What is love....?...where is the Love?

Answer 1

MY DEFINATION AND EXPERIENCE OF LOVE

There was a time in my life when I became afraid to fall in love.
Because every time I fell in love, I got hurt.
I thought maybe that's why it's called falling in love.
I would give my all, loving deeply and wholeheartedly.
It would be a truly emotional and euphoric experience.
I would be dreaming about the object of my affection day and night, imagining good times together, thinking of what I can do or buy for him to show how much I care.
I would feel light, energized and excited, blooming with the joy I feel inside.
Then somehow, something would go wrong and my whole world crash.

Disappointed, Resentment, Anger, Pain, Why?
Can we not love without feeling pain?
Is it really a price to pay for all the happiness we feel when we're in love?
It was only after many years of soul searching and reading inspirational writings that I realized that we could love without getting hurt.
Only recently did I understand what unconditional love is all about.

Love is one of the most powerful forces in the universe.
It is the fire that burns inside, the essence of being.
It is a precious gift that defines our purpose in life.
If we keep in mind that we can indeed preserve its true meaning, we can love to the fullest and be truly happy.

Accept the fact that other people express theirlove differently.
How do you express love?
You say "I love you three times a day".
You kiss and embrace as often as you can.
You never forget anniversaries.
You always prepare his favorite dishes.
How does he express love?
He rarely says, "I love you".
He seldom kisses you.
He forgets your birthday and he doesn't know how to cook.
But he works overtime, walks the dog, takes out the garbage,
takes you to the movies and calls you "Honey".
He probably loves you more than you can imagine.
He just shows it differently.
If you can accept that then you will have a healthier perspective of your relationship.

Derive happiness from giving love.
When you love, do it because you want to.
Just give it.
And cherish the satisfaction in having given someone something of yourself.
It's like giving a gift whether it is appreciated or not, find joy in simply giving.
Love without expecting anything in return.
Pain comes in when you demand something in return for the love you give.
You are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Love cannot always be reciprocal.
Love between two people can never be of the same intensity at the same time and place.
No matter how much your partner loves you, he/she will never fill all your needs all the time.
And you will be waiting in misery forever, if you believe you should love only when you are sure to receive equal love in return.

Love now.
The past is gone and the future is justa dream.
All of yesterday's aches and pains, as well as the loves and laughter, are mere memories.
Let them go.
Fantasies and worries are for a future that may never come.
Don't dwell on them.
Live now.
Give love now. Do it and enjoy it now.
Throw away those destructive habits.
When you insist upon yourself that you always have to be in control, that you always have to be right, that others must always please you, you put yourself in a very tight spot.

Loving relationships are flexible- Dynamic and evolving.
Leave room now for a change interaction.
Allow for new behavior and learning experiences.
When we welcome these in our lives, we open ourselves to sharing more love and affection and less frustration and pain.

Yes, you will say unconditional love is easier said than done.
Especially when we have always believed that love is give and take.
But believe that love is simply giving.
And you will be surprised that a lot of it, even more, actually comes back to you

Answer 2

Love is about connections and mutual respect. The connection is on so many levels it is hard to describe. The more connections the stronger the love.

Where is it? Everywhere. Everyone feels love in one way or another. It is powerful and all around you. In your heart, in your head, and in your soul.

If you are seeking love, be patient and it will find you. If you are ready.

Answer 3

Love is basically a need. More need...more love...no need..then u may start hating other...True love only exists in animals ..not at Human.

Answer 4

Love is caring,trust,kind,
Love is beautiful you just have to love the right person

Answer 5

Mohabbat aisi dharkan hai samjhayee nahi jaati/ juban par dil ki beceni kabhi layee nahin jaati.

Answer 6

LOVE os where the heart is....... Love is LIFE

Answer 7

get into self-esteem training and study some relationship books

Answer 8

right in front of your eyes when you least expect it.

Answer 9

READ IT CAREFULLY THEN YOU WILL SURELY KNOW WHAT IT IS ....
Love is a condition or phenomenon of emotional primacy, or absolute value. Love generally includes an emotion of intense attraction to either another person, a place, or thing; and may also include the aspect of caring for or finding identification with those objects, including self-love. Love can describe an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience usually felt by a person for another person. Love is commonly considered impossible to define.

The concept of love, however, is subject to debate. Some deny the existence of love, calling it a recently invented abstraction. Others maintain that love exists but is indefinable; being a quantity which is spiritual, metaphysical, or philosophical in nature. The views that love does not exist or is indefinable may underlie the fact that approximately 13 percent of cultures have no word for love. [1] [2] The remaining 87 percent attempt to define this abstract concept and apply it to everyday life. Love is one of the most common themes in art and often times is an excuse for " bad art". Some psychologists maintain that love is the abstract action of lending one's "boundary" or "self esteem" to another
Overview

Love has several different meanings in the English language, from something that gives a little pleasure to something for which one would die. And in contrast to the definition at the top, frequently people use the verb "love" to indicate want or desire for themselves as opposed to for another. For example: "I love that lamp," does not refer to desiring wellness for the lamp, but rather to the desire for the lamp. The word also frequently indicates elevated appreciation or admiration: "I love that artist," An individual might state.

Cultural differences make any universal definition of love difficult to establish. Expressions of love may include the love for a soul or mind, the love of laws and organizations, love for a body, love for nature, love of food, love of money, love for learning, love of power, love of fame, and love for the respect of others. Different people place varying degrees of importance on the kinds of love they receive. Love is essentially an abstract concept, easier to experience than to explain. Many believe, as stated originally by Virgil that "Love conquers all", or as stated by The Beatles, "All you need is love". Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of 'absolute value', as opposed to 'relative value'.


Types


Courtly love – a late medieval conventionalized code prescribing certain conduct and emotions for ladies and their lovers
Erotic love – desire characterized by sexual desires
Familial love – affection brokered through kinship connections, intertwined with concepts of attachment and bonding
Free love – sexual relations according to choice and unrestricted by marriage
Platonic love – a close relationship in which sexual desire is nonexistent or has been suppressed or sublimated
Puppy love – romantic affection that is not "mature" or not "true." The term reflects a bias that love between youngsters is somehow less valid.
Religious love – devotion to one's deity or theology
Romantic love – affection characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire
True love - love without condition, motive or attachment. Loving someone just because they are themselves, not their actions or beliefs in particular.
Unrequited love – affection and desire not reciprocated or returned

Scientific views

Throughout history, predominantly, philosophy and religion have speculated the most into the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. Recently, however, the sciences of evolutionary psychology, evolutionary biology, anthropology, neuroscience, and biology have begun to take centre stage in discussion as to the nature and function of love.

Biological models of sex tend to see it as a mammalian drive, just like hunger or thirst. Psychology sees love as more of a social and cultural phenomenon. Psychologist Robert Sternberg created his Triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components : Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Intimacy is a form where two people can share secrets and various details of their personal lives. Intimacy is usually shown in friendships and romantic love affairs. Commitment on the other hand is the expectation that the relationship is going to last forever. The last and most common form of love is simply sex, or passion. Passionate love is shown in infatuation as well as romantic love. This led researchers such as Yela to further refine the model by seperating Passion into two independents components : Erotic Passion and Romantic Passion.


Cultural views

Although there exist numerous cross-cultural unified similarities as to the nature and definition of love, as in there being a thread of commitment, tenderness, and passion common to all human existence, there are differences. For example, in India, with arranged marriages commonplace, it is believed that love is not a necessary ingredient in the initial stages of marriage – it is something that can be created during the marriage; whereas in Western culture, by comparison, love is seen as a necessary prerequisite to marriage.


Religious views

Love, in the form of subjective devotion, seems to have been originally understood as the proper response to idealised objective natural forces (pagan polytheism). Later religions shifted the emphasis towards single abstractly-oriented objects like God, the law, the book, and the church (formalised monotheism).

Alongiside these two objects of subjective human love (mono and poly), there a third view which recognises a state or truth distinct from (and often antagonistic to) the idea that there is a difference between the subject and the object (pantheism). Love is reality itself, of which we, moving through time, imperfectly interprete ourselves as isolated part.



Definitional issues
Dictionaries tend to define love as deep affection or fondness.[3] In colloquial use, according to polled opinion, the most favoured definitions of love include the words:[4]

life - someone or something for which you would give your life.
care - someone or something about which you care more than yourself.
In common use, care refers to a mental or emotional state of predisposition in which one has an interest or concern for someone or something. To care for someone, may also refer to a disquieted state of mixed uncertainty, apprehension, and responsibility; or a cause for such anxiety. Caring for an object, such as a house, refers to a state of attendant maintenance; or may also refer to a state of charge or supervision, as in under a doctor’s care.
friendship - favoured interpersonal associations or relationships.
union
family - people related via common ancestry.
bond.