Hi Everyone!
I have a big love problem. Brother # 1 and I got back together after 12 years, but through long distance relationship only. We haven't seen each other since then but we hav our communication through text, email and chat. I have kids from my previous relationship but did not work out well. Brother # 1 was my sweetheart when we was back in college 12 years ago.. we parted and we found each other through net again. After a few months of our relationships at the present time I broke up with him through email telling him that we lack of communication and it looks like we are not working out right because he just vanished like he did not want to talk to me or even give some communication with me, Brother # 1 finally informed me that the reason he was not ready to face me was because he wasn't sure what we were feeling was true and how he doesn't know how to react with my children, that hurted me alot because before we started our relationship I asked him first he'd take me as whole package along with my children. Behind all these Brother # 2 was there through text and emails comforting me, making sure that I was doing fine. Until me and Brother # 2 was starting to feel for each other as it gets stronger each day, he never missed a day to communicate with me. Both Brothers are living in the same far country from me. Both I have not seen.
Disaster struck when Brother #1 found out and was inferior with both me and Brother #2. Brother # 1 would never talk to his brother again as he claimed even if I go back with Brother # 1. Also Brother # 1 is sooo mad at me for having a relationship with Brother # 2. Is it a SIN to fall in love with Brother # 2??? Should I continue what I am feeling with Brother # 2? Honestly, I am confused myself. A part of me doesn't want Brother # 1 back, but because my family knows about him. They know that Brother # 1's love for me is true and for Brother # 2 is tentative as they say. PLEASE HELP and GIVE ME ADVICES.....
2006-07-27 18:45:22 · 12 answers · asked by i need help!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, but it's awkward!
2006-07-27 18:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if I don't take this seriously I might say this:
Brother #1 won't talk to brother #2 again even if you go back to brother #1. That means that no matter which brother you ended up with doesn't make their relationship better or worse.
If it makes it all the same, then why can't you be with the one you love? (brother #2)
Well, it's never wrong to love anybody. You have the right to like, or love whoever. So, the answer is no, it's not a sin to fall in love with brother#2.
When I see it here, it seems like brother #1 is at fault. I mean, he's the one that's not sure about his own feelings, if it's true or not. What right does he have, since he already broken with you, to meddle between you and his brother's relationship?
Wait a minute, what's this I'm hearing about family? Please tell me why your family knows that Brother #1's love for you is true, and how come they know that? I mean, you're the one with the feeling, you're supposed the one to know best.
What I learned from relationships is that history repeats itself. It means, if brother#1 have hurt you in the past, it's not impossible that he might hurt you in the future. But brother#2 is not all that safe either. You said that both of the brothers are living in far country.
Do you think you want to take up another long-distanced relationship after your experience with brother#1?
Still, a 12 year relationship is not that easy to forget, I'm sure. In the end, it's all up to you. If you feel like your love and his love (no matter which brothers) are true, and you have the guts to maintain a long-distance relationship, I say go for it.
2006-07-27 19:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by laidbacktionist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/C4dEa
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-18 15:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't settle for less, place yourself higher than that. U don;t want to cause anymore confusion or pain in the family they already got to live with their madness between each other let them get over it while its still early don't push it any farther u don;t want to be in between any more probems u got ur own. besides the relationship wont go to far because everytime ur with brother 2 your going to be thinking of brother 1 whether u like him or not he'll always be in your life. meet other people start fresh, push that bullshit out the way and exclude from causing more trouble between family and pain, you want to be happy and free at mind and you'll never be that getting further in a relationship with brother 2. believe me leaving him alone now will be worth your time emotional feelings. take it slow you'll find someone just pray and ask god for the right one and he'll give him to you if u be just a lil patient and believe. Good luck and let me know how things turn out.
2006-07-27 19:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a sin to love brother #2 (although I admit it is a little sticky), but it was brother #2 who was there for you and accepted you and the whole package. Brother #1 will have to get over it and look into himself as to why it happened and then make peace with his brother.
2006-07-27 18:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-25 22:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a woman who left her baby's daddy for his brother. Now the new daddy is the baby's uncle. Now there's a country song and a rap song rolled into one. "It's just my baby's uncle!"
Anywho...It's confusing to everyone and I'm just the girl who checks out their groceries at the store!
Don't do it! And don't marry your momma's new step-son either! I wait on them too! It's all yucky!
2006-07-27 18:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with ur heart and its not a sin it wasnt meant to b with brother #1 it mayb with brother #2
2006-07-27 18:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_cowgirl8321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on love #2
2006-07-27 18:50:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you trying to make life so difficult for yourself. Move on, do not date brothers, find someone close to you.
2006-07-27 18:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by elskar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUND LIKE YOU NEED TO REMOVE YOURSELF FROM
BOTH OF THESE MEN, YOU NEED TO TAKE TIME TO
FIND WHAT YOU WANT AND THIS BROTHER ACT THAT
NOT GOOD, AND THERE CHILDRED INVOLVED AS WELLS
YOU REALLY NEED TO GET SELF TOGETHER FIRST, THEN
YOU WILL KNOW WHICH PATH TO TAKE.
2006-07-27 18:53:07 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋