to anybody. Don't be the problem.
2006-07-28 08:53:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. Leaving someone hurts them but doingit sooner rather than later is considerably better. Do it face to face and explain as best you can. Then it's best to have no contact until you are both healed
2006-07-28 04:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Carinthia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you marrying another girl??? Then your girlfriend should be ex-gal friend and not current...chose one of them or you will end up ruining 3 lives...
2006-07-28 04:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by Deep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry Springer, Yanks make the best out of any situation...
2006-07-28 04:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by im_Ric_James_bitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell the truth.
2006-07-28 04:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Paworn C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋