I just met this girl (five months) who I am really falling for, but she is not a virgin and even though she hasn't been with a lot of people, I can't get past her past...what to do? I'm a very visual person - the thought of others with her, makes me sick.
2006-07-27 20:41:56 · 12 answers · asked by fevicryl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im assuming youre a young guy.I was the same way...ok Im 28 and sometimes STILL the same way.What you gotta do is get it in your head that she had a past before she knew you just like you did.Thats the way it works.We all create a past until we find somebody we wanna be with.Some are good,some are bad and people have to learn from it.Its all normal.If she didnt have a past that youre uncomfortable with then chances are that YOU would eventually be a part of her past because the both of you have to experiance life and love and if youre both new at it,you wouldnt know what you want if you dont live and learn.In other words,be strong and tell yourself that youre the type f person who can get past this "vision" of her with other people.Because you have to.If you dont youre gonna create some type of resentment towards her and she wont understand why...then guess what....youre her past.If you really dig her and shes on the up and up and you WANT to be strong enough to make a relationship with her work then you MUST realize that EVERY person in this world has a past...even if theyre virgins.Just know that its normal and believe me...one day you will be cool with it because youre more focused on loving her for who she is....not what she did before she knew you.Good luck.
2006-07-27 20:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by knuttery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved her something as lame as that wouldnt bother you. Half the people in the world arent virgins and its not a big deal. What matters is that she is with you and loving you. The past is gone and it you cant change it. So you need to forget about her past and look forward to the future. Thats whats important.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-27 20:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that you have a past too. No one is perfect. If you are falling for her you just need to remember that.Don't let something that minor ruin something that might end up being very special. Have you ever heard the old saying "don't sweat the small stuff?" It might sound silly, but is is true.
2006-07-27 20:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by erica/gabriel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever done anything in your past you are ashamed of. A past is like an a**hole. everyone has one. But if you dwell on everybody past. You will be single for the rest of your life.
2006-07-27 20:46:27 · answer #4 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that's the past. I'm sure you can be a better man than the other guys she's been with. Good Luck!
2006-07-27 20:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about her, and want to be with her, then deal with it. What she has done in the past matters, but it's more about what she's doing now that is key.
2006-07-27 20:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by dreamin delux 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there and had that feeling, just think if she has to visualize your past. she would definitely dump you!!! It just means your really into this girl, time heals all wounds
2006-07-27 20:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by WiZzArD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellmit's too bad..but if u really love her u'll have to trust her that she'll not do it again with other ppl when she's with u..
everybody has a past,u'll need to forget bout them and start to trust that particular person..
2006-07-27 20:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by alexgnot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
virgin is nothing to to with ur relationship
so how was ur past?
it has finished ,
most importment thing is she really love u or not !!
2006-07-27 22:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by eric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have issues. no matter what, any girl you get with will have a past.
either get over it, or move on.
2006-07-27 20:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋