Were you spanked?

Question

So I have seen that there have been many questions regarding "Spanking",I have to be honest in saying that I am not exactly sure how I feel about it.I know that I always knew my parents loved my very much and I have no bad feelings for them but now that I am a mother I am not sure I could ever spank my son when he gets older.I was spanked by my father and later by my stepfather growing up.My four step-siblings were also spanked and we never thought anything of it.Anyway your opinions would be appreciated.

Answer 1

I was spanked growing up and althoug I have mother issues in part because of it, they are more caused by her emotional abandonment rather than her spanking.

I was never abused and do admit to deserving many of the spankings I got, although to be honest some were unfair.

I don't know if I have it in my heart to spank my kids (when I have them) but if they deserve it I probably wouldn't hesitate.

Answer 2

Oh yeah, I was spanked. And I thank my mother for it every day now that I'm grown - lol.

Most of the time though, I think the kind of punishment you should give depends on the child. Some kids you can give "the look" to and they'll straighten right up, some you can just talk to and put them on "time out," and then there are the kids who don't understand anything else but a good spanking (like I was - lol).

Even though I don't have kids of my own yet, I don't see anything wrong with spanking; I'm living proof that it works - lol. If it comes down to it, I think it's better to spank them when they're kids than having to let the police deal with them when they're older.

Answer 3

Most of the time when I got spanked, i felt like my parents were doing it out of frustration, thinking i was being irrational. I have an older brother who had a lot of trouble in school. My parents would spank him to get him to do his homework. I think that it honestly demotivated him and just made him mad. Most of the time when I was spanked it was b/c i said that my parents love my brother more and would have a fit I guess. I truely believed that they loved my brother more. They thought I was just trying to start some arguement and would spank me to shut me up. I was confused and made me think even more that they loved my brother more. If they would have just sat down and talked to me to tell that they didn't instead of being violent, I would have not gotten mad near as many times. I just wanted someone to talk to. With my brother and school, if they would have found something to motivate him more then he would have loved learning. My point is that sometimes I child feels misunderstood and just wants someone to talk to. There is always a reason a child is doing something. Somethings just need praise. Look for the good, not the bad. Make a balance. Punish the bad and reward the good.. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, I was spanked. Did I like it? No, of course not (especially when my dad got out his belt and didn't fold into two or three segments. but instead left it the whole length like a whip - I only got that about 3 or 4 times in my life on my bare behind. Usually when it was with the belt (the whole length of it, without folding it), it was a really bad offense I was being punished for.

I guess I learned to keep the really bad behavior to a minimum. I wasn't a very rebellious child (well, not openly rebellious). My older brother and sister were.

I wouldn't change a thing about the way my parents raised me. I have the most awesome parents in the world, and only wish I could hope to be as good a parent as mine were.

There were no books and magazines and experts on child-rearing back then, either. It was trial and error and you knew how to do it by how you were raised.

It's funny how, in this day and age when we have so many "experts" of all stripes on how to properly raise kids, we have so many more messed up kids.

I guess that's what happens when you give up common sense and instead listen to "experts" who think they know better than all of the previous generations put together.

Answer 5

i think spanking is wrong i have 2 small boys 2 and 9 months old i rather put my older son in time out and the baby in the playpen. growing up i got spanked a lot by my mother and stepfather mostly my stepfather. i got spanked with everything from a hand to a plastic cooking spoon. so from growing up that way i refuse to spank my own children

Answer 6

Yes! I was occasionally spanked by my parents. At that time I did not like it but now, sitting back, I think it was good!! If you always provide only candy to your siblings, they will be under the impression that world is always rosy!! An occasional punishment makes them a little obedient to the age old dictums. As an young boy, he should know that there are good things and bad things.and when he does that he will be punished.More than physical spanking, what is needed is psychological spanking!!!

Answer 7

I can tell you one thing, there is a difference between spanking and getting beat with a leather belt, often times for no reason by a father with drug, alcohol and mental problems. I would offer that there is place you must act from if you choose to spank your child. I cant be a place of anger or frustration. I have heard the mention many times of how the Bible says "spare the rod, spoil the child', and that statement being equated to spanking.
I just look back and wonder to myself if my parents would have spent more time with me and taught me how to actually communicate,not just to speak, if I would have been able to understand my transgressions and their frustrations enough to try to change with them. Being hit with a belt, especially when I didn't do anything to deserve it, only made me rebellious. Due to this, I have been through many painful situations that I could/should./would have avoided if I could have only matured faster.

Answer 8

that's the one point my boyfriend and I disagree.

I was never spanked, not was my sister. Our parents make discipline at home without that, and I think it's not necessary, and I don't want to spank our kids. I think that just a little hit on the hand is enough to make the child understand he did somethingwrong. No need to give him pain.

My boyfriend say that it's no pain in spanking, and it's just to make th child understand it's bad. so I don't see his point, because I think the same, but don't want to spank.
My boyfriend was spanked sometimes when he was a kid, an think it's sometimes a good thing. But I still don't agree...

Answer 9

I was beat by my mother's ex-boyfriend. She also hit me a few times. I'm only 15 now but I still have trouble talking to her and I have since I stopped getting beat 5 years ago. The beating went on for about 6 years. My dad never spanked me. He believed in taking things we wanted away for a certain period of time. I wouldn't advise laying a hand on your children. It is wrong and doesn't make them feel very good about themselves.

Answer 10

Yep. And not nearly enough. All 3 of us boys were. I think we all went through our never gonna spank my kids phase.My oldest brother unfortunately did not spank, he BEAT. Thankfully that has been put to a stop. My other brother spanks but he gives one tap after many warnings. I plan to spank if I have sons. I think I would have a hard time spanking a girl.
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