i totally have a crush on my roommate... we hang out all the time, and talk and email often throughout the day, and i feel a hella strong connection. we are both single, and it seems like we are both seeking the same things in life. he is always tagging along with me, and i am always tagging along with him (shopping, working out, going to parties, meals, etc). so far though we have not been anything more than just friends. i want to act on my feelings, but i fear creating a really awkward situation at home. it seems like he might like me too, but i am not 100% sure. although i want to pursue it very badly, i also don't want to create drama. any suggestions?
2006-07-27 19:22:16 · 8 answers · asked by urbanguy21 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i totally have a crush on my roommate... we hang out all the time, and talk and email often throughout the day, and i feel a hella strong connection. we are both professional single gay men in our 20s, and it seems like we are both seeking the same things in life, and looking for the same kind of relationship. he is always tagging along with me, and i am always tagging along with him (shopping, working out, going to parties, meals, etc). so far though we have not been anything more than just friends. i want to act on my feelings, but i fear creating a really awkward situation at home. it seems like he might like me too, but i am not 100% sure. although i want to pursue it very badly, i also don't want to create drama. any suggestions?
2006-07-27 19:32:01 · update #1
First of all, you can never be 100% sure about anything in life....if you are waiting for 100% knowledge about anything..... you are bound to be an unhappy man. If you are emailing each other throughout the day, there is connection. If you guys are "tagging along", through shopping, workouts, parties, meals.......there is connection. For groundwork, you should know whether finding a new place to live is something feasible, or not. Because in the worst scenario , you might prefer to move, or simply live as one of the many millions, who tries for something that doesn't work out. There does not need to be "drama" about it....unless one of you wishes it to be so, and makes it so. You have to speak to this guy about your feelings, man. If he is worth thinking this much about, then he is also a man who will simply state if he has no interest. If you are doing so much together, and talking about life, through email, then maybe you are not crossing such an impossible barrier. Your problem is not different than any guy who wonders if he should ask someone to go out with him. Go ahead and ask, speak to him about forming a closer relationship...... the worst answer you can receive is no. This guy likes you, in any case.....and you have a friend there, regardless. If you question that, then think honestly, if you were the friend of someone, and liked them for who they are.... would you remove them from your life because they asked if there was a chance for more?.........nah...you wouldn't...neither would he......... do as you wish to do, guy.....the only real loss, comes from not doing anything at all............ be well...
2006-07-27 20:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by kurt h 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't recommend pursuing it, because it is just too dangerous...you'll have nowhere to hide when something blows up. At least if you live in different houses, you can spend some time alone. But realize you'll be forced to spend lots of time with him, even if you don't want to.
How long have you lived with him? I'd say, be VERY sure he likes you back, and isn't just flirting. If you can't tell if he likes you or not, he doesn't.
2006-07-28 02:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by brian_with_an_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time that you find some time to talk to him about this. Slowly ask him what is he seeking, relationship perhaps? hint in a subtle way that you like guys like him, or traits like him and do things normal partners do. I am not encouraging sex, but time where open suggestions and sharing happy and sad times together. moments that will be treasured.
2006-07-28 02:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Vearn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he even gay?
I'll assume so, since your urbanguy or whatever.
Who cares. Do it, don't....ask him, or not.
2006-07-28 02:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by i_forget_myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then become f*ck buddies and call it a day...
2006-07-28 02:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by klee0926 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for it!
2006-07-28 02:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by wmichael.harvey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him?
2006-07-28 02:26:29 · answer #7 · answered by revoltix 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get a chik dude
2006-07-28 02:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by Woot 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋