i went to a party and was sitting on a couch talking to my friend and a guy sat next to me and shoved his hand up my skirt. i immediatly jumped up and threw my drink in his face. i immediatly left the party but the next day this huge rumor got spread around that i let some dude finger me at the party. everybody believes that now and even my older brother (who is 2 years older than me) confronted me about it. this sucks and i try explaining what happened but the person who started it is very "influencial" pleaz give some advice
2006-07-27 21:20:01 · 22 answers · asked by Veronica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the rumor has been very steady for the past week . thats a long time for where i am.
2006-07-27 21:31:52 · update #1
scratch that...more like 2 weeks
2006-07-27 21:32:20 · update #2
I think maybe you should tell him that he better stop spreading these rumors or you will be forced to tell the police. If he doesn't stop or spreads more rumors...I recommend you do..because you shouldn't have to deal with this type of BS..and it will teach him a lesson for committing an act of sexual harassment.
If you still don't want to do this, the I recommend that you tell your brother, and other people who don't believe you that you are telling the truth and if they don't believe you then they don't need to talk to you anymore...because any and every relationship is built on trust, honesty and open communication and if people don't believe what you are saying and don't support you then they are not worth the relationship.
In addition to that, as I reread your question you said you were sitting with a friend ...well how about you get that friend to support you...I mean if your friend was there with you then they must have seen what happend and if so, the shouldn't be hesistant in telling the truth.
Finally, if all that doesn't work you can always spread a rumor saying that he tried to finger you but you didn't give him a chance cuz he has an STD....and that will surely ruin his life in some way...
2006-07-27 21:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Strawberry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U made me recall a simular incident with myself yrs ago in high school. Rumors can be devastating, but just like this guy and the pull he has in making people believe his lies, they will fade with time. Remember, u r the one in control of how u feel, don't let him or anyone else take that from u. U know it did not happen and y r the only one u need to please.I know rumors hurt but they will go away, and if things do get out of control 2 be honest, I would have a talk with yr parents and confront this boy in front of his. I know thinking about talking to yr parents about this is the last thing on yr mind, but please remember this, u would not believe that our parents have been thru some of the same things we have and know where yr coming from. Also, u hold yr head high no matter what, u did not do anything wrong so don't act as though u did. Good Luck
2006-07-28 04:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by Day Lover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, a guy grabed my butt a while ago... yeah I PUBLICALY slapped him in the face... HARD, (the capalaries i burst were still quite visible 5 days later) and yelled at him for it...(yeah I'm realy realy mature when provoked) of course, that wasn't as big a deal comparitively, Maybe your clothes were sending the wrong messages, (if so I suggest you respect youself and the guys around you enough to never wear a male tempting skirt.)
But I find the best solution, is to lock all pervs in seperate padded cells wiht some food and charicature building reading materials untill they either grow up, or die. :)
Aren't I a pleasant person? lol
You could tell your parents, (un cool, but they actualy may be able to help.) or try talking to the evil jerk spreading the rumors. let her know (him? nah, doubt it) that you aren't gonna just sit around while she trashes your name.
Stand up for yourself, in this stupid world not many people will do it for you. *hugs* good luck with this.(go eat a little chocolate, it will make things feel better)
2006-07-28 04:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by uruviel_18 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a rumor spread about me that sounds pretty much exactly to that one. Only the guy in the rumor was very "influential" and I ended up dating him. He was the victim too..so it just kind of worked out that way. But seeing as all rumors cant' be like that, I would say to let it die out. They all do eventually. If you're a "good" girl and don't want the hassle of a ruined reputation, its kind of too late for that. Maybe this "influential" person who started the rumor likes that guy that stuck his hand up your skirt. I would try finding out what this person has against you. Maybe she likes him and she's jealous. That seems to be the most likely answer.
2006-07-28 04:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get to you. I had the exact same thing, but the rumours were nasty like apparently I then slept with this guy that in reality had just jumped on me and kissed me. He spread around that we had sex and it made me bleed! (yuk!!) It was horrible, because even my friends didn't believe me! In the end I just laughed it off, I realised the more I did to get people to believe me, the less they did. I just was like yeah I did and it was rubbish he was tiny. That kind of stuff. people soon realised that I was being sarcastic, and thought about it a bit and realised that it wasn't actually a likely story.
2006-07-28 07:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, i hate rumors. I can't count the number of times i have had bad rumors going around on me.
unfortunatley, if they dont' believe you now, they might never. with some people the first impression is the last impression. i dont know why people are like that but they are.
just stand firm, and stick to your story. eventually this ugly rumor will die down. until then, just keep your chin up and carry on as if nothing had ever happened.
i know, it's harder than it sounds.
2006-07-28 04:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone that is a witness to what happened and can back up your story? You need some people stand behind you and support your side. The guy is a pig in 2 ways. Good luck
2006-07-28 04:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by toomuchtime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Address this calmly. Stand your ground and say it isn't true. And of course use, the magic words "are you calling me a liar?" And I'd go with your brother and a friend and ask the "influential person" why they are spreading lies about you and are they aware of what slander means?
Your reputation is valuable, actually. People shouldn't mess with it. However, it is important not to overreact. If this distresses you, sort it out.
2006-07-28 05:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi chuck.
You know the truth about what happened and stick to that, dont worry too much because like you said they are just rumors. and within a few days or so they will find someone else to talk about and all will be forgotten.
Remember you know the truth and nothing else matters..
2006-07-28 05:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by skin&bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay calm , maintain you dignity , don,t react and the rumores will die away ,because spitefull rumermongers all ways need a new victim so they always move on to someone else and they usually end up being seen for what they are STUPID
2006-07-28 04:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋