2006-07-27 18:47:33 · 33 answers · asked by john_0502000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry to say it's the children. My son is grown now, but when he was born, I forgot all about (the man). My attention was always force on my child. This is say, cause I'm sure men feel left out.
2006-07-27 18:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Zeta 5 · 30⤊ 7⤋
Ok, I feel I have to speak on this topic, especially after reading all the answers so far. To qualify my statement, I will say that I have been happily married for 33 years and have two of the finest children in the entire world. My daughter is 18 and my son is 22 and they are still both my best friends besides my wife. Now for the core. The single most contributing factor to the high divorce rate in this day and age is the misconception that the spouse is less important than the children. The previous answers prove beyond a shadow of any doubt that is the current common opinion. However, the one institution that stands behind and for the preservation of the family makes it perfectly clear that a man and a wife are to love and honor each other above and beyond anyone else in the world and this includes the children. I think more marriages have been destroyed (and thus the "family" quality and life compromised) by one spouse or the other placing their spouse behind the children in priority to the extent that they have totally neglected them. The institution that stands behind this principal is the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Anyone who denies that does not understand it and needs to study it more to get to the core of that. You can disagree with me all you want, but whether you believe in something that is true or do not believe in it does not change it from being truth. If it did, God would not exist. God does exist whether one single person believes in Him or not. I hope even one person that reads it will ponder what I have said about truly righteous relationship between a man, a woman and thier children ought to be. If they do, I have done some good in the world today for someone.
2006-07-27 19:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children
2006-07-27 18:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Caramellu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If the man is the father of the children...they should be loved equally with just as equal priority. Coming from a single mommy... my baby will always have priority over any man that comes into my life.
2006-07-27 18:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by chels21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first priority is myself, because if I don't take care of myself, then I'm not any good to the rest of my family.
And after reading the rest of the responses, my husband has priority over my children. Not that I neglect my children at all, but my husband and I hope to have a good relationship that will last after our children have grown up and are living lives of their own. If we neglect each other now, when that (happy) day comes, we won't even know each other. Also, my children benefit now from knowing that my husband and I put our needs above theirs every so often, we have to care for our relationship. So our children have happy parents, and you know the saying, "when mama ain't happy, ain't no one happy!"
2006-07-27 18:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not gender specific. The first priority for a woman or a man should be her/his children. Everything else is secondary.
2006-07-27 18:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Children are my 1st priority since they can not care for themselves. However, My husband is EXTREMELY important. A mom and dad that are living together need to have a strong relationship. We model for our children the proper interactions that a man/husband/dad and a women/wife/mom have together. We believe that we are able to give to our children best if we are strong and grounded 1st as a husband and wife.
2006-07-27 19:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by reighngstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you want to take the Best care of your Kids so if you do it right its not your man its your husband!!! and the best thing you can do for your kids is keep the family together and if its your Husband he was there 1st and will be there after your kids were given the best care from both father and mother and grow up to get Married 1st and THEN start a family 2nd
to all who said there kids are 1st and there man is second if your not married your a hypocrite unless you are a widow cause in Marriage you become 1 and if you can't care for yourself how can you care for your kids
UNDERSTAND
so the answer is your HUSBAND and if its just a man if you want the best for your kids a MAN should not be in the picture
2006-07-27 18:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most cases it is her child/children. If you ask me why i choose my child over my man, i would say...My man is grown. I have a connection with my child that I could never have with my man. My kid/s need me in more ways than my man ever would. Heres a helpful hint, put yourself in a womans shoes. Your Pregnant, you feel the baby's evrymove inside you. WHen your sad, the baby is sad. When your happy the baby is happy. Squeeze an 8 pound baby through your penis and tell me if you don't feel a STRONG connection. Not only through preganacy but when my man tells me he loves me, my heart flutters. But when my child says it... I fly away. So yeah children are the first priority. atleast to me they are. ^-^ good luck
2006-07-27 19:00:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her children. Her man is mature enough 2 handle problems himself. Children needs a mother's care and guidance
2006-07-27 18:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her priority are her children. Experience has proven that men do not give a damn about their wifes since they think they are just some commodity to help in his heritage.
2006-07-27 18:51:29 · answer #11 · answered by ngina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋